Even if you have been brought up to believe that homosexuality is wrong? Even though i am happily married, is it possible that i am bi? I mean, girl on girl kissing/petting/etc. is kinda hot in theory, but i would never do anything like that. Am i destined to have these dreams for the rest of my life? What should i do?
2006-08-11 08:18:57 · 30 answers · asked by Cyndi Storm 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I always fly in my dreams, does that mean I am becoming Superman?
Stop torturing yourself. You mind is giving you a pleasurable nightly fantasy, but that is all it ever need be. Just enjoy it. If your husband seems open to that kind of thing you may even want to share these dreams with him. It may enhance your sex life with him.
You may still be bi or bi-curious, I really don't know you, but your dreams aren't anything unusaul or unnatural.
2006-08-11 09:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by No Drama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dreams can mean anything, but if you have these dreams really often I'd say what's more revealing is your response to them. And that seems to be what's bothering you--that your response doesn't jibe with how you were brought up.
Having said that, since you're happily married I wouldn't worry too much about the dreams if they don't go beyond fantasy, any more than you'd worry if you had recurring Brad Pitt dreams. Instead question the belief that it's appropriate to judge others for natural sexual feelings.
2006-08-11 08:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by byama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's just dreaming, I don't think that it means you're gay or bi at all. It's... well, dreaming, lol. You don't need to worry about that.
What to do about the dreams? That's a toughie... I'm not sure. I can't control my dreams, so I can't help you there... I don't think it's really something to worry about.
Thinking about girl on girl stuff, and thinking it might be good... that I'm not sure about, if it makes you gay or bi or not. I don't know about that one...
If you're worried about believing homosexuality is wrong from a religious perspective, I believe that as long as you don't think about it all the time, or do anything, then you're okay, and you don't need to worry about anything else. Dreams, I believe, don't count for that at all.
2006-08-11 08:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, a dream is just that. A dream. If you dream about jumping off a cliff, does that mean you secretly want to commit suicide? No. So wouldn't dread it too much.
And if you are happily married and would never do it, even if it is for moral reasons, then why does it matter if you are attracted to women? If you don't act on it, it is nothing more than a notion, so it doesn't take away from your character.
2006-08-11 08:23:35 · answer #4 · answered by queenoftheoakies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably have that curiousity in your subconscious mind. Showing it in dreams in a way of releasing your wonder.
However, there is not much you can do about it. Also, this dream may be triggered by things you heard, news you read, movie you watch, media effect. it is no surprise that many people would dream that even they are not gays.
The concept of gays will never come into your mind if it is not introduced. So, I suggest that you just let it go. The dream probably means nothing about your sexuality
2006-08-11 08:39:15 · answer #5 · answered by YourDreamDoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn all these answers and no one has said why not try it with a girl and your hubby at the same time. It would not be cheating on him and you would probably give your hubby the fantasy he would enjoy and at the same time have the chance to see what it is about women you like. Just be aware that you will have to share the girl with your hubby and can't get jeaulous about him doing another girl. Make it for his birthday present or something if you don't want to tell him why
2006-08-11 08:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by diverbob_70005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i read a book about sex and the experts meaning doctors, say that thinking like that could be consider natural or just extreme admiring of a person. Those thoughts dont make you bi or gay.
2006-08-11 08:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by porsha226 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're bi!but think about those things that keep your married happy and think about neg things that could cause your life miserable down the road, regarding about your dream, it's just a dream maybe you've been seeing some girls kissing or talked about these things to your Friends that's also effect what you're thinking about these things.....but stay out of trouble and don't try to ruin your happy married life.
2006-08-11 08:25:10 · answer #8 · answered by kevin n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might have bi-tendencies. Meaning that if the opportunity was there and you were drunk enough to say, oh its the alcohol, you'd definitely kiss a girl, but you don't want to date one.
Bi tendencies are fairly common in women, its not nearly as taboo as guy on guy and lets face it, women are just damn pretty.
Don't worry about it, just enjoy the hot wet dreams.
2006-08-11 08:27:24 · answer #9 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean dreaming while sleeping then its a nightmare. If you daydream then you may very well want to get it on with a girl and are bi.
2006-08-11 08:21:41 · answer #10 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋