Your opinion...?

Question

My son was suspended from school for fighting yesterday, but he fought the boy because he put blood on his clothes. I was outraged by the other childs actions and did not punish my child for his. I just want an unbiased opinion?

Answer 1

I agree, to a point. Your son had a right to be upset but fighting wasn't the answer (didn't that just produce MORE blood??). I would have made sure the other parents were notified and waited until they got there to have a meeting with them and the principal. The dangers of blood products and other bodily fluids is too important to be ignored. I do agree with not punishing your son, I just would emphasize to handle it differently next time. Good call.

Answer 2

The kid that put blood on your child's clothes was really wrong and should be really punished, but your son did not have to fight the boy because he did it.
You should also be careful to find out what exactly happened, becuase people don't usually just go around doing something like that, unprovoked.
If your son was completely innocent, just minding his own business and a fellow student bled on him intentionally, your son should have taken care of the situation through a teacher, because the most important thing to do right away is to be sterile and make sure you don't get infected by that blood.
Turning the situation into a fist fight did not accomplish anything and was against a very important school rule against violence.

By not punishing your son, you are telling him that when someone does something that he things is wrong, the right way to deal with it is to resort to punches. He will not get far in life with that approach.

You should also be concerned about why your son was targeted by this other child, to make sure it does not happen again. If your son is being bullied, this is something you and your son should get assistance from the school in dealing with for the future.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I think its quite normal for kid to act in this manner for a "reason". But it still gives me the thought, how old is he? is he in the early primary "5-6 years, 7-8 years"?

This question arises according to the reaction of your son. Please understand that, fighting a fellow student or rather kid, should not be encouraged at even the minute scale. This is his time, to learn a lot of things he should understand. Thus, do not encourage him, on what he did!

As a little child (if he is) he should be thought the means of patience. This creates a lot of balance in him. He would be able to understand the right balance between right or wrong. Teach him, to be calm. then think, and act.

According to the situation presented above, your son had another option other than fighting the boy who forced him into this situation. Simply, he could have complained to the teacher. The teacher, should take relevant action as he/she had done to your son. This would have been a positive to your son.

Therefore, you should educate your son of his actions and its reactions, and the balance he could have struck if he had simply taken a moment to think and do the right thing the right way.

And when it comes to self-defense at a physical range, i should say that, it is really important only when your life is at stake, not simply for every little bug that comes to trouble you when you are sleeping. Thus simply claiming it was for self defense is not sufficient.

Do not be strict to your child about what he has done. Because that may cause serious mental effects that may really affect the child at his early ages. You are supposed to take a little time, and help him understand in a tenderly and caring way, on what he could have done during this situation.

Self-defence is very important. But the form you opt to take it is very important. It should be according to the situation. Physical self-defense should be the last resort. Since there are so many other factors to be considered when, choosing it i.e. inducement by other.

Thank You!

Answer 4

Well for one thing, you really need to have no fear of the school and the people in them. Remember, you child is in their care all day long. We have had the school do some very stupid things with our children and it is a bit of a battle, but you can't let them push you around. The teacher especially needs to listen. If you have to be a little mean...don't be afraid to do it. Not every time your child gets into trouble at school is going to be a need for him to be punished. While I would never encourage fighting, I would never tell my child to not defend themselves either should the case amount to that. My oldest son was found being choked and hit in the face by an older student in the bathroom. Thankfully the school took care of the other student, but it was not something to let go of. I would definatly talk with someone at the school about it, usually the principal and the teacher.

Answer 5

I don't blame you for being mad at the other child for staining your child's clothes. You may be worried that the child could have (but probably did not) pass along some type of disease to your child. Was the other child disciplined by the school? If not, you need to insist to school administrators that he is punished, and don't let it be swept under the rug.

However, you do need to let your child know that what he did is unacceptable. Even if you just talk to him, he needs to understand that he should NEVER hit anyone, except if he fears for his personal safety. You should tell him how to handle the situation better next time (telling a teacher). If you are unsure of what he should do, ask the school administrator how your child should handle problems with other students .

Answer 6

I would request a meeting at the school between yourself,your son and the parents of the other child. I would want a face to face to find out what really happened. You can request this. I did this when my daughter got into a fight with another girl in her school, and she too was suspended. Show your child that you are willing to do all it takes to resolve this issue. Then after you have all the facts,decide what if anything you need to do.

Answer 7

first of all......... I would want to know where this child got the blood to put it on my child in the first place....... second i would demand a parent principle meeting with me and the other childs parent to find out just that......... where the blood came from and why or how he had gotten his hands on it. unless it was his own blood from a cut or something and then I still would want to know why the child thought it was ok to share his own blood by placing it on other children........ what with aids and everything else out there, I would demand some answers... I agree with you, our kids have to be able to stand up for themselves but I as the parent would make it very well known what that other child did was not ok for any child to do. And I would demand that they both apologize to eachother and in the future if they can't get along then to stay away from eachother or they will have stronger conciquenses to deal with,, and I would come up with that agreement with the other parent and the principal before the boys join you..... I don't care how old they are, learning has to start from somewhere.......... I hope this has helped........ Blessed Be.

Answer 8

Was there blood because of the fight? I am assuming not, and in that case I think that what the other child did is wrong, but the other child did not do something physical to your son - that is the difference. Perhaps you would feel better if you asked the other child's parents to pay for the cleaning bill.

Answer 9

Blood contaminates can be highly dangerous and if that's what the other kid did, that child needs to be dealt with immediately.

However, your child needs to understand that fighting (violence) is never the answer. Your outrage is justified, but your son needs to be punished for his actions.

2 wrongs do not make a right.

Answer 10

Now, how on earth did that other child put blood on your sons clothes? Was it due to a blow? Fighting is not cool in school anyway. Self control is the key. He should have controlled his anger and told a teacher. Things would have turned out much better that way.