I'm in a long distance relationship. How can i make it last?

Question

We're not havin probs. I just no that one can never get too much advice. Thanks in advance i'm sure i'll appreciate your replies.

Answer 1

A few things that I'm going to list will make any relationship work long distance or not: Communication, Loyalty, Honesty, Trust, and the ability to resist tempation. If you can do that, then you should have no problems. Take care!

Answer 2

I'm in one as well, across the ocean in fact. All you need to do is forget about the physical side of it until you can see them again. If you're a guy who gets "in the mood" a lot, don't even consider going elsewhere - just do it yourself. There's nothing wrong with it and it'll save your relationship, because if you cheat, you will eventually get caught - and yes, sleeping with someone else while your partner is away IS most definitely cheating and totally unacceptable.

Once that's done, the rest will work itself out. It won't be much different than if you were right next to each other. There's plenty of ways to keep in touch - internet messengers, web cams, email, text messages, and phone. If you need a good long distance service to keep in touch with, www.onesuite.com has amazingly low rates all over the world, so you can talk for hours without it costing much.

Just don't stop talking. If you are the type to do random romantic things, you can still do them when you're not together. Surprise her with a random sappy e-card or a poem. Leave an away message proclaiming your love or containing romantic song lyrics. Best of all, write them a real letter. Use your own handwriting, it means much more than typing. Send them a recent photo. ticket stub, any little tidbit from your recent life, it will make you both feel closer.

My long distance relationship has been going strong for a long time thanks to these things. Best of luck to you!

Answer 3

Write lots of letters. My husband and I dated through the mail for 19 months, before he came home, getting married 3 months later. You get to know a lot about a person through what & how they write. Try not to call on the phone too much, as you bill will be more than you can pay! Call maybe a couple of times a month and keep it under 10 minutes. Maybe they call one week and you call the next, if that's affordable. But my husband and I rarely spoke over the phone, and only saw each other 3 times out of the 19 months. It's do-able, but you both need to stay committed to your relationship. Other "opportunities" will arise, so stand firm in your feelings for one another. You sure don't want it getting back that you couldn't keep your hands off someone (believe me, bad news DOES travel fast). If you find that you don't want this sort of relationship, you need to tell them as soon as possible. Don't string them along, giving them false hope. If you both can't move closer to each other, then this is the best alternative. If possible, make arrangements to spend "special" dates with each other, like the anniversary of your meeting or Valentine's Day. But keep the letters flowing. I sent a letter a day to my husband. And he did the same, so it's not just a "woman thing". You'll find that you put more of yourself into a letter than a phone call. <*)))><

Answer 4

Healthy communication is always the best means to keep a relationship going. What you can do is simple: call/text/email her all the time. Always make her feel that despite the fact that you're worlds apart, she's never forgotten! Or maybe try something that's traditional yet very thoughtful. Send her (through mail) a card..or a bouquet of flowers (you can always contact a flower arranger in her area and let them deliver the bouquet to her place). And of course, dont ever forget to remain faithful to her. You may be miles apart from her but that does not mean that you can already see other girls. If you want your relationship to last even if you're from two different places, then you'd stay loyal to her no matter how much temptations are present around you.

Answer 5

make time:

relocating to a new city will involve meeting new people and doing new things, but that doesn't mean that your significant other should fall to the bottom of your list of priorities.
It is important to set aside time every day to phone or e-mail each other, without any distractions. Tell each other details about your day, your friends, co-workers, etc., so that you both feel a part of the other person's life; this seemingly small step will go a long way in reducing the distance between the two of you.


visit

Make an effort to visit one another as often as possible, not only when it is expected, such as for holidays. Make sure that it isn't always the same person who is going out of their way for the other, because this will inevitably lead to some serious resentment.
If you don't put in the time and effort to see one another, then you will eventually drift apart, no matter how strong your love is. After all, you need some physical contact to keep a relationship going.


plan ahead

Be sure to organize your schedule so that when she does come to visit, you have nothing to do but spend quality time with her. Tell your friends and family that you are officially unavailable during the time that you and your sweetie plan on being together.
This will not only be enjoyable in itself, but it will also make her feel like her efforts were appreciated, and that she is truly loved.

Answer 6

I had a long distance relationship for 6 years and married him.We have been married for 15 beautiful years and have 3 kids
We made sure we talked at least 5 X's a week and really listened to what the other person was saying about goings on in their State.
Their daily routines and so on.This helped us because we never felt out of the loop.
Also we did the good old fashioned writing letters.There is something about reading the letters hand written.You can add a spritz of her favorite cologne on you to the letter and really get all gushy.Email?I don't know It seems to be too everyday and you really don't want to treat your woman like everyday people that you email.
It can certainly work.Good Luck

Answer 7

The best advice I can give you is to make sure you are totally honest with each other. There is nothing worse than finding out that someone has lied to you when you've trusted them completely. This is true in any relationship whether long-distance or not. Also for your case the sooner you get closer the better. That's when you'll know that you can spend the rest of your life with the person. Or you'll find out you can't. It's better to know before you spend too much time on the person though. You could be missing your opportunity for true love if this person isn't it.

Answer 8

Long distance relationships are a bit risky.
I was in one for three years, and things were fine until I relocated and we got to be together for actual life.
We were so close when we were apart, but nothing, not even week long visits every other month, talking for hours on the phone every day, sending each other gifts, IM chats and daily emails...could help us know that when it came down to real life living, we really weren't that compatible.
We tried so hard to make it work, we even saw a therapist after I moved close to him. But he helped us see how we really weren't right for each other.
Just be careful.
Of course some long distance relationships can last. Yours could be the exception. But just be careful how much time you invenst in it before you get to try out real life.
Good luck to you.

Answer 9

I've been in one for 2 1/2 years, we see each other every weekend pretty much. We email every day, but mostly we just stay busy with activities and work during the week to help with the missing each other.

There's some good things about LDR's too - depending on how far away you are from your partner- it can keep things fresh if you see each other on a regular basis like me and my guy do. Also, you have time during the week to concentrate on other things if you have intensive hobbies or other friends you want to hang out with.

It's not all bad, but I do miss him. Eventually we would like to live in the same city.

I think all the advice about being honest is good. If you start thinking things are not working out you need to have a talk.

Answer 10

In order to make it last you need to make sure that you keep in contact by calling her making sure she is okay. You two need to visit each other at least 2 to 3 times a month and when you do make it romantic and show her why you want her and only her. You need to have email, write letters, cell phones. send small gift over there. Most of all respect her let her know your schedule and know hers. DONT go 2 to 3 days without calling her since then she will start to think you do not take the relationship serous