Keep in mind that the way someone represents him/herself on-line is 'in the best light possible'. I've fallen in love a couple of times with women on the Internet....only to realize later that the reality of their lives was far different from the way they represented themselves.
I met one woman after months of talking to her on the net, and within the first minute of talking to her face to face I knew that I didn't want to be with her.
It doesn't mean it can't work...but there is a huge separation between the stories that we tell each other about ourselves, and the way we are in regular day to day life.
If you just want to feel like you're in love...sure...continue on. If you want to BE in love...you have to meet this person to see whether or not you are both really interested in each other.
I would suggest having a friend accompany you at least for the first meeting.
2006-08-11 10:18:17
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answered by markus 4
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Be careful, think seriously about how you define love and why you finally feel safe enough to make that declaration with a guy that you only know through a computer...could it be because he's not REALLY there and you don't REALLY have a day to day, face to face, real life relationship? You can say I love you but don't actually have to live it. Many, many people love the 'idea' of being in love so much that they convince themselves that it is what they have with whoever happens to be around at the time...it always goes something like i love him BUT he does this or doesn't want me to do that....if there is a BUT in there it is NOT love, simply the idea of it. Just browse through the question here you will see exactly that hundreds of times a day!
It's hard enough to figure out whether or not the people you see everyday are trustworthy....In your situation you also have the added complication of not truly knowing whats real, he could be telling you he's anyone and anything and you can not see anything or be involved in his day to day life enough to confirm that any of it is true. This guy could have a wife and 3 kids sleeping in the other room while he's telling you something completely different. You can't meet his family, know that he gets up and goes to work everyday, lives alone....etc. Do you have his phone number? Know the name of the company he works for? Are you free to call him anytime or the day? If any of that is NOT the case you should really question your situation. Use some common sense, what would you expect to know and what kind of access would you expect to have to a real life guy? Good luck to you!
2006-08-11 17:09:33
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answered by dappersmom 6
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Don't take this the wrong way, but maybe you are just a little lonely, its possible....I think that there is a chance that you could fall in love on the net but you really have to be careful, I mean how can you really know someone? Take your time...a good start would be to meet him in person...is that a possibility?? Well good luck and protect your heart...don't wear it on your sleeve...it is the only one you have.
2006-08-11 17:05:57
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answered by Lindy 3
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communicating with someone online doesn't mean that when you meet in n"real life" things will just click...meet and go from there NO EXPECTATION...always meet somewhere you feel comfortable and safe kind of neutral ground and take the relationship from...right now he is nothing but a pen pal and a way to pass the time
2006-08-11 17:10:21
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answered by ebubbles1972 1
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Are you really truly in love with that person, or just infatuated by the mystery and excitement of the whole thing? Ask yourself those questions and answer honestly...you'll then have your answer.
2006-08-11 17:05:12
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answered by Goddess Kitty 3
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It could happen... but just to be safe, when you meet him, take a big guy for an escort, or an ultra pig possie of friends... and date before you do anything seirous...
2006-08-11 17:03:43
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answered by Lynna J 4
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you cant love someone you have never met,you may like to chit chat on line with him but your not in love with him, go out and enjoy yourself with family and friends,and be careful who you talk to on line don't you watch dateline?
2006-08-11 17:09:13
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answered by G. kravitz 2
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wat u really love is wat he says to you online... because ur busy n dont date often ..u feel like u hv a great connection... u dont noe him.... and i think u should be a bit careful!!! hv u seen him ... or even a pic??? cuz it may not be for real... ur a bit caught up so u feel like u love him... but u cannot love someone by wat he says ... u really dont noe him... if u think it's safe ..meet him... n get to know him personally .... email n chatting dont really express true feelings... u could say a lot of things n not really mean it.... hope u hv good luck..
just be careful...
2006-08-11 17:07:59
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answered by abigail 2
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if you are in love with someone you havent met you shoud talk to him at first ok
2006-08-11 17:04:43
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answered by eleni g 1
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ma dont do it dont meet him do u kno how dangerous that is God forbid but its not safe dont get me you can find love anywhere but i dont think its safe just slowly get to talkin on the phone and see where it takes you from their you got to know him and his pass cause any1 can LIE!!!!!
2006-08-11 17:05:32
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answered by yanira 2
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