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I'm 24, I have many female friends but have never had a girlfriend. Every girl I like (and don't like) tells me the same thing. "You're such a great guy. You're so smart, funny, and cute. Any girl would be lucky to have you." etc etc. Then why don't THEY like me? Why do girls say these things but don't mean it? I do all the things that I'm supposed to do: make them laugh, ask them about themselves, share things with them, etc. while still being myself. But not one girl has ever fallen for me. It's always "just friends." I love my friends dearly and I appreciate what I have, don't get me wrong. But just once I'd like to experience true love. I know I am capable of so much more than being just another friend to them. It's so devastating when they reject me.

2006-08-11 10:54:50 · 15 answers · asked by Mister_Shhh 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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I'm so sorry to hear that the women you've met so far in your life havn't worked out. I wouldn't say that they're lying though. They may very well believe that you're an amazing person. Smart, funny, cute, etc. I don't think they're lying to you there. It's just that there's more to it than the things you can put into writing. There should be anyways. I guess they just havn't felt that certain kind of 'attraction' to you yet. I hope you don't give up though. I've seen this question written in many different versions since I started with Answers, and yours of all of them seems to have the nicest tone to it. (Not to mention it's well written). Many of the other ones were so bitter and angry. I hope you don't find yourself feeling the same way they were writing. Good luck to you. I know it's a bummer, to put it lightly, to go without companionship, but you will find her.
Update: Just scanning up along the posts that have just been made while I was writing mine out, I saw a few suggestions of going the 'bad boy' route. Feel free to try out any approach you like... it's just I really think you should continue to be yourself. Do you really 'want' a girl that wants an asshole for a boyfriend? More importantly, girls like bad boys. Women like good men. Not saying don't try a different approach, I just hope you don't take the 'bad boy' suggestions to heart as a bad boy is exactly what many good women aren't looking for.

2006-08-11 10:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1 0

Haha, this is the classic nice guy question.

They mean everything they tell you. In their eyes, you probably are a great guy: you're nice, your smart, you're funny and you're cute.

The problem is, that while these traits are all great to have, and girls may find them desirable, it's not enough. The biggest thing that girls have hardwired into their brains to look for is confidence and social ability. This is psychology that has been ingrained since the cavemen days, and if you ever read anything on it, it actually makes alot of sense. It's the same reason why girls may be attracted to jerks who treat them like poo.

Check out the article below, it may be of some help:

2006-08-11 11:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by Alberta Sunrise 3 · 0 0

Well they are your female friends, so you know they aren't really going to like you or they don't want to change the friendship. Look beyond the group of friends, that is how I found my bf. You are 24 so you can pretty much find go anywhere and if you go out more that increases your chances of finding someone. by the way don't be devasted by rejection move on and know maybe it wouldn't have been what you thought it would be. Just be yourself. Be confident. Have fun. Good Luck :)

2006-08-11 11:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by hottiewithabody 2 · 0 0

One it's sad that a nice guy like you does finish last. So this is what you are going to have to do. Don't be so nice...what do I mean by this? You can't be a people pleaser. If you get a girls number call her in a week for that first date. On the first date be nice but go dutch when the bill comes. Every girl wants a little bad in her man.

2006-08-11 10:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

When the girls say you are "cute"---do they mean that YOU are attractive---or is it your personality. Ask one of them to clarify this for you one day.

Something's probably wrong with them. Some Girls like drama and maybe the ones youve met so far would rather experience heartbreak than a good relationship.

DONT CHANGE!!! I am DEAD SERIOUS----Guys like you start out good and then when they get mad at the "world of females"---they either turn gay or become Players.

"She'll" come along one day when you least expect it. Patience..dude... Patience.

2006-08-11 11:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by What gives? 5 · 0 0

That's great that u do the right thing because one day you will find the right women for you./well they probably don't want to be with you because u seem to perfect. and most women think that when that's how a guy is then there something wrong with you. and some women don't want a guy to do all the right things because they wanna be right about everything they think or accuse you to be doing. well i didn't get to fully answer this but contact me and i will talk to u about it. other wise get doing the right thing because your one of some or many who dose.

2006-08-11 11:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Perhaps you need to examine the way that you come off to the ladies; maybe your behavior is more friend-like than boyfriend like; they are probably reading this message from you.

Change your approach to something different and avoid the "playa" attitude by all means!

2006-08-11 10:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by JEFFAVEGRL 4 · 0 0

Have you asked any of them? some times females do not want to lose a friend in case the relationship does not work. you will find someone.

2006-08-11 11:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by liza 4 · 0 0

Sorry to hear that, I really am. They are sooo going to regret passing you by, when they are 29 like me and in a shitty relationship! They are going to rue the day trust me. What can you do? Just keep trying that's what I am going to do!

2006-08-11 10:59:02 · answer #9 · answered by doesitmatter 4 · 0 0

either they think your gay, or you were'nt blessed with the best looks. if its how you look, then find some different type of girl to make friends with. maybe someone older. older women dont judge so much on a persons looks, good luck hun.

2006-08-11 10:59:31 · answer #10 · answered by imalickyouallover69 5 · 1 0

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