I know be ya self, yeah what ever, I once got rid of a guy because my dog pissed on him, it was just too darn funny. so if this kid pisses on me or snots or kicks me, I know its over. OH my goodness... Im thinking take the kid along with us to a fun place, (where ever kids have fun at the age of 11 and just see) I really dont want him to hate me.
2006-08-11 07:09:55 · 13 answers · asked by SECRET woman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should look at this a little more seriously because your boyfriend obviously thinks highly of you if he wants you to meet is kids. Our soulmates don't always come in the packages we expect them to so if the only catch with this guy is that he has kids from a previous relationship then embrace that and try to make an effort. Taking him to a fun place is a great idea be friendly, create a conversation with him and show interest, I'm sure he'll come around.
2006-08-11 07:24:11 · answer #1 · answered by dee dee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea, it is a little awkward at first. sorry to say ,but it is true just go in being yourself. kids can tell when your acting, plus your boyfriend will see that your acting and that will make him back off. Do not buy them anything because it's not good to buy a kid .plus they will expect it every time they see you and by the time you know it your broke. ask your boyfriend what the kids like to do and plan a day doing things that they like , this will be good for you - you will find out if you like and want kids of your own ,also if you really want to pursue a relationship with this man and his kids because he is a package ....my rule is never introduce kids to a girlfriend / boyfriend if your not sure it is a serious relationship ... ask yourself is this the man for you can you see yourself with in the long haul , if not then why meet the kids? talk to your boyfriend make sure your both on the same page, also does he bring all his girlfriends to meet the kids? if not than YOU really need to make sure YOUR on the same page he obviously is on ...good luck and like i said don't be phony with the kids.just be you...
2006-08-11 07:36:51 · answer #2 · answered by tinker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. An 11 year old hates anything anyways. Don't try to be the mom, because you are not. Dont try to impress him or ask him a million questions. Just treat him like an adult. Remember: you are dating the kid's father, not the kid. No matter what the kid thinks of you, its what your boyfriend thinks what matters
2006-08-11 07:17:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, I could never a date a man who already had kids. I don't know how you can stand it. I made a decision years ago that I would only marry a man who was in the same place as me - not married, no kids. I wanted to experience all the feelings you go through together - not just me experiencing them and the guy already having "been there, done that." I got lucky -- I feel for you.
2006-08-11 07:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
from experiences if it is a girl they are mean especially when it comes with the attention of their dad they want it all you have to play cool like your not trying to steel her dad away give her most of the attention it will look good on your part cause i was a little **** i made my dad and his wife separate cause i did not like her she was an OK woman to good luck
2006-08-11 07:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by sandilou23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you don't need to be dating anyone with kids
2006-08-11 07:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by nanny2jada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be fun and dont talk to him like he is a baby. Relax. Bring him a gift he will love yOU!
2006-08-11 07:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not awkward. He just wants to let you know that he has kids and he is not ashamed of them.
2006-08-11 07:11:53 · answer #8 · answered by fungurllallthatime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually may be it's not good for his girl Friend.
2006-08-11 07:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by lucky s 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
especially if you find out they are your own kids!!!!!
2006-08-11 07:12:12 · answer #10 · answered by cirdellin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋