It's simple right now, just to stay away from most guys because thats all they want , and the others cant even date yet (I'm 14) But what happenes when I'm 18?
2006-08-11 05:36:04 · 37 answers · asked by yicklesnitzel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You tell them upfront. No marriage tell sex. The good ones will respect that. You will just have to be strong.
2006-08-11 05:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you end up in a serious relationship at any point in your life, just be clear from the start that that's the way you feel about it. If a guy knows from the beginning of a serious relationship (when it becomes serious, not right at the start), then he'll probably respect your wishes and not pressure you. Be sure you also take a guy's reputation into account before you choose to date him. Only date people who seem to be on the same page as you. Chances are if a guy slept with all of his past girlfriends, he will not want to change that behavior. It also wouldn't hurt to try and find an accountability partner. It could just be a friend that has the same convictions. Just make the friend a female.
2006-08-11 05:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by caitlinerika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always going to be your coice. There are no magic cure alls for not having sex- just put it into your mind that you are worth waiting for and let everyone else know it too. Just because you turn 18 doesnt mean you are required to have sex. It just means that you are now legally able to make your own decisions.
Not all boys want to have sex, and if they truly want you, they will respect your wishes and wait with you. There are TONS of other things you can do with a boyfriend that does not include getting intimate. Hugging, holding hands, even kissing is acceptable.
but if you are truly wanting to wait, good for you! Just remember you are worth waiting for and if they dont want to wait- they arent the one to be with. It also helps if you hang out with others who have the same ideals, it just makes it easier when you have support from good friends.
good luck!
2006-08-11 05:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your decision to make, and it's your right to make it.
When you begin to get serious about a guy, you simply tell them. Unfortunately you will probably lose boyfriends along the way, because you are right - some of them think a date = sex. Others think it's their right if they've spent money on you (sort of equates you to a prostitute. Nice, huh?)
You will be in the minority, believe me, but you will have your self respect, no regrets, no pregnancy or STD scares. You'll be able to sleep at night.
Hold on to that belief, and God bless.
2006-08-11 05:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that turning 18 has anything to do with it. If it's something that you strongly believe, and it has to be your belief - not just what your parents tell you, then you will stick to it. I personally think it's a great thing, something you share with your partner once you're married. It's going to mean a lot more then.
2006-08-11 10:51:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to put yourself in the situation where you'll be forced to make a decision like that on the spot - know when to draw the line and stick with it - you'll only be a virgin once and you want to make sure you give that gift to someone that is special to you, not some guy just trying to get some - good luck
2006-08-11 05:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by Big Buddy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just Keep your priorities straight. When you have a bf and things are leading to this... be honest and tell him its not what you want. if he respects your decision he might be a keeper...if they're just in the relationship for that ..they will leave..which is good because its not what you want...dont give it up to any jerk..its very good that you want to wait till your married. you will be put in situations where things might seem ok..and you'll be close to giving it up but as long as you stick to your priorities you can do it.
2006-08-11 05:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by CALI GIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just don't! Find a guy who has the same beliefs as you and doesn't seem to look at you as just a body. If you don't feel like you can trust him completely, just stay away from him.
2006-08-11 05:40:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you go out make sure your in a group situation. if you do go out one on one make sure you stay in a very public place, tell him right away your not having sex and that he is to respect your bounderies. no touching !! even the most innocent thing can lead to bigger things because your dealing with feelings and emotions youve never had before!! be honest right up front and never get alone in a private situation!! i think its a awesome thing to wait for your wedding night, theres no better gift to your husband than being a virgin, bravo, way to go!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i hope you stay with very wonderful decision!!!! good luck, GOD BLESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-11 05:48:01 · answer #9 · answered by kini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are 18 tell them on the 2nd or 3rd date , it is very rare these days to date a virgin , i would respect you for it . but you are only 14 , you have many years of pressure
2006-08-11 05:40:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating in groups will help. Make sure that you are never alone with these guys. I am so happy to hear that you are waiting until you are married. Great job !
2006-08-11 05:39:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋