Confused about STATUS?

Question

i really like him a lot. in fact i see a "future" with us. i am a little hesitant to say this out loud because i have been burned in the past (so has he). I know he really likes me a lot, i can see it in is eyes. just sometimes he questions me about "us" an where do i see this going and stuff. i tell him not to worry about it, just relax and take each day at a time. i dont want to say it cause i dont want to JYNX anything... when i said that last night, he got really upset and distant with me.
I jsut dont understand. I touch him a lot, sit next to him, give him little kisses and do really sweet things for him(i took him out of town on a suprise, took him to a concert that he loves!)
what does he want or need from me? i dont want to push him away, i want him to know that i care about him and that i am falling for him.
how do i get rid of his insecurities and MINE as well?

Answer 1

It sounds ike you both brought some baggage with you into this relationship and it is acting like a filter, distorting reality. You clearly do not trust each other enough to share true intimacy. You are both so guarded. It won't go too far if you keep peeking at each other over your walls.....
Every time his actions match what he says, that is another brick that should come down from the wall. When you start to share your true feelings, your secret insecurities, your fears, your desires, your needs....and what you want from him, you will be moving towards intimacy. This is the stuff you wouldn't tell your friends about.
And when you are sure of your feelings, they will show in your actions, as will his. You will confidently just know for certain, and have no doubts or questions.
Lose the baggage. You are not responsible for his, and he is not responsible for yours. Baggage is like a third party, sitting in the same room watching you when you two want to be alone. Think of it like bringing a parent along on a date.....
You can lose baggage by being thankful for the experience. You have been shown by someone in the past, what to avoid in the fiuture. You have more wisdom now. So quit choosing to be a victim who was burned. You have been given an opportunity to learn something and better yourself.
You should ask him what he wants and needs from you. Chances are, he wants to know that he is #1 as most guys do. Admire him, respect him, trust him, appreciate him. What else can you do? you can't make him feel anything, but your actions can inspire him to.....
Good luck, take care!

Answer 2

he sounds like a "user" and preys on your emotional state. ??Dont rush it and appear desperate. Give him some space gradually, then he'll see or realize what he's missing in his life and that will be YOU.

Answer 3

Time and patience. Best way, right there.