I am 28. My ex GF is 27. I live in Phx she lives in Miami. We were together 4 mos b4 we both moved. I moved for work and she moved to go to fashion school. She is very determined to be successful in fashion. I need my career as well but we always said that we will be together in the end. We tried to make it work but her living in South Beach and me so far away made me nervous. As much as she loved me it pushed her away because I worried too much. She told me that I needed to back off a bit and just relax. I tried but I didnt want a break.. A break to me meant that we were done and that thought killed me. She always assured me I was the ONE and that we clicked on every level but she couldnt deal with the constant calls.. I totally understand. Well a week ago she told me she doesnt have feelings for me anymore. This was a week after she told me why she loves me so much but just can't do it now b/c of how busy she is. Should I just let her go? Will she come back?
2006-08-11 08:38:23 · 9 answers · asked by onthedlyoshi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You didn't give her space when she needed it and now she wants to drive you away, maybe she does love you, but she really needs a break right now. You have to give her a chance to be by herself and to miss you. Let her go for a while, it's her decision, she could come back, but you need to give her time.
2006-08-11 08:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by interpreters_are_hot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT SOUNDS LIKE YOUR LIFE HAS TAKEN YOU BOTH IN DIF. DIRECTIONS. I WOULD GIVE HER SOME SPACE AND ON A FRIEND LEVEL MAYBE IN A CPL OF WEEKS CALL AND SEE HOW SHES DOING. DONT BE PUSHY AND DONT BLOW HER PHONE UP. SHE IS PROBALY MEETING NEW PEOPLE AND NEEDS TO EXPLORE OTHER RELATIONSHIPS. DONT GET UPSET IF SHE DOESNT ANSWER, LEAVE A SHORT SWEET MSG. IT WILL PUT YOU IN HER HEAD AND THOUGHTS. SHES CURIOUS IM SURE WITH WHAT YOUVE BEEN DOING WITH YOUR SPARE TIME ALSO. REM. THOUGH ITS NEVER GOOD TO TALK ABOUT NEW RELATIONSHIPS SO SOON WITH AN EX. IT ONLY HURTS, SO KEEP YOUR CONVERSATION SHORT AND TO THE POINT. AND START LIVING, YOUR IN A NEW PLACE NOW, CAREER AND EMOTIONALLY, ENJOY LIFE, GOD PUT YOU ALL IN THOSE 2 DIF PLACES FOR A REASON. TRY TO FIND OUT WHAT IT IS.
2006-08-11 15:48:37 · answer #2 · answered by shaealize77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes let her go for now. If she really is the one she will come back to you in the end, but if not then it just wasn't meant to be. I know its heartbreaking, I've been there before. You feel like you could never meet anyone as perfect or compatible as her, but I promise, there are PLENTY of fish in the sea. If things are meant to be they will happen as they should. Don't try and pull her towards you it will only push her farther away. Just let her have her space for now and see what happens.
2006-08-11 15:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by kt367521 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a great guy who will make some woman very happy. Considering the different locations you live in and the fact that your girlfriend is busy with school will make this relationship very difficult to continue. I think you should both go on with your separate lives.
2006-08-11 15:48:05 · answer #4 · answered by Izzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 months isn't a very long time. It doesn't sound like you had a chance to build a very strong relationship before you moved.
I'd say to let go. If it was meant to be, it will.
2006-08-11 15:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to focus on your career and let her focus on hers. if you guys find your way back to each other in the future then maybe you guys have a chance.
2006-08-11 15:47:10 · answer #6 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa buddy. that sux.
i think you should try and date otehrs. she is either playing mind games, trying to keep you around in case her thing in miami dont work out.
sorry, but LD relations dont work
2006-08-11 15:41:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i answered this before-and i am over 24-its true too
2006-08-11 15:43:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go.
2006-08-11 15:55:11 · answer #9 · answered by candidworker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋