Most people have kids by the time they are 30, I dont want to be a grandfather to my kids but I havent met anyone yet and I dont feel I'm financially ready for marriage either
2006-08-11 08:47:45 · 23 answers · asked by Leonard K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
What do you mean you are not financially ready for marriage? What if you become financially stable at 50 or 60 years old? Are you willing to wait that long? Were you promised that you will be financially stable at 35? First of all, 35 years old is not "old" to be getting married actually you are still a young man. You do not need to be financially stable or rich to get married. You can find someone that can help you grow and you will become financially stable because there are 2 incomes in the home instead of one.
2006-08-11 13:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by Shay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiancee is 38 and he's never been married. He sometimes feels like he's old too, but he also realizes that age is just a number. He is very active and is so alive. I have no doubt that he's going to be just a good a father at 40 as he would be at 30. Don't settle down with someone just because you feel "old." That person should make you feel alive and young. You'll definitely feel like it was "worth it" to find the "right" person! Even if it is at 35.
2006-08-11 10:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be crazy! It takes men longer to mature than women so I think 33 is a good age for men have children. At this age most men are finally ready to accept the responsibility of marriage and children. People are getting married and having children later these days anyway. As long as you are ready for children have them. Do not worry about how old you are unless you are like in your fifties. Then i think its too old!!
2006-08-11 12:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by PensRock! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think 35 or 33 is too old to get married. However, you may need to talk to a doctor regarding children. I heard that having a child when you're 35 and over is considered high-risk. Even though people still do it... Good luck!
2006-08-11 11:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 31 year old female and I just got married 2 months ago, and we have no kids and probably won't for a few more years. Age is only a number and you have plenty of time left to get married and have kids. You are definitely still YOUNG, enjoy your freedom while you still can. Kids take a lot of work. And you'll meet that someone special one day.
2006-08-11 08:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way! my husband is 36 and i'm 33...we have a 3 and a half year old and a 6 month old....waiting until you find the right person and to be financially secure is the makings of an amazing parent!!!! starting families in your 30's is all the norm now :)
2006-08-11 09:29:51 · answer #6 · answered by H F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More and more people are marrying and having families later in life. My sister's 30 and she's just moved in with a guy, they don't have plans to marry for at least a couple of years. You have to do what's best for you. Just don't feel that you have to have a house bought and paid for, a full college fund and retirement accounts before you feel financially ready. Good luck to you!
2006-08-11 09:05:55 · answer #7 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't say its too old to get married at all. My own mom was 35 when she had me and my dad was 43. But they didn't really get married til i was like around 4 years old. I say whenever you find the right person you won't feel old in the least, you'll be in so much love with her that that'll be your biggest concern. As for the fianancial thing, I really don't blame you. Because nowadays the economy is very bad and we can just barely support ourselves.
2006-08-11 09:09:22 · answer #8 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that it's a smarter thing to be prepared for the changes in your life than to just let them happen to you. Life is not about what everyone else has done, it's about what's right for you and the person you want to spend your life with. 33 is not that old nor is 35. Don't try to push things along, they'll happen in perfect time and in perfect order as they should. Don't lose sleep over your age, just let things flow and be the best person you can be. Things will work out.
2006-08-11 10:19:37 · answer #9 · answered by kalischild57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couples are marrying & having children older than what the norm used to be. So you're child won't be the ony one.
And starting a family when you're ready, is far better then going by someone elses' standards. You'll be just fine.
Good Luck!
2006-08-11 08:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋