Am I wrong in this situation?

Question

So, here's the deal...

I have been dating the same guy for a year and a half, and just so you know, we are both in our 20's, this isn't high school drama, haha. He gets jealous about things I don't understand, this is the situation that just happened:

I called him at work to ask him if he'd like to go to a party w/my best friend and her boyfriend tonight. We had not discussed before this what we were doing tonight, we both had NO plans.

He totally flipped out on me, and told me that he was too busy, and I should know that. He yelled that I should just go w/o him, have fun, and not to call him. He also said that I made plans with him tonight when I'm 100% sure I didnt. He said that I was ditching him and it was unfair.

I didn't yell back, I just said that I didn't understand why he was upset and that I thought I was doing the right thing by inviting him.

He then hung up on me.

Am I wrong in this situation?!

Please, only respectful and mature answers please, thank you :)

Answer 1

He sounds immature to me. And you must be pretty good-looking for him to be so protective.
It also sounds like he may not be real experienced with this whole "dating" thing.
If you broke plans, you're wrong. If not, he is. Not worth fighting over, though. Just go to your party and leave him alone. Encourage him to go out with his boys and maybe he'll grow up a little.

Answer 2

You totally did the right thing! Your boyfriend is over-reacting and completely off base. You're inviting him out. You didn't promise you friend that you would go. My BF would act completely differently (he would be happy about those plans). I hate to say this but your BF is being immature. You guys need to talk about this. Why is he blowing things out of proportion? Do you love this guy? If so, try to work things out. If not, move on. Good luck!

Answer 3

There is a breakdown of communication here. It sounds to me that your BF is trying to manufacture a scene out of nothing. If so, getting him to admit it will not be easy.
I might suggest couples counseling. Or perhaps you could communicate through a friend. Was he drunk when you called? If he's as jealous as he sounds, you might be better off without him.
Good luck in any case.

Answer 4

finnaly a woman that has a man in the position of her own interest,,,, see what has happened here girl ,,,,he is hooked, he is madly in love with you and the jelous is ,,he does not want to share you,,,,, hes a big fish , watch that he dont break the line, you probly dont realize you are playing him but you are and have,, just keep up what your doing ,,it seems to be working, but this is the question,,, now that you know how he feels , how do you feel about him,,, he is in the position where you could hurt him very deeply,, if you love him make it known slightly ,,,,,,,if not stop before it goes any futher,,,,,,,,,,,good luck

Answer 5

What a drama queen! You're not wrong at all, he's crazy. Go to the party and have fun. It sounds a little suspicious what he did, out of the blue...

Answer 6

From what information you have provided you were not wrong but from his reaction he is feeling pretty insecure right now...unless he has alot of stress at work, I'd say this relationship for him is becoming overwhelming.

Answer 7

I say no you were not cancelling cuz you had no plans,you didn't stand him up,so I say dump mr.comtrolling or ask him to get some mental help.This is a serious answear!

Answer 8

how many times a day do you call him? maybe he's sick of answering the phone! you should of waited until after work to talk to him.

Answer 9

u poor thing. really. u need 2 talk 2 him face 2 face.

Answer 10

no, you're not wrong, it wasnt your fault cause you really didnt know that he would react that way and that he had other plans.