I'm getting married next month what are some tips for making my marriage last?

Answer 1

Trust, respect, love, honesty, loyalty, friendship, willingness to work through hard times and never give up, faithfulness

Do sweet things for eachother at unexpected moments other than birthdays and anniversaries.

MAKE EACHOTHER HAPPY IN EVERY WAY POSSIBLE!!

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Answer 2

*Marriage consists of 3 people; God, husband and wife. Keep your family and his family out of your problems you may have. Sometimes family can interfere in a marriage and it can become a disaster.

* Communication is the key. Keep all lines of communication open.

* Keep the marriage exciting. Do different things together and have time for one another. Have fun!

* Don't bring the job home with you. It's o.k. to say "I had a rough day at work today"and talk about briefly about it but don't let the job come between you and your husband.

* Have some "me time". Being married is wonderful (I enjoy it) but it's o.k. to go some places alone just for "me time". Do things you like to do.

* Be patient with one another.

* Don't go to bed upset with each other or don't leave for work without kissing each other even when you are mad. You never know if you (or he) will return later that day.

*Pray together.

Congratulations on your upcoming marriage.

Answer 3

Two books to read TOGETHER and DISCUSS:

1) Gary Chapman's book about the Five Love Languages
2) Dave Ramsey's book about Total Money Makeover

Both available for around $10-$15 from Amazon.com

--------------Now for the tips------------

1) Don't expect a perfect marriage. Every marriage has fights. You will find times when you will find it hard to love your spouse. Learn from this. Prepare for this. Grow from this.

2) Communicate. If he doesn't know what you're thinking, you can't fault him for "not listening" or whatever.

3) Be true to yourself and your spouse. Don't lie to make him feel better. Don't lie to yourself to make yourself feel better.

4) Trust him. Commit to him.

5) Maintain some independence. Let him go out with the boys, and allow yourself to go out with the girls.

6) Learn to manage money. Save for the future, not for the now. Be anti-American with your spending habits. Don't buy things that you don't need with money that you don't have to impress people that you don't even like.

7) Don't make your arguments public. Don't whine that you're the victim, and don't whine about the argument. It's your fight. Ask for advice, but don't just ***** about it. If you have a problem with your spouse, communicate with your spouse.

8) Understand that things are going to happen. Your parents will die, you may have children, etc. Talk about how you will handle it when your parents do into the nursing home or how you will raise your children. Get the kinks out now.

9) Trust your instincts.

Answer 4

just remember that marriage is alot of hard work. always stay open and honest with one another that way you can never doubt one another. never go to bed angry with each other. Love isn't something you fall into it's something that you go through. When you are with someone for a long time your love changes it doesn't go away. Don't rush into anything blindly. Also, realize that there is no such thing as a 50/50 marriage or relationship. But there is give and take. [just my opinion]. There will always be set-backs or bumps in the road. Just work through them don't give up. Good luck

Answer 5

Good question. Get premarital counseling. Have an idea of what you are getting into. Be willing to get counseling after marriage.
If/when you seek a counselor, be careful. My wife and I were told by our first counselor that we were hopeless and should get divorced. We love each other very much. We are seeking solutions and not wanting to run away or bail out. We found a counselor who's intentions were in agreement with ours: solving our problems and us staying together. As with anything, it takes work, patience, love, forgiveness, and sacrifice. I guess that's not just anything, but you get the idea. Also, be careful of well meaning friends. They can give bad advice. Get a good book. Our counselor suggested the following: "Love life for every married couple" by Ed Wheat, M. D. and Gloria Okes Perkins.
You have to learn to communicate and give. Communication is a skill to be learned. I wish you well.

Answer 6

Please make sure he is the "ONE" cause if you have any questions in your head about this guy, don't do it. Ya ya love is so wonder ful and all but it is called the honeymoon stage, please do the right thing and think is this the one for me or is there something I can change about this guy? If you answer yes to the second question you need to get O U T !!!!!!!! A word of experience dear, please heed the warning. If he is the one than wonderful but later on when things turn sour like the milk in your fridge, just remember in the back of your head what words I have told you. To answer your question, friendship!!!!!!! it is the biggest thing in the world that you need to have with the man you are about to marry. So many people get married today and they don't think of the fights down the road. Remember that fighting is o.k. to do as long as you make up. And something else to remember is something you need to keep locked in your head. make sure you don't tell him anything you don't really want him to know. IE: your shady past if there is anything. I am so not kidding cause he will use it against you later! He may not now, and say it's o.k. you can tell me anything! Don't believe everything you hear. I have had years of experience, and I am a very good person. I know a girl that was so in love with this guy that she was so oblivious to anyones warnings. SO IN LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! she had forgotten about taking care of the single most important person, HER SELF! SHE IS NOW DIVORCED AND NOW SHE IS ASKING THE QUESTION "WHO IS THIS GUY I MARRIED? OH MY GOD!!!!!" sorry to burst your bubble young lady but take it from a person with experience, please read this letter and keep it locked away. O.K.? good luck to you my friend!

Answer 7

All of the other suggestions are good ones, but the key to really make a marriage succeed is to learn how to argue the right way. So many people resort to put downs, name calling, blame shifting, sarcasm, etc. All of these negative behaviors are shown to be linked with unsuccessful marriages.

Answer 8

Congrats to you both.

Some tips from my exposure to soceity.

See beyond the next few months.See beyond the kids you will have.See beyond their studies.See beyond your health at 50.See beyond your retirement.What do you see?

Its only your Partner who will be with you.At that age he wants unselfish care for him as you do now.Let him understand that you care about him without any expectations.Make him feel relax around you.Just leave him be himself.Let him him be dirty If he wish to.

One secret:All Men will surrender them at the earlier part of marriage to women,for a particular need.After that stage their need changes.If you miss to ID this change you will be seen by him as a person who always tries to correct him and believe me! men don't like being told how to do everything.

They listen to those only who accept them for their own acheivements.They like praises not criticisms.Though criticism can help them solve the problem , they don't like help in solving problems like girls do.

So never jump to criticise him.Just tell him know how important he is.

Men show love through physical things like buying a house or car or ring.They don't see helping each other out as a sign of love rather a sign of weakness in him.

Treat him like a king ,advice him like a minister.But make sure the Queen rules.

Long live the Queen!

Answer 9

Both of you should read "The Five Love Languages." It's short and wonderful. Not only, only does it have sound advice for making your marriage last but it helps with understanding others as well. My marriage was blessed by it.

Answer 10

This is from a book by Mercedes Lackey.

This bond, this joining, is not meant to be a fetter. A joining is a partnership, not two people becoming one. Two minds cannot fuse, two souls cannot merge, two hearts cannot keep to the same time. If two are foolish enough to try this, one must overwhelm the other, and that is not love, nor is it compassion, nor responsibility. You are two who choose to walk the same path, to bridge the differences between you with love. You must remember and respect those differences and learn to understand them, for they are part of what made you come to love in the first place. Love is patient, love is willing to compromise—love is willing to admit it is wrong. There will be hard times; you must face them as bound warriors do, side by side, not using the weapon of your knowledge to tear at each other. There will be sadness as well as joy, and must support one another through the grief and sorrow. There will be pain—but pain shared is pain halved, as joy shared is joy doubled, and you each must sacrifice your own comfort to share the pain of the other. And yet, you must do all this and manage to keep each other from wrong actions, for a joining means that you also pledge to help one another at all times. You must lead each other by example. Guide and be willing to be guided. Being joined does not mean that you accept what is truly wrong, being joined means that you must strive that you both remain in the light and the right. You must not pledge yourselves thinking that there will be no strife between you. That is fantasy, for you are two and not one, and there will inevitably come conflict that it will be up to you to resolve. You must not pledge yourselves thinking that all will be well from this moment on. That is a dream, and dreamers must eventually wake. You must come to this joining fully ready, fully committed, and fully respectful of each other.

Now you will no longer fear the storm, for you find shelter in each other.
Now the winter cannot harm you, for you warm each other with love.
Now when strength fails, you will be the wind to each other’s wings.
Now the darkness holds no danger, for you will be the light to each other’s path.
Now you will defy despair, for you will bring hope to each other’s heart.
Now there will be no more loneliness, for there will always be a hand reaching out to aid you when all seems darkest.
Where there were two paths, now there is one.
May your days together be long upon the earth, and each day blessed with joy in each other.