2006-08-11 07:03:42 · 22 answers · asked by Jena B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly. Be honest with him. He'll hate you at the time, but he will ultimately respect your honesty, and will always respect you for that.
2006-08-11 07:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth: women dont like 'nice' guys at least when it come to the singles scene..many women will never admit to this (or even internally realize it) but in large part its true. Women like men who are assertive, confident and independent (read: 'bad boys'). They go nuts over guys who portray a "I could take you or leave you" attitude. He is a nice guy and treats you well so of course you are breaking up with him. This just proves my point. Hopefully you will find a 'bad boy' that will treat you like crap so you can be happy. Of course if you ever decide to have a lasting and meaningful relationship this could be a problem.
2006-08-11 14:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by mathguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't break up with him if you have chemistry with him.
If you have a nice guy, and have potential warm fuzzy feelings, you will kick yourself for walking away. MAybe not now, but years later you will.
If you just don't have chemistry with him. Nothing is wrong with him, you just don't "like him like that" He feels more like a "friend" than a "boy friend"... Then it is only fair to break up.
If he really likes you, nothing you can do will keep it from hurting him. Allowing him to still follow you around the break up, will not "soften" it. It will only prolong it. So even if you still want to be "friends" after wards, you have to have a minimum period of separation of like 2-3 months, of no hanging out, so he can get over you for real.
Meet at a neutral place, that has some privacy. I.e. not at school, not at work. Not "your turf", try to think of a place he would be "At ease", because this will be emotional for him.
Sometimes guys can be even more sensative than girls, just because they don't show it doesn't mean they don't feel it. Don't be suprized if he cries. You would cry too, so it is only fair. If he does cry he might be embarrassed, you can tell him it is okay to cry. That you read in some advice collumn that lots of men cry in break ups (it's true).
Try to keep the actuall discussion pretty straight forward. If you need to write a couple bullet points on an index card.
-want to break up
-you are a great guy, just not the right match for me
-not fair to you, if I'm not in love with you
-frees BOTH of us up to find our exact match
-not even "hang out" for 2-3 months to allow for "cool down"
I hope this helps
2006-08-11 14:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal Violet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him the truth as to why you want to break up with him. Just say that you like him as a person but for some reason things are just not working between the two of you and you think that you guys should go your seperate ways.
2006-08-11 14:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be honest with him. But I wonder why dump him if he's nice? Odds are you've met a bad boy, and prefer him to the nice guy. Nice guys lose again!
2006-08-11 14:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by Knight-wing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yah be really honest about it....also what i have found works...it tell him that u don't like who u have become in the realationship. Both of u and him are starting to break apart from who u two really are...and u think that if u were not together u would be a better person...and so would he
2006-08-11 14:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by Shelby a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y break up if hes nice
2006-08-11 14:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by organise my funeral a big un 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not
Stop calling him and hope he takes the hint, he wont he will think hes upset you...
You talk with him and let him know its not working nad you just want to be friends...
And try and find him a new girl possibly with help from his mates
2006-08-11 14:13:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had this problem one of my ex's was overly nice i could basically walk all over him and get him to do anything. i found my self falling out of love with him, then one day he got his hair cut. i told him that i didnt fancy him with that hair cut and i didnt know if my feeling for him would ever come back. he actually begged me to not split up with him and i told him how pathetic that actually was.
my mates thought it was stupid for doing that but his family think im fantastic even now. and that was 6 years ago
2006-08-11 14:08:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just tell him, there is no nice way of breaking up with omeone, although i would advise you to choose your words carefully you dont want to hurts his feeling one thing not to say is 'Its not you its me) just be hones with him he'll appreciate you more for it. You'll probably end up being best buddies
2006-08-11 14:10:27 · answer #10 · answered by Emiliana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋