Why can't I feel good about myself for one minute? Does being overweight instantly make me ugly?

Answer 1

No, it doesn't, and it took me forever to figure this out. Now, I'm going to tell you from experience, having been all the way up to 248 pounds, that in general, men don't pay as much attention to you when you're over 182 pounds. Anything at or under this weight is fine with them. Most of your appearance is your attitude. Don't worry about what other people think of you. And if your weight bothers you that much, start on a diet and exercise program. Take one picture each month so you can see your progress. You'll start feeling a lot better about yourself, and all that exercise will wear you out so you don't worry so much about things that aren't as important. Just be yourself. The less you worry about what other people are thinking, the happier you'll feel. Good luck!

Answer 2

I hope not. I've said it before, and I'll say it again: To me, ugliness is lack of self-confidence.

The gentleman who answered that it doesn't help is probably right about some things as well. Our culture kind of turns its nose up to those who are overweight without giving much consideration to the cause of the alleged "problem."

Are you comforting yourself with food? If the answer is yes, then I believe that is a sign of weakness and the definite mark of someone on their way to mental illness and uglydom. If you have a genetic problem like a thyroid disorder or diabetes, then obviously, your options are limited.

Either way, in the end I think what makes a person attractive is their willingness to be candid about who and what they are. For, I feel, the more comfortable you are with yourself, the more comfortable other people will be around you.

Cheers.

Answer 3

No being overweight does not make you ugly...look at some of the plus sized models!However society teaches us that if your not Skinny,there's something wrong with you and you no longer have value.Men are real pigs...they think if they see a bigger girl they have to make fun of them.Nobody realizes the pain you feel when your overweight unless you've been there.The first thing you should do is realize your not alone,then why not join some kind of support group???I think it will help you feel better and meet other's in the same situation!Good luck!!

Answer 4

It does not make you ugly ... it makes you feel you are ugly ..

People are cruel and sometimes they do say stuff that does not really sound good. so you feel bad and you start feeling ugly. especially when you want someone to accept you and he/she doesnt because you are overweighed it hurts like hell.

I wont say "dont care" about what other people say .. you are beautiful in your own way .. live your life .. bla bla .. these words of consolation will do no good to you, especially when you are not feeling good about it yourself.

I wont say things like these because i know these do not really help. you will still feel bad and you may try to run away from the situation by staying aloof and in the end feeling miserable. I will say "Start thinking and Get into Action."

If you are really feeling you are overweighed, and people think you are ugly, start losing weight. it will take time but in the end of it - you will love it. the whole world would appear to be lovely and when you will see yourself in the mirror you will know "this is the best time of your life." you will feel you have achieved it and when you know you are beautiful because you have helped yourself, you will feel the best.

control your eating. do exercise. walk a lot. drink water a lot. stop having fat. after a few months, you will really feel you are not ugly.

Best of luck! :)

Answer 5

No, I think true beauty comes from the inside!!!!
I am too skinny and I have modeled but I still do not like myself most of the time, so I have to be in enough mental or spiritual pain to do whatever it takes to feel better about me and then the beauty radiates on the outside. I know a lot of overweight people. if they like themselves and are non-judjmental and secure, I do not even see the outside of a person, I just see the aura and that is what attracts me to humans, a POSITIVE attitude!!

Answer 6

Feeling good about yourself comes from inside. There are alot of beautiful women that are overweight. The average size for women is size 14. Marilyn Monroe was a size 14. Look at how the world looked at her. You need to see someone (therapist) and learn how to feel good inside. Take it from me, losing weight doesn't make you see yourself at beautiful. You still see youself as fat. I had to find my happiness without judging myself. The ones judge you are not your friends and if they don't like you now, forget them if you lose the weight. Lose weight for yourself not ever for anyone else.

Answer 7

Being overweight does not make you ugly! To feel happier, write some nice things about yourself, or good things people have said to you down on a sheet of paper. When ever you feel bad about yourself, read it. If you don't like your body, work out, or try other ways to change it.

Answer 8

not instantly it takes time...you have to let it really take a hold on you.......no look: Wind your neck in !! stop worrying about how good looking or not you are look around you get a life get involved in finding things out making things talking to people......do you always spend your days judging whether another person is ugly or not? The only thing that will make you really ugly is to sit around moping about it!!!

Answer 9

i've got to tell you, i am 51 and was fairly thin when i was younger. i had my share of looks from men. now that i weigh 60 lbs more than i use to, i swear, i get more looks now than i did then. i really think men prefer heavier women. what you need to do is carry yourself proud, body language says a lot. you will be surprised the positive reaction you will get.

Answer 10

You have conditioned your mind to think that way. Stop it! Although outside support is nice , it's ultimately up to you to start thinking kinder thoughts of yourself. Stop beating yourself up and start complimenting yourself for the good things. Takes time and effort, but deep down you know you're worth it.