I met this guy that i really want to get to know better But i dont think he has much $ right now he has had a difficult time lately medical prombs and i was thinking of giving him my phone # and asking him to come over & see me BUT i dont want him to get the wrong idea i am looking to casually date How do i do this without him thinking the WRONG thing?
2006-08-11 07:33:19 · 26 answers · asked by Leveler 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It takes money to go out thats what it has to do with it
2006-08-11 07:39:20 · update #1
Take it slow.
He should understand your view of casual dating. Its really how you present your offer. You apparently want to show off your hospitality so you won't be dating in a public place. A quiet one on one scenario at home can give the wrong impression. Will it last into the whee hours of the morning or will it be an 11:00 ending point (letting a guy know upfront that you need to be home (sleep) by .... ? ...... is usually a big enough wrench to bust his program). Of course having lunch opposed to dinner would be advisable.
Presentation................. that's the key
2006-08-11 07:59:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a casual dating thing what does his $ or medical problems have to do with it. Unless you are referring to his inability to take you to a casual place and the fact that inviting to the house is cheap but gives the impression of a more intimate setting. That can be a problem. Once they are at the house or you at their house you have already invited them into a personal setting. I opt for some other free or cheap activity. I am not sure where you are located but there has to be community events or free local attractions.
2006-08-11 14:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about instead of giving him your number, you ask him to meet your for coffee or a bite to eat or something. That is something friends might do too, so it isn't really giving him the wrong idea. It is more like saying you want to get to know him better, which you do. Plus, having him over to your place is more personal and intimate and could give him the wrong idea.
Good luck. Sounds like you are thinking things out very well and are being thoughtful fo the other person. You deserve a good relationship!
2006-08-11 14:36:50 · answer #3 · answered by lorgurus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him, what does it matter if he has money or not? Getting to know him should have nothing to do with that. If you tell him up front that you just want to get to know him and are not looking for anything serious, he'll probably understand. Most guys aren't looking for serious right off the bat either. Call, invite him out to the park for lunch or something, save the home invitation for when you get to know him better; you don't him well enough to invite him there and be safe about it.
2006-08-11 14:40:35 · answer #4 · answered by dina h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of inviting this guy to do something fun. Leave the home visits til your ready for more than just a friendship. Start slow and there is no way he should get the wrong idea. Going bowling, fishing, skating etc. anything that you would do with your friends.
Maybe you can save the movies and more intimate outings til you are sure he knows your intentions.
2006-08-11 14:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him right off the bat. Being serious and blunt is a great way to do things. Or mention a "boyfriend" in a casual conversation before giving him your number. Or perhaps even saying that you aren't looking for anything serious; you just want new friends and to have fun.
2006-08-11 14:37:01 · answer #6 · answered by Lu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just be honest with him. Tell him u are looking for someone to just hang out with and get to know better, not necessarily a relationship. That way everything is out in the beginning. I am only looking for guys to casually date, and so far when I meet someone and tell them from the beginning, it works out well
2006-08-11 14:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice to see that someone is finally not golddigging and wanting that person for them. That's rare and he deserves someone like you if you are still liking him besides the facts.
I think that you should just go to him and tell him how you have been digging him and you just would like to spend time with him to get to know him and his likes and dislikes and then see where you two can go from there.
If you step to him like a 'lady' then he won't get the wrong idea about you.
good luck.
2006-08-11 14:38:53 · answer #8 · answered by i have a taste for waffles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you two go to the mall and just walk around or sit in one of the benches or go to the park or something... Yes, phone chats are good... but arrange a first meeting at a place of common ground... Don't have to spend anything... just some public place to hang out at...
2006-08-11 14:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by Rob D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know right up front that this is only a friendship and that you're only interested in being his friend.A lot of great relationships start by just being friends.Whats the worst that can happen? You've just made a new friend and we can always use more of those!!
2006-08-11 14:40:06 · answer #10 · answered by theresa d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋