I keep having dreams about ex boyfriends - who are total loosers. My man and I have been friends since we were 14 and we have been seriously involved for the past 3 years. We have a year old daughter. I adore him!! I love our family and our life together!! Why am I fantasizing about the loosers of my past?
2006-08-11 08:17:12 · 13 answers · asked by shimmy shake 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
what you are going through is absolutely normal I call it jitters, your reliving your past just to make sure you didn't miss something along the line somewhere. you are being honest with your heart and you want to be completely sure that this marriage is right. One thing to think about . There are no guaranties in anything you do. Just do your best and work hard at it if that's what you want and with luck and all that other stuff you will make it just don't quit working on the marriage it will take work. so with all that. Congratulation's and best wishes to the both of you, and a blast on your honeymoon.
2006-08-11 08:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not fantasizing, it's called nerves. I had the weirdest dreams for about a week before I got married, in one of them, an ex boyfriend was the GROOM and I didn't even realize it until I got up to the altar. I stood through the whole ceremony just in shock, and after the ceremony was over my husband was standing at the doorway to the church asking me why I had married this loser? It doesn't mean anything, honestly. Your sub-conscious is playing some funny tricks with your brain right now. Just relax, take a deep breath, and enjoy your wedding! Congrats and good luck!
2006-08-11 09:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had been having dreams of ex boyfriends before MY wedding instead of the dreams of not being able to find my wedding dress, missing cake, no music...you get the idea. As the big day approaches and stress builds, your brain does some strange things to you at night. It does NOT mean you secretly wish to get back together with any of the men from your past. You are, however, leaving your old life behind in a sense as you start a new one with your husband. Planning ANY wedding is stressful, and a destination wedding has more details thrown in for good measure. After the big day is over, I'll bet your dreams of ex losers will be too. Good luck & enjoy your day!
2006-08-11 08:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it's your brains way of escaping the stress and the situation. All people think about ex's or famous people or an imaginary situation to relieve themselves. It's normally and in your mind you can make your ex better, more caring or whatever you need to get your through the situation. I was doing the same thing until I relaxed and started swimming to relieve the stress. It's not as much as wanted the other person but wanted something to take your mind off what every is stressing you or bothering you. Just relax and don't worry about it.
2006-08-11 08:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a combination of things coming into play here - stress, excitement, and pre-wedding jitters. For some reason when you find the man of your dreams, the losers come out of the woodwork, even if you haven't thought about them for years! I still have dreams about my ex boyfriends...they mean nothing. Just take them as a reminder of how great you have it now! Have a fantastic wedding and enjoy every minute of it. It will be great!
2006-08-11 09:40:01 · answer #5 · answered by jrhauan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's called cold feet. There's a part of your subconscious that keeps replaying other relationships to make sure you aren't missing anything by committing yourself. Don't panic. Just keep in mind your love, your life together, and your family. You'll be just fine. Congratulations by the way!!!!
2006-08-11 10:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by kalischild57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes dreams are just psychotic purging. Don't let your stress or cold feet screw you up at this point. Just get to the airport three or four hours earlier than you had previously planned because of the raised security level.
2006-08-11 08:23:21 · answer #7 · answered by bigrob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is totally normal it is jus pre wedding jitters . You think about past relationships and why they did not wotk out. I did the same thing but now i have been happily marrried for 9 years Best wishes
2006-08-11 08:22:31 · answer #8 · answered by l_iwoman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are getting it out of your system now, you fantasize because you are looking at what you are missing. You may miss them but love your man. It's not really a big deal, and it will pass once you are on your honeymoon and are happy.
2006-08-11 08:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by hnic_shannon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just 'cold feet'. Something this important can be frightening. Just stay calm and keep in mind what losers your exes are and that you will be a happy family with your little girl.
Oh and congratulations!
2006-08-11 08:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by savagescorpio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋