Should I think my ex-girlfriend will come back? (Girls answer please)?

Question

I am 28. My ex GF is 27. I live in Phx she lives in Miami. We were together 4 mos b4 we both moved. I moved for work and she moved to go to fashion school. She is very determined to be successful in fashion. I need my career as well but we always said that we will be together in the end. We tried to make it work but her living in South Beach and me so far away made me nervous. As much as she loved me it pushed her away because I worried too much. She told me that I needed to back off a bit and just relax. I tried but I didnt want a break.. A break to me meant that we were done and that thought killed me. She always assured me I was the ONE and that we clicked on every level but she couldnt deal with the constant calls.. I totally understand. Well a week ago she told me she doesnt have feelings for me anymore. This was a week after she told me why she loves me so much but just can't do it now b/c of how busy she is. Should I just let her go? Will she come back?

Answer 1

X If you love her, set her free, if she comes back to you she'd yours, if she doesn't she was never yours in the first place. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Answer 2

The path of life tends to pull people in different directions. Some random turn of events can sometimes have the power to decide the fate of a couple. For instance, if a man is being relocated across the country due to a promotion at work, and his woman is doing just fine in her present career, they inevitably end up going their separate ways.

The first thing to understand is that a relationship across great distances does not necessarily qualify as a relationship. Let me explain.

If a guy has been dating a girl for two years and she decides to travel across Europe with nothing but a backpack and pocket change, where does this leave the duo? Well, the first thing to do in this situation is to establish some ground rules before she hops on that plane.

The couple must agree on how they will deal with this separation, and even if they will remain a couple at all. If one decides that they cannot be in a long distance relationship, while the other is ready to sacrifice a little for the sake of staying together, then they have a problem on their hands..

One option, which you have tried, is to keep everything the way it is -- whether you are 5 miles or 5,000 miles away from each other. Unfortunately, as in your case, a person tends to believe that physical space between them will not affect the solidity of the relationship because their "undying" love for each other can surpass this seemingly small obstacle.

What happens in many cases, however, is that one of the partners may start feeling lonely and begin looking around to see what the "relationship market" has to offer. Which seems to be the case with your girl.

The problem is that the terms of the relationship clearly state that this should not happen. What then?

Simply making a decision to allow each other the freedom to date other people while apart, and seeing if you still felt the same way about each other once reunited, could have prevented this situation.

With that said, I feel it is best to let her go. Allow her the chnace to seek comfort elsewhere and should the love for you be strong, she will be back. But I must admit, it will take being a strong man to welcome her back so freely. You seem like you love her alot and I am sure you know the saying, "If you love someone let them go..." Let go....and wait....but not long, because the time you spend waiting your real Miss. Right could pass you by!

Good luck!

Answer 3

She probably said that she didn't have feelings for you anymore because you were suffocating her. If she is wanting to focus on her fashion career then you should respect that. The best way to get rid of someone is to stay on top of them. If you really love her then you need to give her the space that she is asking for. You shouldn't make her suffer for your insecurities. If you guys end up not together anymore then it simply means you two are not meant to be. I can bet that your constant calls made her feel like you were "checking up" on her. As a woman, I tend to run from the men who are like this because it makes them appear "needy" Women want a man who is independent and can "survive" without their woman being up their *** 24/7. I know this sounds kind of rough, but why sugar coat the situation? Just sit back and start looking elsewhere or focus on your job or throw yourself into your favorite hobby. Go out with friends, enjoy life. If she said that you were the one, then the time and space you should be giving her just might bring her back around. Only time will tell. Until then, let it be. Good Luck!

Answer 4

It seemed like you were a little paranoid with her being so far away. My opinion is that she felt smothered by that. Stop obessessing and trust her, if she says she loves you she does, and maybe seeing that clingy side of you was something she didn't like and she didn't want to put up with that sort of an attitude from you for the rest of her life (I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just formulating a theory). You should back up, and move on, if she wants to be with you SHE'LL contact you. Let go, and don't worry whether or not she'll come back, assume she's not and enjoy your life! Good luck!

Answer 5

Let it go. It's not worth stressing every day wondering what she's doing. Expect that she's probably hooked up with some tanned muscle dude in Miami and move on with your life and find a chick close to home.

Of course, if it's meant to be, it will. But don't put your life on hold waiting.

Answer 6

I am really do believe that you should just move on. Not only does it sounds mean that she can just say oh i don't have feelings anymore, but it sound like she never had feelings before.When someone really does care for you or even love you they can never say i don't anymore because really they still do. I believe you should give yourself a break and let love find you, you will find someone who is willing to be with you forever and is on the same page as you. Don't worry, and good luck

Answer 7

yes, let her go..because if you hold on too tight she will RUN away however if you are supportive of her new exciting career path and let her know that you want her happy then she will make more of an effort to be with you maybe not as a boyfriend now but remain a significant part of her life; whom she will call, ask for advice, and know that you want the best for her. beside you said you both know you will end up together!!! Good luck!!

Answer 8

I think you both are enough adult to deal with a long distance relationship, I can understand how you're feeling but the best way to prove your love is letting her go, then she is going to understand that you are the one who love her so that you can get back to make her happy, to let her be successful. Just let her know that you're are doing that because you care about her future and you want her to be happy. If you do so, sure she is going to come back.

Answer 9

Sometimes people we love we lose. You both have different paths now. I would not put my life on hold. She has told you in her own way she is going on with her life. You should start going out and meeting others. If you find someone else so be it. Life is to be lived. You may not have a chance to do it another day. If its
meant to be someday it will. In the meantime live your life and be happy. You both can still check on each other sometimes.

Answer 10

Just move on with your life, try to distract your thoughts from her~life will move on and the pain will fade away~IF by some chance later on in life you meet again~then you can try to work on a relationship then~but for now LET HER GO~the two of you had the timing all wrong for this relationship to work at this time~ I wish you the best of luck~ :)

Answer 11

For now you need to let her go. If it is meant to be she will come back. Just an FYI you can't make someone want to her from you. Your constant calling is not going to make her more faithful or loving it is just going to make her not appreciate how good of a man she has.