why do we women think we have to analyze everything???

Question

if he doesn't call..does that mean he's not interested..I mean..he couldn't be just busy..right...

if he doesn't do something with you on Friday night....that doesn't mean he's out with some other girl...

if he says..we need to talk about a few things....that doesn't always mean it's bad things, does it??

why do we do this to ourselves..when we know..that no..he's not out messing around..no he's not seeing someone else..no..he's not fixing to split up with you..

we drive ourselves insane with wonder/worry/over analyzing!

the real question is..how do we stop it???????????
is it in the female gene pool?

Answer 1

if you figure it out let me know so that I can pass it along to my wife:)

Answer 2

Listen up, ladies; LIFE IS NOT A SOAP OPERA!

Women also rarely can differentiate between love and sex. They are not mutually inclusive.

While guys could do a better job of communicating with the ladies, the ladies need to understand that sometimes when you ask us what's on our mind and we say, "Nothing" ... that doesn't automatically mean it's some deep, heartfelt thing we just can't bring ourselves to discuss. Sometimes, we might actually mean there literally is "nothing" on our minds.

Just understand this: Guys never want to commit because we're always waiting for the next best thing. Once we've accepted that we're at the end of that line, we settle down with someone.
It's just a hard sell for our DNA. Men are the "warriors" and women are the "nurturers." Always been that way, and always will be.

Answer 3

Yes, it is in the female gene pool, we all do it , but we wouldn't if there weren't so many liers and cheaters in the MEN catagory!! We do drive ourselves nuts but guys don't give us much reassurance either.......... I feel for you because I do it to, but the truth is, there is only one way to stop........... and that is to be heartless and don't care anymore. Just do your thing and for once make the man insecure on what your doing and why your not calling or hanging out with him on a Friday night.

Answer 4

It has more to do with the type of men in your life. Did your dad or brother cheat? Have your past boyfriends done you wrong? You have described a woman with trust issues (not all women do). It really doesn't have anything to do with here and now and a lot more to do with broken trust in the past. It is very unfortunate but it can take 10 good experiences to earn back the trust lost in 1 bad experience. This can leave a lot of trust worthy men paying for the mistakes of 1 jerk.

Answer 5

I don't think we can...plus too many women have gone through some situations with men and not analyzed it enough and end up getting screwed at the end...this is a good thing ma...you can only speak from your own experience not for everyone woman in the world...

Answer 6

If he doesn't call, he doesn't care, its not that he's busy. I think women analyze and should analyze but the problem is they dont analyze correctly and then that is when they fall into this trap. Women always make excuses for men's bad behavior. They continue to take the "I'm busy" excuse and torture themselves wondering why he says he likes you but then is too busy. Men suck and if we dont analyze things where would we be ? Men lie to women all the time, if you dont take time to analyze his words to his actions your just asking for trouble.

Answer 7

No it's not in the female gene pool, because I don't do that. Maybe I'm one in a million but if there is trust in a relationship you should not have to worry so much about what he is doing. Get a hobby!

Answer 8

This is part of the survival thinking bred into women over hundreds of thousands of years of living with men, and competing with other women for the man she wants.

Let it go. Here is where spirituality comes in as a great way to adjust thinking. You are free to choose too, and keeping this in mind helps.

Answer 9

i'm chuffed i'm no longer the only one. LOL. i be conscious of I over-learn. i'm able to take something, it does not must be courting correct in any respect, and turn it over maximum of situations in my head that it takes on maximum of "skill" meanings or outcomes. Ichronic myself loopy. i've got even began asking my pals if i'm over-thinking something earlier I respond to human beings. whilst they tell i'm, I back off from the reaction that i replaced into going to offer (whether my head tells me i'm top and my pals are incorrect-lol). i assume some human beings can no longer help ourselves. We would desire to be mis-under pressure

Answer 10

We just do it... if a woman says she doesn't she's not woman enough to admit it. We put ourselves and our men through torture. Although I am not insecure at all one bit, I always think the worst... (something went wrong on the job, or he got hurt doing something...) I know he'd never cheat on me or do anything unfaithful. "smcin728" no one said anything about insecure... ARE YOU INSECURE?!

Answer 11

I ask women that all the time and they don't know what to tell me, I guess your stuck with it unfortunately, try practicing controlling certain emotions and fears. It will get better with time and sure, if such questions come up more often.