Can you give me some tips, I am a first time bridesmaid?

Question

I'm a first time bridesmaid and I want to do all the is expected and more. Could you tell me from your personal experience what your bridesmaid tips are?( Please don't tell me to look up a website, I thought of that already...)

Answer 1

I just got married 2 weeks ago, and I had four bridesmaids. They were all so much help with our wedding. As a bridesmaid, you are responsible for being a good friend to the bride. She will need lots of help with planning and little things to do, so you should just keep in weekly contact with her and ask what you can do to help. She will definately need it, but might hesitate to ask; therefore be prepared to offer help! You are also responsible for dress shopping with the bride and other attendants and are resonsible for paying for your dress, shoes, hair and make-up. The maid-of-honor is typically the host for the bridal shower, but at mine they 4 all threw the shower and lingerie shower. We had a lingerie shower instead of a bachelorette shower. On the day of the wedding, you are responsible for keeping the bride busy and calm, and making sure everything is ready. Good luck!

Answer 2

I've been a bridesmaid three times, a maid of honor, and a bride! First, the bridesmaids are expected to buy their dress and any accessories. If the bride asks for their input on the dress she likes, then give it. Otherwise, the bride chooses the bridesmaids color. No, it won't look good on you. No, you'll never, ever wear it again. Yes, you will probably need alterations. Suck it up, and don't be the only bridesmaid proclaiming that you hate the dress while the rest say they love it.

Next, you help out with whatever the bride needs help with. Making favors, assembling programs, decorating the reception site, even interviewing and finding vendors.

Also, you will help plan the shower and bachelorette party. The shower is usually the maid of honor's responsiblity, and she'll probably need help with it. All bridesmaids should contribute to paying for the shower, but don't be surprised if a mom pitches in. You need to attend the shower and bring a gift. The bachelorette party needs to be planned, but anyone can do this. Again, you will help pay for it, even if you aren't hosting it.

And most importantly, remember that your friend will probably become a bridezilla, but your normal friend will return after the wedding. While planning the wedding, she will be under huge amounts of stress. Don't make her stress worse.

Best of luck!

Answer 3

You're financially responsible for purchasing your own dress, shoes, makeup, hair, jewelry, etc, for the wedding, although some brides will gift the jewelry so that it all matches. You're also responsible for your own travel arrangements. You should be available for fittings for the dress, etc. Aside from that, you're basically a support. The bride may ask you to help stuff favor bags, or assemble invites, etc. The maid of honor, along with bridesmaids are responsible for hosting a shower, so offer help with that as well. On a personal note, remember that although the bride is obviously a good friend of yours, she's going through a very stressful time in her life. All she's thinking about is her wedding. This is a good time to be a good friend, let her unload whenever she needs to. Call her regularly, if you see she's letting it all get to her, maybe take her to lunch, etc. Just be a good friend. Good luck and best wishes!

Answer 4

Well, being a bridesmaid means you should take responsibility of paying for the shoes, dress and wedding prep for yourself that may include hair/makeup.

Your obligation also includes participating in the shower and bachelorette party. The maid of honor may ask bridesmaid to help out with it.

The most important job of the bridesmaid is to listen to the bride when she needs to vent. Also give her advice when she goes dress shopping. And help out if she asks.

Answer 5

You're not expected to do much more than purchase your dress and such, and generally be a supportive friend. You're not the bride's servant or anything. You also may co-host a shower or bachelorette party with the other bridesmaids, if you volunteer to do so.

Answer 6

I've only been maid of honor and that's the biggest responsibility...but sometimes the bridesmaid can't always be there. Suggestions are to keep in contact with the bride to see if she needs help with anything - shopping for her gown, going to her fitting appointments, searching for flowers, dj's, invitations, the bridal shower....ummm - try to remember that this is going to be her day she's been dreaming of. she may get cranky and b**chy, just let it roll off your back. remind her that this is HER day, and she'll receive a ton of suggestions of what to do and what not to do, if she tries to please everyone she will go insane and wind up eloping! good luck!

Answer 7

It totally depends on the type of bride she is -- if she is a very needy and all about her, bride....look out -- you are now going to be her personal b#@!h.....if she is very down to earth, than you are in luck -- call and ask if she needs help (but don't hound her either - she also has a lot to do)...you may just have to pick up a few things or remind her to pick certain things up on certain dates. Other than that, just have fun!!

Answer 8

My only advice is to do as many things as you can for the bride! Plan surprise parties (engagement, girls night, bachelorette...etc) It is fun for the bride to be celebrated and to know that her bridesmaids care enough to do things for her.

Answer 9

ask to be told wat to do by the bride or go to a rehursle i was like 10 and i didnt know wen us bridesmaids had to sit down so i was at the front behind the couple for half the service lol

Answer 10

i don't know either i am to be a first time bridesmaid as well in October. when you find out could you tell me?