some timemy family makes me do things i don't want to do some time i just don't want to do they don't respect me at all they look at me as if l'm an eight year old i don't feel comfort with my family anymore they make me feel not wanted in other words they don't want to me to be part of the family but they need me to do as the plz 24/7 so they have to make me part of the family i love my family very much but some time i just want to kill my self coz l'm not happy and the worst thing is its thoes l'm very cloes to which just makes it all no good nothing is working out for me in cry four time a week coz of all this i just can't keep up with it
2006-08-11 07:54:46 · 9 answers · asked by muzvondiwac 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thats all families just learn to say no what r they gonnna do not ask again that wouldnt be so bad
2006-08-11 07:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by funnycaz72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunetly quite a few families are like that, you need to learn to say no and stick to your word.
why not try doing some extra stuff yourself. get a hobby, go out with your friends, join a gym, go swimming, join dance class. there are alsorts of things you can do to use up some of your spare time. That way you have something to tke your mind off of how your family make you feel and as well if they see you're busy they might stop asking you to do things for them and if they do you can at least turn round and say no with a valid reason so you don't have to feel guilty and even worse about your situation
chin up it'll get better
2006-08-11 08:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 30 and my family uses me to do shopping, drive them around, babysit etc. If they don't need me, I don't hear from them. This really does upset me. It's nothing to do with your age, it's to do with being taken advantage of... maybe try an assertiveness course and learn to say no in the right way. Relationships are supposed to be give and take - make sure that the balance is right. Spend time away from the home with friends who really appreciate you for who you are, not what you do for them... Good luck!
2006-08-13 07:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will reach an age when your parents should allow you to be more independant. It's important that they give you freedom to be with your friends when you want to be.
Once you are financially independant (and you will be one day) you can do whatever you like & go wherever you want so even if you can't resolve your current issues, don't loose sight of that fact.
Childhood/dependance is usually less than 25% of a person's lifetime.
2006-08-11 08:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone like a family therapist. I don't know how old you are but you do need to participate in household chores since you are living in the home also. It teaches you how to take care of your own home one day when you are out on your own. Tell your parents the trouble you are having right now and how you feel. You need to seek medical attention.
2006-08-11 08:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
darling , it sounds to me as if you are going through the very difficult stage of pubity , when your hormones cloud your vision and you may see things in a very negative light , i am sure that your family love you too , and would be really upset if they knew how sad you feel ,try to have a one to one chat with your mum about your feelings ! dont forget she was like you once herself!
2006-08-11 08:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by sandra b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-11 08:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just you. What is pl/z 24/7..... If you talk in English you might get a lot more answers..
2006-08-11 08:00:02 · answer #8 · answered by Bob The Builder 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are too nice. my family make me fill not wanted sometimes, only my dad he nice.
2006-08-11 08:06:55 · answer #9 · answered by golondris_1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋