me and my boyfriend have been 2gether 5 years....we got engaged in march 2005 he brought me a ring i chose the cheapest in the shop but i never wear it....he has told me he is not gonna marry me no way why get enagaged i really love this one .....maybe he will change his mind we live in his dads house? have done 4 three years ok though..
2006-08-11 09:21:28 · 20 answers · asked by skinnyminniekitten 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If he says he's not going to marry you...trust him he isn't. Why don't you wear the ring? Could it be that deep inside you know it's meaningless? Who's idea was the engagement, yours? I'm afraid that you aren't really engaged. Did he ask you to marry him? No? You're not engaged. Did he buy you the ring because you asked him to? Yes? You're not engaged. And finally, after five years together he still says he won't marry you? You are wasting your time and your life. If you truly want to get married, find someone who truly loves you, respects you, and wants to spend his life with you. This one is a hopeless cause.
2006-08-11 09:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by kalischild57 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.
And the same goes for men in the sense that you might talk him into buying a diamond ring, but if it doesn't mean "a committment to love only you and a committment to marriage", then it certainly isn't an "engagement."
Sorry, but you need to move on if you are looking for committment. Be happy you found out now!!! The worst thing that could possibly happen would be for you to marry him, have children, and then find out he doesn't even want to be married.
Don't make the mistake so many women make in thinking that if you put a ring on a man's finger and marry him, he is all yours, right?....WRONG!
Men don't think like women. He is definitely playing you. The ring is just a tool for getting his needs satisfied...and you are selling yourself way short. Move on, sweetie.
2006-08-11 17:09:23 · answer #2 · answered by Saura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He will not marry you. Two of my best friend were both engaged and then the boys didn't go through with it. If you don't startmaking plans at least a year after you get engaged- Its probably not gonna happen. Especially if he told you he doesnt want to marry you. Dump him and find someone with the same personal goals as you!
2006-08-11 12:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by kermit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's saying he doesn't want to get married? I'm with you, then why get engaged? Were you hounding him to do it at the time, and he just did it to shut you up? Guys do crap like that all the time.
He won't change his mind, I'd say if you've been with him 5 years, that's plenty of time to decide if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, more than enough. If he's saying no, and marriage is important to you, then you have a pretty big decision to make. You have to decide how important marriage is to you, and is it more important than he is. If so, then you need to cut your losses, and move on, even though it will be very hard. Best of luck to you.
2006-08-11 09:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if you are in engaged you picked out the cheeps ring in which case you don't even like it coz you don't ware it. when you get engaged you are suppose to pick something that you both like and it doesn't matter the price and WEAR IT by not wearing it your showing him you also don't care. There also must be something else going on you guys should sit down and talk things though. Good luck in getting to the root of the problem.
2006-08-11 10:13:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a long term engagement.......if you stay with him you will probably not get married. And if you do, it will not be for like 3 more years. Is your boyfriend the right guy for you? Do you love him? Do you like your engagement ring? Why did you get the cheapest one?
2006-08-11 09:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well girly...guys don't always change their minds...and you can't change it for him either...You need to sit him down and talk about it. Let him know how you feel about the relationship and let him tell you his side. Why purchase a ring if you're not getting married? Some people do that just for security, but it seems like he wants his cake and eat it too! You don't deserve that....you have a life too! Be honest with him...Good Luck!
2006-08-11 09:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by Imthelittlesis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says he's not going to marry you, then that is exactly what it means. There is nothing hidden behind that statement. Move on with your life or you WILL miss your chance for a family life in the future. Someone once gave me the advice to pick up a book titled, He's Not That Into You". Maybe you should pick it up. I'm sure you'll get your answer there.
Good luck!
2006-08-11 09:31:35 · answer #8 · answered by Ready vs Not 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweety i hate to say, but i think you should move on. I doubt you could change his mind. My mom has been with her boyfriend for 22 yrs, they have been engaged for um about 21 yrs. So if he is saying that he doesn't want to marry you, then you should just let him go. That doesn't make any sense on being engaged, if your not actually gonna say i do. Honestly it sounds like you are wasting your time.
2006-08-11 16:23:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well some boys just go so crazy.may be he would have another girl inhis mind.that'swhat i think.you are lucky that the marriage did not get over and he said i dont want to leave with you.i suppose you are lucky in this way .well about the ring in a relationship does not cost no matter what .contact me at debin143@yahoo.co.uk
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2006-08-11 23:38:47 · answer #10 · answered by debin s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋