I go out with guys and the guys that I find attractive and cool for a relationship, think highly of me the first few times, but then they start getting bored or something and they don't wanna date me anymore. Why is this?
2006-08-11 10:42:49 · 30 answers · asked by ljgalvan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
THAT'S LIFE!!!!!!
The guys you dont wanna date are probably rejected by EVERYONE else---So they have to work a little harder
Everybody has this same dilemma unless you are Johnny Depp or Keira Knightley or Angelina Jolie
Maybe the guys who dated you for a while probably didnt feel they "meshed" with you. --Dont chase them or act desperate.
Leave it alone and WAIT (yes patience is key and its the hardest thing to do in this game we call love) for somebody who'll really appreciate you.
Some people get "bored" in relationships because maybe there wasnt any real sexual fantasy being played out (according to them)
2006-08-11 10:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by What gives? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not just you -- I put up with it forever. Let me give you some advice that works...
The reason the guys you like get bored is probably because you're making it too easy for them. You like him, so you call, IM, find out where he is...not a good idea. Like it or not, a guy likes a little bit of a chase, and he doesn't like to feel pursued or cornered. Try to act as cool and confident with the guys you like as with the guys you don't care as much about (tough to do!), and you will find yourself attracting more of the guys you want.
2006-08-11 17:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men love the chase. Once they are sure that you are into them they lose some of that thrill and become bored, but as soon as you pull away they will chase after you. It's all about the challenge. Unfortunately you have to play the game in the beginning. Don't be too available, always play a little hard to get & make sure they know you're worth it. Keep them guessing and they will eat it up
2006-08-11 17:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by lacopperphx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At one time I felt as though I was a ca-ca magnet. I attracted every dis-functional man that's out there. I've never gone after a man. Every one I have ever dated has someone that has shown interest in me.
Maybe it has been fear or rejection. If I was to go after someone and they didn't want to date me. Or maybe it was, If I picked a loser it would all be my fault.
Being yourself is the best answer. Maybe there is something you are doing. Rent "How to lose a guy in 10 days" If you don't see yourself in any of those situation. Then maybe reassessing your choices in men, will help. Good Luck
2006-08-11 17:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by Balou 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think everyone has that problem. It's human nature-want what you can't have, don't want what wants you. I think everyone has to deal with it. But you'll know you've found the one when you don't have to play that game anymore. And you won't have to try, it will just happen naturally. And ALWAYS play it cool. If you are into a guy, treat him the way you would treat one of the ones you're not into.
2006-08-11 18:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by kt367521 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me it happens with me all the time....but when u come and think of it dnt upset urself coz maybe they're not the right person or God dont want them to notice you coz ur not worth them or u deserve a better person...believe me think of it in this way..and for those who love u and u don't..well from my experience don't give them the cold shoulder and treat them nice..u dnt know what may happen in the future but still dnt act that u love someone that u actually don't!! but dnt make them hate you as well...anyways good luck in the future:))
2006-08-11 17:50:03 · answer #6 · answered by cupcake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because you're attracted to a certain kind of guy?
I have a friend who always comes crying to me because her current boyfriend is treating her like crap and making her feel second best to his work, or his hobbies, or his friends. I've tried a million times to point out that she always seems to go for the type of guy who WOULD treat her badly and treat her that way. She just doesn't seem to get it.
2006-08-11 17:47:53 · answer #7 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with it. At least you have people that want to date you. Why not try giving some of the guys who really like you a chance. I'd bet if you would stop being so superficial you might be a little less picky.
2006-08-11 17:45:25 · answer #8 · answered by thenuge426 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some unknown reason that's the way that **** is. I don't understand it either. Then those guys (the ones we don't want) usually treat us like a queens. The others couldn't care less. Just remember treat people like you want to treated because what goes around comes around and even harder when it gets back to you. Eventually you'll get the right one.
2006-08-11 18:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by Mee Mee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably just dating the wrong kinds of guys, don't think it's anything you did. If you are wondering, ask one of the guys why he's bored and maybe you can do something? I don't think it's anything serious though, you just haven't had the best of luck, don't get frustrated!
2006-08-11 17:47:39 · answer #10 · answered by Adam G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋