My friend is terminally ill, he has requested to hear me sing the blues one last time. It's been more than 2 years since I've sang, I'm a little emotionally off balance right now & don't know if I can handle helping him let go. They don't expect him to live to the end of the month. It's not the performance that worries me. I have a fragile heart & don't know how I will handle it when he's gone. What would you do?
2006-08-11 07:37:43 · 15 answers · asked by Helzabet 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
TO sing blues you need to be very emotional. Blues is a way of letting out the deepest sorrow inside you in a artistic way...
Your gold, just let it flow from your heart...
2006-08-11 07:43:38 · answer #1 · answered by 100Hertz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to do it. That's all there is to it. But, here's a good suggestion. Record yourself singing the blues on tape and give it to him as a present. That way, if you get choked-up and don't deliver the performance you wanted to in his presence, you can have him hear you on the tape/CD and he can enjoy it over and over again as much as he likes 'til the end. That would be the nicest thing to do in this case. And, make a recording of him when you visit, to show him that he won't be forgotten by you. In this modern age, we can use technology for so many good things. Good luck. Please do that for him. My psycic senses tell me he would love that. And to urge you to do so.
2006-08-11 07:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you care for your friend?
If so, then suck it up and give him his last wish. You can always bawl like a baby AFTER he's gone.
Remember, if you don't do this for him, YOU will be one with the regrets and they will last, perhaps for the rest of YOUR life. Not a happy thought, is it?
So put some starch in your backbone, some practice in your voice and give the man what he wants!
May God make his going gentle. And your grief be not too hard to bear.
2006-08-11 07:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by Granny Annie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would give you something to remember after your friend has travelled on to the next great adventure. Death is only a tragedy for the living The greatest armor you can give YOURSELF is memories. Think often of this gift from him to you (yes, that's what I meant) and share in a bit of love before you tell him goodbye.
2006-08-11 07:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by michael s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just bite your lip and get through the performance as best as you can and cry afterward. My grandfather passed away last month...5 months before that I came to see him and I was able to tell him goodbye. I am so thankful I had the opportunity to tell him goodbye and to tell him how much I love him. I'm going to remember that for the rest of my life.....I'm so thankful I had that opportunity. You're going to look back on fulfilling your friend's last wish just as fondly, I'm sure of it.
2006-08-11 07:44:08 · answer #5 · answered by i luv teh fishes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to hear about your friend. It's never easy to lose someone you care about. Everyone tends to cope in their own way...some people want to talk about it, some just want to be left alone. It may help you to talk about the happy memories you have with other friends or family. If you are religious, you may want to speak with your religious leader as he/she may be able to help you make sense of your loss. Finally, you may want to seek out either a grief counselor or support group for the recently bereaved.
2006-08-11 07:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by phaedra 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't sing for him, you may regret it for the rest of your life. Give him one heck of a performance. Smile. Walk out of the room and let your feelings out. Try not to let him see you break down.
Go for it. You can do it.
2006-08-11 07:45:04 · answer #7 · answered by older woman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way -- how will you feel if you DON'T do it? I suspect you will feel guilty for not honoring his last requests. I would be so honored to sing for someone -- that they wanted to hear ME sing one last time before they left. As far as your emotional issues I don't know. But I think you will regret it if you don't.
2006-08-11 07:40:52 · answer #8 · answered by Phoenix's Mommy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would suck it up and think happy thoughts for now and sing for your friend girl like you have never sang b4!It will be o.k,what hurts is because we can't see them or touch them anymore but he'll always be with you.If he asked you to do this for him and this is his last wish blow for him girl sing them blues songs like you have never song them!And I'm sorry for your pain!
2006-08-11 07:43:16 · answer #9 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it will be hard, but think about him right now. If that's the last thing (and maybe the best) that you can do for him, how can you not do it, and how will you feel afterward if you didn't? I think it's a honor.
2006-08-11 07:46:39 · answer #10 · answered by cj_justme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋