Should I feel guilty about my swearing habit?

Question

When you're spending at least 60% of your waking hours at work, you can’t always help but to let your bad habits out of the bag. More specifically, I'm referring to cursing and swearing in the workplace.

I might drop a curse word on the odd occasion... ok more like every 30mins or so, but who cares about the details...

I'm not religious, but some of my colleges are and they might take offense against the use of foul language.

Should I feel guilty about cursing around them if that is part of my personality and who I am?

Answer 1

I personally mourn the loss of chivalry in society, and I think there must have been something special about a man who would never curse in front of women or children. I curse myself from time to time, but never in public or around others, and I can't seem to help but be so offended when men find it OK to curse near me and my 4-year-old daughter in public.

I have been known to confront people for this behavior. I think if you work around only guys, your behavior is simply in bad taste. If you are working around ladies, too, or customers, then your behavior is inexcusable.

BTW, I'm a Christian and I DON'T really object from a religious standpoint. I don't make a habit of asking non-Christians to act like Christians and stop sinning. I object from more of a cultural standpoint. As a woman, I like to feel the male species is in the business of protecting me and my offspring, not threatening.

Answer 2

A habit isn't apart of who you are. It's something you've created to be apart of your personality. Remember that some people may look down on you and think you are being disrespectful. Some people may not give a rats behind. Now, I'll be honest, I can't say I've never cursed before and I can't say a bad word doesn't pop out from time to time. I don't make it a habit and I try to think before I speak. Ask yourself, "Does this really make sense? Do I really need to add that extra word or two?" If you honestly feel that it needs to be apart of your vocabulary for whatever reason, then do so. Think about what may happen before you do though. "What will this person think of me?" If it is becoming a problem, try and control it. Think before you speak. It's a process, but it'll work if you really set your mind to it. I personally feel foul language is just something people say when they have nothing better else to say. Like when a person is arguing. It makes that person sound disrespecful and unknowledgeable. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 3

KingJ,

i've learned that what comes out of our mouth is an overflow of what's in our hearts-- that's what makes cussing so bad.

In general i'd say you have to be convinced that it's not a good thing to swear. If you let other people determine what's right for you- you'll spend your time trying to please others with no idea of what's personally important to you.

It's a choice you make to swear or not. To use your mouth to bless others or to curse others.

It's a part of who you've become and those who are true believers need to learn how to love people as they are- but i guess for you the question is is that who you want to remain as?

Hope that helps.

Nickster

Answer 4

Guilty? Well...if you have to ask then...

Look, if your not religious that's understandable. But the previous posters are correct that it makes you sound like a moron. I used to be in your shoes. Before I found the Lord, I would cuss all the time. I look back now and realize how retarded I sounded. It really is just one of those things in human nature. People respect those that can get the same thought across with the same emotion, without sounding like a junior high schooler. God Bless.

Answer 5

Well, if you think your colleagues are taking offense then perhaps you should refrain from swearing too much. but i think you shouldn't feel guilty about not cursing around them because you are only being "civil" and polite. Being polite shouldn't make you feel guilty because it is not suppressing your personality but it is the proper etiquette/way of dealing with other people. =)

Answer 6

Swear words are just words, the same as any other. It is the meaning that one places on their words that gives them their power. Casually uttering a swear word and not directing at any particular person should not offend anyone because the purpose of the word was not to offend.

Answer 7

Inherently,each and each persons has the substance interior to attain objective.what's lacking is the coaching,guidance,wisdom and perception to apply what we've already got.If u r afraid of something skill u r no longer arranged for that or u r no longer in habit of that.try this element regularly.do no longer think of what human beings will say,do no longer look after them bcoz it extremely is guy/female who make a mistake.think of relating to the failings u have learn.all of them learn by applying doing mistake a pair of times.

Answer 8

I find that English is a very vague and boring language. Swear words add spice to an otherwise boring exchange...like this:
(no swears) "ouch I have stubbed my toe. Boy that doesn't feel good!"
(swears)"HOLY TWATWAFFLE! My F*CKIN Big TOE!!! WHAT THE SH*T WAS THE TABLE DOING THERE ANYWAY???????"

See, with swears we now know that your big toe was stubbed, you stubbed it on the table AND that you may be drunk. Very informative.

Swear it up, they're only words...sticks and stones are the things you need to watch out for.

Answer 9

You just need to learn to use it wisely. the more you use something, the less effective it becomes.

Become an artist at cursing, that's my goal. Even the believers will respect you.

Answer 10

The use of profanity makes a person sound uneducated. You would gain a lot more respect if that wasn't part of who you are. You CAN change. You have an intelligent mind...Jim