why does being teased/made fun of hurt so bad?

Question

i don't mean cute-sy teasing or playful teasing. i mean out of the blue name calling, pushing, etc etc.

Answer 1

Because its rude. Don't worry, twenty years from now the person teasing you will be living in a trailer park with a spouse with no teeth (mine did!!)
Stay strong and don't give in to it. Print this and keep it with you!!!

Answer 2

Because it is an attack - and being attacked, whether it is physically, mentally or verbally causes pain. It partially comes from our own insecurities, because we think we know ourselves so well, and we know all our deficiencies, that when someone points them out, it hurts.

One way to start "toughening up" is to start a journal of you. Each day put down three short statements about yourself. The rules are that each statement must be positive, must be true and must be about things you do or about things that you are. For example, I can change a car's oil. I am a nice person. I can read. Those are positive things that are true about what I am and what I can do.

Try it for a week. If you cannot think of anything new one day, go back and re-read what you have already written and copy three that you have said before.

Like I said, we think we know ourselves - but we remember the negatives first. This journal will remind you of all the positives about you, which may make the teasing easier to take. Remember, laughing at the teasers - for no good reason - may confuse them when they are trying to tease you.

Answer 3

Because you are aware of the fact that they are deliberately hurting you. Stay away from people who treat you like that.

Anyone who is actually teasing you will stop and apologize when they realize they have hurt your feelings. And, they won't do it again. Someone who delights in causing you pain is just more turned on when they know they have and can hurt you.

Make some new friends. Keep you chin up. Good luck.

Answer 4

Words do hurt! People say "sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me" That isn't true. Sticks and stones will break your bones, but they will heal. The wound that words cause, can be so deep that they may never heal. Keep that in mind, next time you feel the urge to tease or make fun of someone.

Answer 5

Humans are social animals. Early on in human society we literally depended on each other for survival. Mentalities which cemented our bonds, ensureed survival.

Now that we do not need to depend on each other to survive, and are instead in a position of "plenty" the focus is on being "choosey" with whom we associate, not being "inclusive" our minds have not evolved a robustness to cope with the new societal norms.

Probably why we have such high suicide rates.

Good question

Answer 6

Because you're sensitive and people are preying on your vulnerability. As much as you want to cry or get angry, try to keep cool and don't react to them--that's what they want! I'm not saying don't have feelings--I know it's stupid to try to repress your emotions and self-destructive. But if they want a response, foil them and don't give them what they want! Part of your responsibility as a sensitive person is to develop good self-esteem and realize that you can deal with a$$holes and not get dragged down into their garbage. I know that the people making fun of you aren't being responsible--they should learn to be kind and not hurt people's feelings. But just because they're irresponsible doesn't mean you should slack up on what you need to do. You have to learn to protect yourself without putting up walls that keep good people out of your life.

We sensitive people have to stand up for ourselves--we serve an important purpose in the world, but we can't do what needs to be done if we get bogged down in criticism and feeling hopeless. So stand up for yourself! There are a lot of things in the world that hurt us every day, but we have to deal with injustice instead of letting it destroy us. Stay strong! You're an important person! And even if people say otherwise, tell yourself that every day. It may sound corny, but corny people get big things done.

Answer 7

It sucks being made fun of. I think people want a reaction out of you.

The best thing to do is to let it flow past you. If it doesn't upset you, then they failed.

When I read, "Journey to Ixtlan" by Carlos Casteneda, I learned to drop my "Self importance" and enjoy the world. So what if somebody thinks I'm a loser, there's more to life than what someone thinks of you.

Answer 8

Everyone wants to be excepted for who they are by everybody....... we are sensative people.... guys and girls.... and if you know how it feels to be hurt that way......... then I don't ever suggest you do it. I wasn't teased and made fun of, except by the boys that wanted to do me and I wasn't going there no matter how popular they were!!!!!!!! I never made fun of anyone....... I believe we should get along and care about eachother always....... life is to short to be hurting feelings all the time........ and if you are the one being hurt....... let it roll off your shoulder, it will pass and you can roll your eyes and go on......... they are not worth it to let them get to you.... you are better then that.

Answer 9

I took quite a bit of teasing back in school and that was about 25 yrs ago... it sure sticks with ya.... it can completely destroy ones self worth

Answer 10

Because it hurts to know people are making fun of you! If you didn't care what people thought about you then it would not hurt. Just act like you don't care and the people doing it will get really pissed.