2006-08-11 09:37:04 · 31 answers · asked by gh2d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I cannot breakup with him as we have a house together, were basically a small family, and we have sooooo many things together! (which to note, he could never have without me, as im the rich one!!)
2006-08-11 09:44:22 · update #1
I cannot breakup with him as we have a house together, were basically a small family, and we have sooooo many things together! (which to note, he could never have without me, as im the rich one!!)
2006-08-11 09:44:24 · update #2
In the 1st place, you can't go into a relationship thinking you can change the other person. It'll hurt, but you're better off without him in the long run. Just be careful, in the future, that you don't fall for the same kind of guy.
2006-08-11 09:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by WillyC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not saying that u should break up .. but then there is only so much u can do .. if u feel that he is not changing and he doesnt respect your feelings .. then its not worth spending time with him .. u are going to feel more and more frustrated .. imo u should have an open discussion .. and try to find out what he really thinks about u .. life is too short .. dont waste time .. get to the bottom of it and move on .. having differences doesnt mean u have to fight .. there are ways to have open discussion!
2006-08-11 16:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by outdoor2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... if u don't have respect for yourself... he never will.
u need to have expectations from urself, from ur partner, and from ur relationship. if ur needs are not being satisfied, then there is a problem. and it will not get fixed if u don't put ur foot down and demand them.. the only way u have the right to do that, is if you put your 100% into this relaitonship.. which i have a sneaking suspicion u probably do more than u should, and u never get appreciation back! WHY give to someone who obviously does not appreciate it? obviously u love him, that's not the problem the problem is, is he right for you? is he going to help u become a happy, healthy, positive woman? doens't sound like it to me. i'd rather spend time being a strong, confident, happy, and positive single woman who is AWESOME, so awesome that i need to wait until i find an AWESOME man.... not be with someone who does not validate me, who makes me feel badly, who makes me feel not good enough.
u need to take a step back... evaluate what u are doing to make this relationship work. look at what he is doing. if he is willing to listen and support and learn with you, then keep at it. but if he is neglecting u, treating u like crap, taking advantage of you, Find someone who WILL do what you need, and be what you need. you canot control others, but u can control yourself, and u can control who YOU stay with. good luck, and stop being a doormat!
2006-08-11 16:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant change someone who doesnt want to change. I hate to put it to u this way but ur bf doesnt love u. PPL who love each other treat each other with respect and care about the others feelings. Dump him as hard as that is and move on. There is someone out there who will love u for being the person that u are not a slave
2006-08-11 16:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by crazywaitress2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try therapy if you insist. But people do not change. If you insist on staying this is the best way to go. I really do recommend a long hard look at single life though!
2006-08-14 11:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with with ABBY....
He walks all over you and you take it???
Over and over and over....
why???
why???
you look at yourself every day in the mirror and see that same woman who keeps taking this MF'rs BS??
why???
Do as an old (so-called) "friend" of mine used to tell me.... "Stand up on your hind legs and fight".... "get off your knees....." Stand on your own girl ...let this guy go...
Really... go take a look in the mirror again... I know I will be...
good luck....
PS --- so what if you have all the money and you are the RICH one... money means nothing when you have no dignity about yourself... I would rather die than give away any of the dignity I have regained about myself....
MONEY MEANS NOTHING.... You mean the world... to yourself... and that is all that really matters!!!!
2006-08-11 16:46:22 · answer #6 · answered by xxxcariooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't ever really change someone. Only they can change themselves. Don't waste your time and your looks on this deadbeat. Dump him and move on to the next bloke. My mom always tells me never to chase men or buses, there is always another one right around the corner.
2006-08-11 16:43:50 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try to change him by threatening him that you'll leave him if he doesn't want to change, communicate to him too. If you won't break up with him you're going to have to deal with him walking over you. Though personally I would break up with him and fly single for a while to find yourself again.
2006-08-11 16:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me tell you the truth YOU CAN NEVER CHANGE a man so what you need to do is move on and stop letting this guy run all over you like you nothing
2006-08-11 16:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why won't you break up with him? If he is something you don't want why are you still with him? Well, you said you want to change him so that proves he is not what you want so why not do both of you a favor and break up find someone you do want...
2006-08-11 16:41:21 · answer #10 · answered by JACKIE M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋