July has been a stressful time in our home. We first lost our pet dog, at that time I though that was hard. We have foster children so that was a point of understanding grief. Two weeks later my stepson only 25 died from heart failure no warning, followed by his choice of cremation, no closure. We were dealing with this when our foster daughter mom was killed in a car wreck one week later. My husband had to be strong for her and has not had time to grief. Can anyone advise me how to help him .
2006-08-11 06:10:50 · 11 answers · asked by shortansassy 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
My thoughts are with you and your family. Grieving is a very personal process and everyone is different. I know you want to help your husband, and perhaps the only thing you can do is be supportive and encourage him to talk or do things that give him pleasure. This is a difficult time for you and your family. I would focus on looking for anyway to keep things stress free, by planning time that is casual and unstructured. Giving you and your husband an opportunity to have time to be alone and without any plans can be very helpful. It is during those times that you can find insight in to what you need and can process the events that are so sad. Sometimes, just doing the routine is reassuring. Hope this helps.
2006-08-11 06:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by playitbyearinc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grieving is an important process to follow - and some of us do need help getting through it. It would never hurt to see a counselor, minister or someone in a position to advise you.
A good book to read on the subject is "When Bad Things Happen to Good People" - we've used that in our home and it gives some fantastic advice.
2006-08-11 13:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by Betty G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may benefit from a grief support group. Many hospices and funeral homes provide grief support groups. Look in the yellow pages under hospice and funeral homes. Good luck.
2006-08-11 15:16:50 · answer #3 · answered by soonerjoan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for him at nighttime when you are alone right before bed. Encourage him to talk about what he is feeling. If he starts crying that is fine. Just be there for him. You can cry too. You can all griev together. There is nothing wrong with that.
2006-08-11 13:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by Sleeping Beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him, If he gets too far down, take him to the doctor, they might prescribe some meds. otherwise, time and compassion is all you can give. Be there for him to have a shoulder to cry on, and to talk if he needs to, but let him deal with it in his own way, and dont pry!
2006-08-11 13:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like counseling is in order.
I am sorry to hear for all the loss in your family,
I hope things get better for your family.
Take care.
2006-08-11 13:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by Farmgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Sorry. Maybe you all should see a grief counselor?
2006-08-11 13:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by jessiekatsopolous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Prayer. Sometimes the most powerful prayer is 4 simple words: Lord, please help me. But mean it with your heart and let God's spirit guide you from there.
2006-08-11 13:16:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't help with your question but extrmely sorry to hear what happened.God bless.
2006-08-11 13:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will grieve in his own time and way, just let him be...no pestering, he will let you know when he needs you. so sorry your family is having a difficult time and sorry for your loses, I will keep you in my prayers....God Bless
2006-08-11 13:16:01 · answer #10 · answered by sweetiepi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋