I love to treat ladies with complete respect. I always hold doors open even if a lady is barely in sight. I smile at ladies politely. I let ladies go ahead of me in a que. I poor the wine and I serve dinner. But is this what ladies really like? I'll never change my way because this is how I have been brought up but ladies love the bad guy. Right?
2006-08-11 05:34:17 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are definitely a rare breed but yes, women do love a gentleman. Please don't ever change your ways! Bravo to you!
2006-08-11 05:38:16 · answer #1 · answered by Miss J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women can sense when you're putting on a show for them. They always know when the man's got an agenda, and is trying it on in the hope that he'll get somewhere with them.
Bad boys, on the other hand, don't care about women, and don't expect to actually get anything. It won't matter if a bad boy goes home alone, because in his mind it's not a failure - he's just there to have a pint and a chat, and he'll have done just that, so that's a success for him, and if he pulls, it's gravy.
A charmer, on the other hand, is there specifically to pull; not to have a pint and a chat and a good time, but just to be able to go home with some woman. Not just women can tell the difference - everybody can. To a charmer, it is a failure if he doesn't get to go to bed with someone, and a success if he does.
And this is where life gets sad.
So while you may enjoy treating women with respect, don't go overboard with it, or you'll only end up being branded a slimy loser from the outset.
But don't let it put you off going out. Last thing you want's to shun all contact with people altogether.
You just need to add sincerity to your actions, make sure you're doing what you do for the right reasons. Make that smile of yours reach your eyes, when you meet someone you know; and sometimes just say "Hi" and wave and pass on by, no ogling, no stopping to chat.
2006-08-11 05:43:38 · answer #2 · answered by fiat_knox 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They dont ALWAYS love bad guys. and its nice you have been brought up this way and always treat women with respect. To be honest this can sometimes ruin the date tho. It can attract a woman but after a while she will probably think ur TOO nice. Drop them off infront of their house and give them a kiss goodnight, dont walk her to her door and ask if her dad is home (weird past expierence). Be loose with it, be kind, but be a real person too.
Also, on another note, do you treat all women this way? Or a significant other? Save something for that special woman that comes along, the one you really want to hold the door open for. Use your effort worth while.
2006-08-11 05:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by bim1960 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women love a gentleman. My man is one, and I love it. The catch is this: are you doing it to be condescending? Think about it. Would you accept a woman holding the door open for you? Or do you think a woman has her place and needs to accept that a Man opens the door and a Woman walks through it. I am all about equality. If you want to show respect for me in those ways, accept that I want to do the same for you.
And I have to say, there is a fine line with being a "Nice Guy" and being a doormat. Nice Guys who whine about women who always go for the Bad Guy don't understand the difference. The difference is this: Treat me with respect--yes, but are you a partner or a servant? Wouldn't you expect the same respect from your partner?
2006-08-11 05:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had my share of heartbreaks and my last one came from someone who appeared to be a gentleman. What attracts me to a guy is someone who treats me like an angel, but can hold his own. I want a gentleman who is not afraid to be a man when it's needed. There's a phrase that a man wants a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets. I guess the same goes for women. I want a man who can be himself. If he's hanging out with the boys, he's not afraid to show them and the rest of the world that I'm his lady, but doing it genuinely without trying to 'stake claim'.
2006-08-11 06:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Raye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they do. The 'thrill'of a bad boy will only last so long before their selfishness comes through. Besides, you can be a gentleman AND be fun to be with. Being courteous, romantic and treating ladies well needn't be boring.
I went out with a girl a while back, and she said that she liked me because I had a 'sweet, innocent, nice-guy charm.' Her friend texted her to ask how she was getting on, and she replied that I was being 'fun, loving and totally charming' and how it made 'a lovely change' to what she was used to.
Keep treating ladies well, they will always appreciate you for it.
2006-08-11 05:42:52 · answer #6 · answered by The Global Geezer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ladies love the bad guy? (wrong) you are doing ALL the right things keep it up, theres not many like you left, women love to be treated this way, problem is it all happens before marriage then goes out the window once married.
2006-08-11 05:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of us girls go through a bit of a bad boy stage, but we soon realise they're not what we really want...Mystery is nice at first, but when you're in a relationship, someone who treats you with respect, and is a genuinely decent person is what will really keep us... If you're a good guy and you do the sweet door thing whoever gets you will be very lucky!
2006-08-11 05:46:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All this "chivalry" business is womens way of getting a guy to act like a complete pu ssy so they can have a laugh at you behind your back, they laugh at how you are totally dominated and under their thumbs. Then they will take advantage of you and go and find a bad guy to f*ck.
There is a fine line between being well mannered and a total sap, a weakling who loves to be dominated, maybe you are the latter i dont know you so cant comment.
2006-08-11 05:45:57 · answer #9 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i believe that most women can appreciate a gentleman especailly since they are hard to come by these days. Its also good to have an interesting personality and be confident in yourself. If a woman cant appreciate you for who you are than shes not for you. So just keep being a great guy and the right one will come along soon!
2006-08-11 05:50:37 · answer #10 · answered by pinklemonaid911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes we do love the bad boys, but don't get the wrong idea, eventually we will get it through our heads that we do want to be treated with respect and that we like the gentlemen kind of guys. You meet a girl the right age and she'll be ready for it...
2006-08-11 05:50:18 · answer #11 · answered by Tinker B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋