He wears a larger diamond around his own neck I feel hurt and insulted. His budget could have gotten me a way better one. I am not spoiled and like simple things. but he makes 60,000 per year and the ring cost 2000. i will take all suggestions to heart,
2006-08-11 06:55:47 · 20 answers · asked by jennie s 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
YOu've got yourself a cheap selfish guy. He is more important to him than you. He is not a good catch. You will not have a smooth marriage with him judging from this. It's a bad start.
Choose one that you like and costing about $5000. Tell him to buy it for you. The moral of the story is ....crying baby gets the milk. If you don't let him know your unhappiness, he will take it that it is acceptable to you. A good start to your relationship with him is to let him know how you feel.....good communication is best. You will need lots with such a guy.
2006-08-11 15:00:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
A $2000 engagement ring is nothing to sniff at. You say you're not spoiled and like simple things but you really don't sound that way right now.
Appreciate what you have. My engagement ring costs $400 and I think it's a gorgeous ring. If you're in this for the money, say something. If you're in this because you love him, get over it and enjoy the $2000 engagement ring. Perhaps the wedding ring will make up for whatever you feel the engagement ring lacks.
One last thing. $2000 is not "a really cheap engagement ring." Sounds like you need to be more appreciative of what things cost and less focused on materialism.
2006-08-11 07:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by stimply 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be married, your diamond size shouldn't matter. My husband makes good money and although I could easily have upgraded the my engagement ring by now, I don't. My wedding band cost more than my engagement ring by $1200.00 I've been married 6 years and the size of the diamond in my engagement ring and what he spent on it is just not that important. I like that my new car is paid for and I live in a nice house, that we own.
2006-08-11 07:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by jtj 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the expected ettiquette for buying engagement rings is that it should cost three paychecks' worth.
If he's making 60k a year, that's like 45k after taxes. Per month that's 3750, and with two pay cycles that's 1875 per check. Therefore he should have spent a little over $5500 on your ring if he wanted to follow that conventional wisdom.
From the sounds of it, there are bigger issues than what kind of ring he bought you, otherwise you wouldn't care. It seems as though you're making the ring a focal point for whatever else is wrong in your relationship (maybe that he doesn't prioritize you?), if your assertion that you 'like simple things' is indeed true.
Have you talked to him about it?
2006-08-11 07:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should seriously re-examine whether you are ready to get married, if you are asking a question like this. First, it demonstrates that you do not understand what is important about relationships, if you are this fixated on material things. Second, it shows that you have very little comprehension of the economics of maintaining a family, because $60k per year is statistically below the poverty level in most major US cities. Sounds like you are far too young and have much too little experience with the reality of life to ever make a marriage successful.
2006-08-11 07:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by Fogjazz49-Retired 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK. You are a crybaby. My wife got an engagement ring that cost 10 cents. That is correct. 10 cents. She even gave me the dime. Got a heart shaped ring out of a vending machine. She loved it. We have been married 17 years.
2006-08-11 07:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion -- STOP BEING SUCH A WHINY, GREEDY, SPOILED BE-OTCH.
Seriously, you have a $2000 engagement ring. Do you know how many women would LOVE to have even one half that?
This was a generous GIFT. If you do not appreciate it, you need to take a step back and re-evaluate the way you live your life.
2006-08-11 07:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I know you say you're not spoiled, but based on this question, you certainly sound it. I don't want to sound mean when I say this, but I really would encourage you re-examine your priorities. What's more important to you, a great wedding or a great marriage?
I understand the want to "show off" your sparkly ring, but seriously? It's more important that he asked you to spend the rest of your life with him than what he gave you.
2006-08-11 07:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by sylvia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 Grand??? Doesn't sound so cheap to me. What were you expecting, exactly?
Isn't it strange how you just came right out and said "I am not spoiled"? Like you felt you had to defend yourself somehow. It's usually the spoiled girls who come right out and deny their behavior.
This is a moot point, but you never said how he got ripped off.
But all that being said, if you feel that strongly about it, I suppose you could break it off and go find yourself a sugar daddy!
2006-08-11 07:21:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all....60000 a year is not that good. So it is not so bad. But if you love him ....why do you care? Don't hurt him by makin him think you are expensive and that the thing you care about is a stupid ring. After time passes...you can upgrade...like on your one year anniversary. :) then everyone will be happy.
2006-08-11 07:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by sweets 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋