who pays for bachelorette party?

Question

I am a bridesmaid in my brothers wedding. We (the bridesmaids) are discussing the bachelorette party. I would like to know if it is reasonable to ask the friends of the bride (those not in the wedding) that are invited to the bachelorette party to help with the cost of transportation etc. We are considering having the bachelorette party in a larger city near us (about 2 hours away) at one of the local bars in the city.The cost of a limo would be extreme if only the three bridesmaids split the cost. I was invited to a bachelorette party recently and was told it would be $$xx amount of dollars if I wanted to go which would cover the cost of transportation. I didn't think twice when I was asked for that money. But as I read responses on here it seems that people are saying it is rude for the bridal party to ask for the "other guests" to pitch in for the cost of the limo etc.

Answer 1

its fine just make invitations and at the bottom put a friendly statement about donations... like... our broke A**es need money to pay for this kick A** bachlorette party so fork some cash our way Bioatches

Answer 2

Typically it is the maid or matron of honor's responsibility to host a bachelorette party. The host of a party also pays for the party. If the bachelorette party is being hosted by all of the bridesmaids, then the cost will be split accordingly. Invited guests are responsible for their own transportation to the party. Once the invitation is made, with details regarding location, you could casually mention that if guests would prefer to pool resources to rent a limo rather than driving so far that it would cost X amount per person and offer to make those arrangements.

Answer 3

Typically the maid of honor should be organizing everything along with the bridesmaids- if you're asking for everyone to pitch in a certain amount to ride in the limo I don't see anything wrong with it - the party is for the bride not for the guests - why should they ride in the limo for free? just be sure that its something reasonable - if the numbers still don't come to something reasonable than it might be cheaper to have the party at someone's house and hire a dancer - my girlfriends and I did that - we had a ball - everyone could kick off their shoes and relax and at the end of the night we just crashed right there. We did ours two nights before the wedding so the bride had enough time to recoup, the next day was the rehearsal, and the day after the wedding. For everything we (4) pictched in about 75 bucks a piece for the dancer (1 hour) - drinks and hors d'oeuvres

Answer 4

Technically the bridal party pay and therefore should throw a party they can afford. I had a friend who took out a new line of credit for her best friends wedding expenses. (Not that I recommend that) However, I would not consider it unreasonable to ask people to contribute, especially if there is transportation involved. I wouldn't make it manditory though you wouldn't want good friends to be unable to go because they don't have as much money as others. Plus a limo bus for three hours is only about $125 plus like $60 each hour. So were talking what $300 or $100 each. Obviously thats not the only expense, but before you start charging make sure you have a good idea what the costs are.

Answer 5

I have been to bachelorettes (and been around for several bachelor parties as well - during the planning). I have never been to one or heard of one where just the bridal party foots the bill for transportation. If a limo or a van or something is booked, everyone should chip in to pay for it. It is not the responsibility of the Maid of Honor or the bridesmaids to foot the entire bill. If the MOH would LIKE to pay, then that's fine. But it's not required.

Answer 6

I know it may see old school, but if you're following etiquette, the maid of honor pays for it. Now, I think you have a point, it's not fair or cost effective for three bridesmaids. If the people that are going on this expedition are all close friends I suggest that you phone each one of them individually and tell them what you want to do for the bride, "hey, we're thinking of throwing a bacholorette for ____ and driving out to ____, we thought that since it's going to be a great night for all of us to go out to the city and celebrate we could all pitch in and get a limo. That way we can party and no one has to be a designated driver" That way everyone thinks it's a great idea and are more willing to pitch in. Also mention how much it would meant to the bride if they went out with her on her night. It's all about how you present things. Good luck and I hope your friends aren't cheapies. Oh, don't forget to have a blast on your friend's last night as a single lady!!!

Answer 7

I think that all the bridesmaids should help with the cost of the party, If you plan on taking a limo to a larger city then it wouldn't be rude to ask others to help if they want to go. If they are friends then they should understand. Besides what is a little cost for a night of fun with friends.

Answer 8

The Maid of Honor pays for the bachelorette party.Well yes it is rude for the bridal party to ask for the other guest to pitch in for the cost of the limo.Because if you want the other guest to go then you need to fork up the money for the ones you want to go in the limo with you. and if you can't come up with the cash then scratch the limo for the party.

Answer 9

Considering that this is one heck of a bachelorette party, I would say it is reasonable for everyone who uses the limo (except the bride, of course!) to chip in to the cost. People should pay for their own drinks, cover charges, etc.

I just got invited to a bachelorette party that involves dinner, drinks, dancing, and a "girls night" in a hotel room or two and let me tell you, I have no doubt that I will be expected to pay my share even though I'm not in the bridal party.

Answer 10

For my bachelorette party, my bridesmaids chipped in together for things like my drinks and my transportation... but the other people invited were asked to provide $20 for the limo each, since they were riding in it too.
If they're riding in it as well, they should help cover the cost!
I could understand people being a bit upset if they weren't riding in it and still asked to provide money for it.

Answer 11

Um, well who's buying the drinks and food at the bar? I mean, without the money there will be no party, so explain the situation and see what happens.

Personally I think it's all a waste of money.

Bachelorette and even Bachelor parties are a ridiculous joke and entirely passe. They don't even serve a purpose anymore except to appease the minds of the bride/groom's friends that they are getting one last chance to have a 'wild' night.

I'm sorry, I must have forgotten that being someones fiancee means you aren't bound to any rules or moral restrictions. But somehow, come the following morning, being married makes all the difference...?

;rolls eyes'