Because I am working a lot and trying to provide for my daughter. I am a single mum and have to make up for the absent parent to pay the bills, etc. She wants me to only work one job, but it's just not possible. She says I am a bad mum because I do not spend enough time with my daughter. She is driving me mad, and at the same time It makes me feel bad! What should I tell her, she won't let off when I explain all this to her, she doesn't understand! Thank you, I really do appreciate it!
2006-08-11 07:12:00 · 12 answers · asked by blondie10422000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her you are doing what you have to do. Maybe ask her if she would like to help provide financially so you could quit one of your jobs, then maybe she will back off!
2006-08-11 07:15:42 · answer #1 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok calm down. It is not that your mum hates you or disagrees with what you are doing. I am sure she worries about your situation in life and is trying to point out just one thing: if you are working yourself too hard you are risking over stress, sickness or a nervous break down. Stop for a couple of minutes and reflect on your life at this present moment. How much are you giving your daughter? Yes it is true financial problems lead every way, but your daughter is growing faster than you think and you are missing out on the most beautiful things that she is trying to demonstrate to you. Besides she needs you to spend time with her as well.
Plan things well. Time may be cruel but is eligible to changes as well.
2006-08-11 07:17:06 · answer #2 · answered by Janine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a very calm talk with her. Ask for her advice. Say, here's my bills, here's what I make, what would you suggest so I can spend more time with my daughter? She might have some good ideas.
FWIW, I would move home to cut down on bills, then work nights so I could be with my child. If your mum is willing to help with your daughter, this could be an excellent solution for all of you.
2006-08-11 07:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you need money to survive but we do not survive to make money. It is to love and you should spend time with your daughter. Shouldn't that be a wake up call if someone else is pointing out the obvious to you? There are such things as child support and assistance if your not able to make it on your own, give that a try. Anyways why are you not recieving child support?
2006-08-11 07:18:09 · answer #4 · answered by chocolatesyrup101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh,honey, I really feel for you! I'm a single mom too, I KNOW it's not easy!! I give you the highest respect for doing what it takes to support you and your daughter! I know that your moms lack of support is hurtful hon, sometimes our parents try to push their own priorities and ideals on us because to them, that's what they feel is best for you and your daughter. I am quite lucky in that my mom has backed me no matter what Ive decided...and I had 2 jobs for about 2 years too....so I feel your pain. I think that maybe telling your mom that YOU are the parent to your daughter and though you appreciate and respect her input, it is still ultimately YOU who decides what is best and let her know that you'd appreciate it if she could support your decisions now that you are a grown up and a parent yourself! I commend you for your efforts, your daughter will see a champion when she looks at you! All my best to you! Sorry this got so lengthy ;)
2006-08-11 07:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by Joeygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are doing is importing but she is right you need to spend more time with your daughter every once and a while bring her to work with you
she gets to spend more time with you
go to different places most kids cant stay still
and get more exercise moving from job to job
2006-08-11 07:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she says that, then she obviously doesn't understand how hard finances are for a single mother. So I would tell her, Mom if all you can do is complain and act pissed off everyday, Please dont talk to me anymore. Because in all honesty this is none of her business. Your an adult, she doesn't provide for you, she has no say so. This is what I tell people when they stick their nose where it doesn't belong: " Dont say anything unless your supportive, because honestly it doesn't apply to you to start with" Tell her that.LOL I wish you the best of luck!
2006-08-11 07:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her if she is gonna pay your bills for you. your not a bad mom and if you could change the situation you would, but right now your doing the best you can. explain that there are worse things than having 2 jobs.
2006-08-11 07:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to give you the amount of money that hour 2nd job pays and you will quite, I am sure you would love to spend more time with your child.
2006-08-11 07:18:11 · answer #9 · answered by nanny2jada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore her, your doing a fine job. Just make sure you do spend as much time as u can with your daughter and when you are with your daughter give her your undivided attention.
2006-08-11 07:27:32 · answer #10 · answered by tabatha1333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋