my exgirlfriend of three years broke up with me a month ago after we went to hawaii.But she still calls everyday and cooks me dinner and calls me babe but wont get back with me.I didnt do anything wrong to make her mad.but everytime i see her it makes this break up harder how can i reverse this and get her want me agian.Shes been going out alot lately and i have no idea why she still calls
2006-08-11 08:18:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd kill to be in your shoes!
She likes you a lot but has realized that you aren't sufficiently compatible to be boyfriend and girlfriend. She wants to stay close to you because she was quite happy with you when you were together.
Don't dwell on getting her to come back. Chances are she probably will, but needs time. The fact that she didn't throw you out of her life means she may consider getting back to you on her own, no pulling required. Try treating her as a very close friend but otherwise get on with living your life. Don't let it hurt you that she's still around. She's doing it because she likes you. If you told her it hurts you, she'd probably be very sad and leave.
2006-08-11 08:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh you poor thing. Your avatar looks so sad. Listen you need to tell her that you can't go on like that anymore. You have got to let her know that it is tearing you apart inside. Explain to her that you are not her man anymore because she chose to leave you and tell her to stop coming around and leading you on. As long as you let her put you in these predicaments she will continue to do it. She thinks that she can eat her cake and have it too. She is just keeping you on the side while she lives her happy little life. Shame on her for leaving you in the dark like that. I know that breaking up is very hard but believe me, there is sunshine after the rain. You will get over her and realize that you are better off. I wish you luck and hope that one day you will find someone that will love you for everything that you have to offer. God bless
2006-08-11 15:27:30 · answer #2 · answered by Amy A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably still loves you and wants to be with you. But she might want to go out and meet other people to make sure staying with you is the right thing for her. Being broken up with you she can go see another guy. But she probably still calls you so you know that she still cares for you and so that she can come back to you when she figures out that's what she wants. It sounds bad but it sounds like thats whats shes doing. If it is then don't get back with her when she comes crawling back. You don't deserve to be dropped and picked back up like that. She's playing a game. Don't let her win.
2006-08-11 15:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by Cira 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. Tell her how you feel about her and what she's doing, then tell her she needs to make up her mind and until she does, don't call or cook or anything because it's just confusing you. It will give you and her time to think. It's the mature thing to do.
2006-08-11 15:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by dina h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you punishing yourself if she does want to be with you ? Once you are bf/gf it is very hard to be friends after a break up., it is like rubbing salt directly in a soar, . Or you just have to tell her what you want and hope you get it, maybe she does want you back and that's why she is cooking and calling. good luck I hope you find peace in your situation.
2006-08-11 15:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kid, its called becoming a man and putting you're foot down. She's showing absolutely no respect for you're feelings, and in my opinion you're gonna end up getting played like a fiddle. Tell her she has to understand that she broke it off with you, and that its over. You need to move on with you're life.
2006-08-11 15:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might be trying to tease you. Just to see how you could handle a break up with her. Maybe you should ignore her for a little while and see if she asks for you back. If that doesn't work, tell her how you feel.
2006-08-11 15:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by So_damn_hot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mabe she want to b friends but you need to explain to her that by continueing doing these things for u its makeing the breakup confusing and hard to deal with, but if she wants to move on then she needs to act like it so she can stop hurting you.
2006-08-11 15:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by poeticsoul127 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants her cake and to eat it too! find someone new to take to hawaii,just make it your honymoon Aloha noe!
2006-08-11 15:27:40 · answer #9 · answered by chris w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give her some time
2006-08-11 15:22:43 · answer #10 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋