My mom is part of the baptist church, but I want to be part of the Anglican church, but she won't let me. My dad was part of the Anglican church. I like the formalness of the Anglican church, but I don't know why my mom won't let me be part of it. Can I join whichever church I want????
2006-08-11 07:33:44 · 27 answers · asked by -♦One-♦-Love♦- 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If you are of age, then no. Your mother cannot dictate your expression of religious faith to you. Unless, of course, you're still living under her roof and spending her money.
If you're old enough, get out, get work and live on your own and she can't tell you diddly how to live your life.
BUT, if you're still underage, I'm afraid she's got the upper hand. Just sit back, prepare to be able to take care of yourself (that means getting a GOOD education and basic skills) and wait. Breathe in and out long enough and you'll be of age. Then set up your own digs and go to church wherever you want.
2006-08-11 07:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by Granny Annie 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hi Pleasant,
Well the Bible does tell us to obey our parents. The only time we are not to obey our parents is when their commandment contradicts a teaching of Christ.
i think you should express to your mom that being comfortable in the church will help you to grow. And she should give you an explanation as to why she doesn't want you to attend that particular church.
Off course you can join whatever church you want-- but also since you are both believers, you don't want to have this conflict looming between you and your mom. It'll hinder both of your worship...
There are many different denominations and they focus on different aspects. IE: i have a non-denominational background and i serve at a baptist church (the only difference really) is who can take communion and baptists like to vote on everything. Baptists take baptism and communion a little bit more seriously than other denominations and it's a good thing. The most important thing is what are the church's fundamental beliefs about: salvation, sin, the Trinity, etc. (the basics of the faith). So don't focus on the denomination-- i've been to a lot of different churches and even amongst denominations there are differences from congregation to congregation. Saying all Baptist churches are like this- is like saying all Chinese Restaurants are like this-- not true...
I encourage you also that the Bible tells us as much as it depends on you live at peace with all men. Meaning that if you end up attending your mom's church- make the most of it- it's still a place where believers gather to worship God and church is about God-- not you or your mom...
Hope that helps...
Nickster
2006-08-11 14:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by Nickster 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont know much about the anglican church, i go to a non denominational church...it just teaches straight from the Bible and has no additional doctrines or traditions like most churches do, personally i dont think it matters what church you belong to as long as it teaches everything exactly as it is in the Bible, your mom probably just wants to make sure you will be in a church that will give you good instructions in your faith and the Bible...i would talk to her about it
2006-08-11 14:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by Crys 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your mother doesn't have the right to restrict your religious choices. Although if you are living under her roof, (especially if you aren't old enough to drive) you still need to respect her wishes until you are out on your own. If I were you I would go to the local library and take out some books on the Anglican tradition and begin changing your personal practices to conform to Anglican beliefs since you can't change what church you attend right now since you are at home.
2006-08-11 14:37:31 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix's Mommy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
After you are living on your own, yes. Worship style is nothing more than a learned language. Some people feel more in the presence of God through a formal style, some through reverent traditional worship, and some through vibrant praise. It's not an issue of one being right and another wrong. Some people's spirits just speak different languages. That's ok. But as long as you live with your mother and she supports you, you have to live under her guidelines. I respect that you have found your style of worshipping God!
2006-08-11 14:39:04 · answer #5 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are your own person. As mcuh as you should always respect your mother, she's not living your life for you. You should do what you think is right for you. I doubt she'll develop a hernia because you joined the Anglican church.
2006-08-11 14:37:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hm, you can ask your mom why she won't let you be a part of it...
It's typically not good for people to be forced to pick a particular type of religion or anything like that, it seems to lead to a lot of trouble usually...
I think you should be able to pick whatever church you'd like. But then again, I'm not your mom or dad, lol. I'm not sure what you should do about it either...
2006-08-11 14:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by arcmdark 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think your mom is wrong on this point. She should be thrilled that you want to get involved with a church, as long it's not a cult. Youths that join a church are 80% less likely to get involved in drugs. She should be proud that you feel passionate about the religion that you have chose. I'm Catholic, but my son is Ladder Day Saint, and I'm proud of him. I would have preferred him to be Catholic, but I support his choice. It just shows me that he has learned from me to take his own path and make his own decisions in life.
2006-08-11 14:40:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are not of legal age to be on your own thenfollow the rules set by your parent... at legal age you can choos to follow what ever you like... There are many, very many, different kinds of "Baptists" out there... I have no idea what denomination your mother is part of... But I invite you to my website to get an independent Baptist pov.... I am a member of a concervative Baptist congrigation... but I have some of my own thoughts as well... No man may stand between God and His people...and that means no denomination either...
untill you are of legal age you must follow your parental rules... that dose not mean you may not form you own relationship with God... each of us must do that, it is between God and you... you may have to keep it just between you and God for now...God understands...
I am not a fan of the Anglican way.. but I will not say that God might lead you that way.... I invite you to read over my site...yes it is by an "old guy"... but God's word is for all. And I hope God will alow you to find a way to start on your own way to His Way.... maybe through my site... who knows.... God will lead you His Way if you let Him.
Here is the address for my site
http://www.mikesoutreach.com
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2006-08-11 14:48:08 · answer #9 · answered by IdahoMike 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes! Do whatever you want...tell your mom that even if she makes you go to the Baptist church it won't make you Baptist in your heart.
If you are not 18 then she can make you go wherever she wants...but when you are 18 you can start doing whatever you want.
She should be happy that you have any interest in god at all...most kids don't.
2006-08-11 14:38:20 · answer #10 · answered by az 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋