i really want to have a baby!?

Question

my sis just had a baby a few days ago and now i want to have a child! i have always wanted children and have been ready to have children for the past year - but i wanted to wait until i was married! well i am engaged and getting married in a few months, but since seeing her baby I feel like i am ready to have a child myself! i thought i was ready over the past year now i feel this strong urge and joy to want to have one! is this normal? and no i am not jealous of her new baby or anything - i love him to death and i am SO HAPPY!!!!! is this just the excitement of having a new baby around making me feel this way or what? and should i try to have a baby soon?

yes i have talked to my fiance and he is ready also! i am not making this decision on my own lol! and yes we already have a new house, new cars, both have good jobs, plenty of love, etc.... and i am 26y/o and he is 35y/o.... just to answer a few of yalls questions! thanks

Answer 1

Yes, it is natural. Little babies are addictive and precious. Ask your fiance if he is ready... most men are not ready until they have a ton of money, which hardly ever happens, but if he is up to it and you KNOW you all are together forever, then maybe you'll be making one soon. I strongly am for waiting until marriage, though. Did the single mom and the premarital sex thing and don't recommend either. Married now and expecting and I had that "mommy hunger" like mad for the last 3 years, so I KNOW how you feel! The time will be here before you know it if it is God's will. I used to walk through the baby aisle and touch and sniff all the way down....in the grocery store, in Target, wherever. Babies are the best.

Answer 2

I would wait until you are married and the baby is older to see if you still feel this way.

I have a 6 year old and a 1 year old. Well my friend just found out that she is pregnant and of course I wanted to have another one. I have come to realize it's just the excitement of knowing there is a little one on the way.

I would maybe take the baby places and have him overnight at some point, to see how if feels to you. Some do this and realize ok I'm not ready for a child yet.

Talk to your soon to be Husband about this as well :)

Answer 3

Wait until you get married. Then enjoy a few years with just you and your husband before tieing yourself down with a baby. Babies are so much work and for the next 18 years, your life is not your own. I got married at 18 to a man 12 years older with 4 kids, had 2 babies over the next 2 years. I never got to enjoy being young. I love my kids but wish I had waited. Also we were very poor and it was hard having 6 kids to support.

Answer 4

First of all ask yourself how long had your sister been married or in her current raltionship before she got pregnant. having babies in wonderful!!! (I have 5) but whe they come too soon after you got married they can sometimes bring a little more stress to the both of you. before you have a baby you need to make sure you are mentally and emotionally ready for one. Right after the baby is born it is a great a hpappy time but then one yearlater when that baby is walking and your trying to keep up with him it is a little different. Ask your spouse to be how much he is willing to help, is he willing to call of work to take the baby to the docotr if you can't do it. Is there some extra money for a baby. I think you should wait at least for about 6 motnhs after you got married to get pregnant. For now enjoy being an aunt and spoil your niece/nephew.

Answer 5

I have two children. 19 months and 3 months. Having a baby is a wonderful venture and the best part of life, for me. Before you try for a baby: #1: are you ready to be a parent for the rest of your life through the good times and bad? #2: Does your partner want to have children and do you have common views on raising children? #3: Have you talked with your health care provider and had a physical exam to see if you are ready to try for a baby? For example, your healthcare provider will probably have you take vitamins and folic acid before you start trying. This will help keep your pregnancy healthy and new baby as healthy as possible.

Answer 6

My recomendation is that you wait. I know that you are not jealous but your sister will think so. She will think that you are trying to "steal here baby's thunder", Im not sure if you know what I mean. Even if you think you are ready, I suggest get married first and LOVE the time that you spend with your hubby first. Have some time for the both of you only, then after all that, go ahead to with baby idea. Trust me, you will not regret the time spent alone with your hubby, this is how great relationships last.

Answer 7

Having a new baby in your life is an awesome adventure but also a big change and a lifetime of responsibility. My suggestion - wait until you get married, and then wait another year after marriage before starting. This will give you and your husband a chance to experience each other and really a bonding time, if you will. Until then love on your nephew as much as you can, and get your "baby fix." blessings =)

Answer 8

It's just the new baby being around. You are getting ready to get married and as cute as babies are you really need to take time and just enjoy being alone with your man when you can. Getting married changes things, sometimes the marriage doesn't work out and having babies adds another demension of change so you just take your time. Enjoy it. You will be a mom soon enough

Answer 9

think about it.. spur of the moment is not a good thing when it involves a tiny life you must manipulate and help.

no, don't try to have a baby soon.. watch from your sister.

ok, take lessons... wait a while.. don't be in a hurry... remember baby is a huge responsibility! a big one! you won't have the same life after having one.

there's more to having a baby than what to plan for the future.. you must make sure you're in the right mindset, prepared.. your health is in line for not only the baby but yourself too... you got to be prepared in a whole 360!

talk to others who had children... not just newborns.. but those who now have kids in school, kids who are in college.. kids in general and those who's children now have children.

take YOUR TIME!

Answer 10

well start trying the night after the wedding. i'm sure you can wait a few months besides you already have the wedding planned right. well most of it at least. besides you'll have your sisters baby to have to spoil for now and it may prepare you for a baby more than you'll ever know. and its just your motherly instinces to have a baby or your bilogical clock. yes its very normal.
personally i would wait and give the marriage life at least 3 years. i wish i would have had that time to enjoy being married first. we got preg a few months after marriage but i wouldnt change it for the world. but if you have the choise i would try to wait and be newlyweds for a couple years. and it will give you time to prepare finically to have a baby.