We are getting married on a tropical island. Much of the planning has been done over the phone and internet. It is a private wedding - no guests. What would you do?
2006-08-11 08:19:41 · 14 answers · asked by shimmy shake 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Everyone has a different opinion on this. If the coordinator you're dealing with is the owner of the business, I would say that you are not obligated to tip. They choose what to charge and their fee covers their exemplary service.
Generally, when you do give a tip it's to people who are not keeping 100% of whatever you're paying them. Waiters live on tips, so they're not a fair example. But for barbers, tips are supplemental to their salary from the shop (though expected and I would say, unless they butcher you, obligatory!).
If you are very, very happy with the results, I think a gift or some sort after the fact would be more appropriate. Wedding coordinators are professionals. You don't tip other professionals, such as your doctor ("Hey, great appendectomy. Here's fifty bucks, buy your something nice!") or attorneys ("I appreciate that you helped me beat the rap... here's a little something so you can take the wife out for a nice meal."). You don't tip tradespeople like plumbers. ("You charged me $60 an hour and I had to look at your butt crack while you fixed my sink. Here's another ten bucks...")
If, however, the coordinator has an assistant, and you think they do a really good job, it'd be appropriate to tip them.
I hope any coordinators who read this and are ready to yell at me for costing them tips realize that by taking them out of the tipping category it puts them in a higher category -- a group that gets to name their price for their service and collect 100% of that fee. We should all assume that coordinators will give 100% of their effort to our weddings based on their professional fees... and they should neither except nor accept more for doing that job.
2006-08-11 11:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by Andy G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a wedding coordinator on Kauai and all the coordination with the bride is done by internet and phone. I then have to take care care of all her needs, book musician, photographer, officiant and so on...While I work for a resort and they pay me, I do look forward and daresay expect a tip. I work very hard for them before the "big day" and usually twice as hard the day of. Most places will have added a gratuity or service charge, but you should know, that money is rarely given to the coordinator, it is usually based on the food and goes to the servers and bartenders. Do not think for a minute that the coordinator is making a lot of money, they are not, so a tip is greatly appreciated!
2006-08-12 20:49:32 · answer #2 · answered by debra l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it a private Wedding consultant with their own business or is it someone from a resort who is called a Wedding Coordinator? I have my own business and I wouldn't expect my clients to tip me at all because they have my fee to pay. However, if they are a salaried employee of a hotel or resort or some other business than a tip is not unacceptable. One thing to keep in mind is that a tip is always optional and only should be given if YOU feel it is deserved.
2006-08-12 13:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the wedding coordinator has gone above and beyond in any way, then I'm sure a gratuity will be very much appreciated. However, if you feel that the coordinator has simply done the job that you're paying them to do, I would assume that his/her fee will cover any such gratuity. I would tip if I felt they went the extra mile for me. Hope this helps.
2006-08-11 09:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We didn't.. personally i think tipping it getting way out of hand.. we all perform services why is it that only a chosen few get to be rewarded with tips. No i wouldn't tip her.
2016-03-26 22:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd definately tip the co-ordinator. Hope that your wedding is marvelous and that the co-ordinator does an exception job and earns a fairly healthy tip. Best wishes.
2006-08-11 08:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are charging you the 20% gratuity charge and sale tax then NO. Double check- most of them already have the tip build into the payment. But if it's not, then yes you should tip.
2006-08-11 08:25:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope
2006-08-11 08:43:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your wedding coordinator is already getting paid by you, why would you tip him/her?
2006-08-11 11:59:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pardon?
2006-08-11 08:22:37 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♡ღ••Kelly••ღ♡♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋