Ok so my friend takes the first approach. This guy comes up to her at the bar and if she doesn't like what he's working with she says in a LOUD voice for everyone to hear "Get the hell away from me!" If that doesn't work she complains about the guy to security. I'm the complete opposite. If a guy (drunk or not) comes up to me and I really don't wanna talk to him...I still will for a while, but I'll mention that I have a boyfriend who might get jealous if I was seen talking to him. If that doesn't work I simply move away and say nicely that I'm not interested. Just wondering which approach everyone thinks is a better idea. Also if a drunk guy at a bar touches you (ie. your back, your hair NOT breasts or anything else) do you swear at him or hit him? Or ask him not to touch you seeing as how he's drunk? My friend and I have a bet going on this, so all responses will be appreciated :)
2006-08-11 07:09:48 · 15 answers · asked by Aliyah S 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Exactly slyvia :) I get embarrassed when my friend is rude cuz it makes me look bad too. Not to mention...isn't the point of getting all dressed up and going out to the bar is to get guys to hit on you?
2006-08-11 09:04:28 · update #1
Drunk or not, there's really no excuse to be so rude or classless.
Being polite but firm has worked for me in pretty much every situation I've ever been in.
Why embarrass someone needlessly?
And on a more self-serving note, if your friends and you are out looking for guys and you shoot a guy down loudly and rudely, think about the message you're sending out to all the other guys in earshot (one or more of whom might be working something you like!). If they hear you yelling and being so rude, they're probably not going to even try to come near you for fear you'll embarrass them the same way.
2006-08-11 07:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by sylvia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is always better to start out being nice to everyone. Of course, if that doesn't work then you need to resort to stronger measures. But there isn't any need to embarrass a guy just because he is drunk (or not) and finds you attractive.
As for the touching thing... it depends on how drunk I am! If I am drunk I don't usually mind, especially since hubby is always lurking nearby! If I am not drunk I will give him a look which expresses my disgust and then I grab onto hubby for "support".
There is NEVER a cause to swear at someone (or especially to HIT them) just for simply touching you on your back or arm. Have some respect for yourself and others and treat people the way you want to be treated.
Karma is a real thing ladies and she can be a ***** when she comes back around.
2006-08-11 14:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's no need to be rude. When I'm at bars and guys come hit on me, all you do is chat for a minute or so, then thank them for their time, shake hands and go away to the other side of the bar. Something like "Well, it was nice talking to you, have a good night", and then take off. Works well AND it's classy.
2006-08-11 14:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by Kookoo Bananas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At first try the nice but firm approach. If that doesn't work then you have to get a little rude. But does it really matter, your dealing with a drunk you don't even know.
2006-08-11 14:28:07 · answer #4 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no need for hitting unless it's self defense. It's absolutely better to be FIRM, not rude. A simple assertive "Please don't touch me" should get the signal across... even to someone who is drunk.
The problem with being nice is that sometimes (especially in drunkenness) your true meaning can be lost. I say be assertive, not mean, to make sure your limits are understood.
2006-08-11 14:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by K-Flo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the situation. If the drunk is being really rude and annoying, then I'm going to be rude. But if he is just trying to talk to me, then I'm going to be nice.
2006-08-11 14:16:32 · answer #6 · answered by Patricia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you on this one. I believe that you can be well-mannered and still get the point across. If you don't want to talk to someone....don't, but there's nothing wrong with finding a polite way to tell him you're not interested. It's much classier.
You should never let someones inappropriate behavior dictate how you portray yourself (find a method that's consistent with your character to send the guy on his way).
2006-08-11 15:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by Sara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give them the "Polite Brush-Off." Ignore them,avoid them and report them to the bartender or wait staff.Strangers do not have the right to just go up to you and touch you;flinch (shrug)them off of your person.Glare at them and say,"Excuse me?Please do not touch me."
2006-08-11 14:18:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea I'd just be nice but I wouldn't focus my attention on him either, like, If it's me a friend and the guy, like I'd be nice to him but I'd turn my head and talk to my friend a lot and just kinda ignore him til he goes away, that's what usually works for me.
2006-08-11 14:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by A.Marie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be nice we al like getting drunk
2006-08-11 14:12:41 · answer #10 · answered by vicky l 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋