will she come back?

Question

I am 28. My ex GF is 27. I live in Phx she lives in Miami. We were together 4 mos b4 we both moved. I moved for work and she moved to go to fashion school. She is very determined to be successful in fashion. I need my career as well but we always said that we will be together in the end. We tried to make it work but her living in South Beach and me so far away made me nervous. As much as she loved me it pushed her away because I worried too much. She told me that I needed to back off a bit and just relax. I tried but I didnt want a break.. A break to me meant that we were done and that thought killed me. She always assured me I was the ONE and that we clicked on every level but she couldnt deal with the constant calls.. I totally understand. Well a week ago she told me she doesnt have feelings for me anymore. This was a week after she told me why she loves me so much but just can't do it now b/c of how busy she is. Should I just let her go? Will she come back?

Answer 1

sounds like time to move on. it's hard to have a long distance relationship, even more so when the other person isn't working at it! as hard as it is now, it will get better for you! you have to give it time...and, that's the hardest thing to take, but time is the only thing that heals wounds like this!!!!

good luck, and take care!

Answer 2

Like they say if you really love something let it go and if it comes back to you then it was truly meant to be. Whether it was the change of locations, busy schedules or whatever it was maybe space is needed so she can see how much she really needs you. 4 years isn't something you let go of or forget within a blink of an eye. It probably didn't help with you being so insecure and worried about the relationship but i can totally understand why. Give it time and if she doesn't come back then I'm sure someone is out there for you.

Answer 3

Im sure she didnt mean that she has no feelings for u i think the girl is confused and needs a little more time u do need a break u say u cant handle a break from each other but isnt it worth it if she comes back. In the mean time if you meet a girl dont hold back. Im just outta a relationship of 6 years and everyone keeps telling me life it too short hanging around waiting for that certain person
Best of luck Hope it works out for ye

Answer 4

You should just let her go. It's too complicated and you have more important things to worry about right now like your job and your future. I don't think she'll come back.This might sound bad but for all you know she may have found someone else. A long distance relationship almost never works out. You two weren't together for that long so it shouldn't be too hard to move on. If you were together for like more than 2 years or something then that would be a different story. Anyway...find a girl closer to you who really cares about you and who you can trust. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Ahhh hello - she is seeing someone!!! You dont just say that you dont have feelings for someone just like that when you say you loved them a week before. That makes no sense. Its a clear sign buddy that she is with someone else. You need to let her go as hard as it is. And the whole will she come back thing - only time will tell. Its funny cause once you act like you dont give a crap and have a backbone thats when your ex's are most attracted to you cause you actually have a spine. Maybe if you move on since she is so use to you calling and always being up her *** it will make her rethink everything - thats how it always happens

Answer 6

It's very sad and it hurts (been there) but sometimes two people, no matter how perfect when they are together, have to split and make lives where they are. It takes time and effort. I recommend not talking to the person for a few months just to take a step back and see what is going on in the life that you find yourself. Don't stop communication forever, you can still be friends but take a step back and build some personal barriers. Good luck

Answer 7

I know what your going through.. its so hard and especially when you still are in love with the person. i remember crying all of the time when i broke up with my ex. I would have to say move on and if its really meant to be then she will come back. But i wouldn't sit at home just waiting for her to call you or come. Go out meet new people, hang out with friends, and have so new hobbies. Just stay busy so you can think of her less. Life will go on and you will meet somebody that loves even more and will be with you. if you want to talk just email me or im. Everything will be okay.

Answer 8

You have trust issues along with being insecure. You need to work on yourself before you try to get back with her or be with anyone for that matter. You have to have trust in a relationship, and just because someone is not under your feet at all times doesn't give you the right to mis-trust them or to have to be re-assured over and over again. I'm surprised she took it all for a week. I think you should let it all go, and I don't think shes coming back. sorry but you need to stop trippin so much!

Answer 9

babe i dont know what else to say other than something that has helped me a lil in that past when i had to watch ppl go....its a quote u may have heard..."If you let something go and it comes back to you then it was yours, but if it never does then it was never yours to begin with...thats not completely right but what im sayin is if tha gurl really loves you shell come back and if she doesnt honestly you seem like a really sweet, honest, and loyal guy..there are so many gurls out there that i think would be lucky to have you...just let go ..try to meet new ppl...if somethings meant to be it will just be if not there is someone else for you....i know it still my hurt and im so sry but i hope you can heal with time and find someone to love you as much as you love them...good luck

Answer 10

she's trying to get her own life together. She does have a life beyond your relationship. give her some time and if she wants a break you have to respect that or she'll push you out completely. Date other people and when she's ready she'll decide if you're still the one but you can't force that on her. sorry.