my friend and her boyfriend have been dating going on 9 months now,she has met all of his friends been to a few of thier homes for barbecues and bithday partys and so on... well he recieved a wedding invite , it is going to be in mexico ( cabo) he has not ask her to go with him yet, although he has talked about it in front of her with his other friends that are also invited. the wedding is in november this year ( 3 months away ) should she be upset that he has not asked her? they have a great relationship everything is wonderful so it's not like thier having problems or anything like that. what should she do ? should she bring it up and just ask him why he has not ask her yet???
2006-08-11 06:14:09 · 13 answers · asked by tinker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She should just be open and ask him about it. If she isn't open with her feelings it just causes problems. Trust me. Maybe he assumed she didn't want to go for some reason. Honesty and openness is the best thing if you want a relationship to truly work.
2006-08-11 06:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by Valarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A: She's not invited.
B. She doesn't have a Air ticket or a hotel room. Is she offerring to pay her own way down there? My GF of 9 months isn't getting a free vacation to Cabo.
She shouldn't be worried, these people just aren't close with her yet. I'm guessing a wedding in Cabo is a pretty small guest list unless the father of the bride owns.. Cabo. She could certainly talk with her boyfriend about it and pursuade him to inquire if he can bring her with him. It's completely reasonable to expect after 9months. She has no right at all to be mad no matter how it goes. These are relationships he had before he met her, her understanding of them is limited in scope and it's not like she's asking to come with him to the corner store.
2006-08-11 07:07:24 · answer #2 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys r weird about this kinda thing. my boyfriend would always do that, "hey my cousins having a party next weekend" , the weekend roles along and he hasnt told me anything about the party, i would finally ask, "hey is ur cousin still having that party?" in your case "tell me more about the wedding" Seem excited but not planned to go. If he mentions something like "Arn't you excited?" ask "O i didnt know I was suppost to go" If he just talks on about the wedding and u don't hear anything that says your included, your probably not. Guys have a hard time expressing, "Well your not really invited", probably because you two are so close he doesnt want ot hurt you. Don't take it personally ita out of his control.
2006-08-11 06:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by bim1960 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she should let him go. word of advice never question a man about wat he is doing. once he realize that a woman will be in concerned about his every move he will never tell. Catch him in is on trap. Dont question him by doing that he will be worried that you are not concerned and will automatically tell you everything that you wanna know.
He may be hiding something his self. You know that a man was just convicted for having seven wifes.
2006-08-11 06:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her not to worry about it, either way if she goes she goes if she doesnt she doesnt, i dont think it should matter all that much, maybe theres a finachial issue, maybe they just invited him, think of all these things b4 u decide to have emotions about them because honestly is it really that big of a deal anyway? its a wedding they're will be plenty of those in your friends life tell her not to care because she really shouldnt neway...
God Bless
LusTlesS
2006-08-11 06:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by LusTlesS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should wait 1 or 2 more months and if he still haven't ask... then she should talk to him about it.
2006-08-11 06:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by SwEeTGuRl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he just maybe wants some me time everyone is entitled to that arent they
i dont think she should worry but if she is worrying then she should ask that would be fine if they have a good relationship they should be able t communicate
2006-08-11 06:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by pretty gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id be kinda sad that i wasnt invited but dont get your hopes up or down cuz u never no what going to happen
2006-08-11 06:17:36 · answer #8 · answered by cookieluvr2010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should let it go... trust him to go by himself... sometimes couples need time apart to make them see how much they mean to eachother... really it is up to the couple getting married who goes to their wedding.. has she met them? Tell her not to worry... he can do things w/o her.
2006-08-11 06:18:53 · answer #9 · answered by fuzzywishes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he assumes that she already should think that she is going with him, as a given. She should definitely bring it up, though. I would if it were me.
2006-08-11 06:17:49 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋