cause alot of my friends are turning that wat should i do
2006-08-11 05:23:53 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know if people so much "turn" gay, as much as they are born gay and then realize it one day.
As far as what to do about all your friends... well, if you can't beat 'em, join 'em!
2006-08-11 05:25:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Turning gay is a complex proccess to understand. It involves predisposed sexual dispositions (Perhaps genetic, though the research hasn't indicated that yet). It also involves nurture issues. This can often be caused by unusual family situations, where there mother or father doesn't provide the role model they might have expected. The other factor (and probably a big part of what you're experienceing now) is social pressure. When you're young in High School and College, it's natural to try and find your place in the world. Sexuality is very confusing. Research has indicated clearly that everyone has occasional homosexual tendencies. Since most people have been raised to be heterosexual, or have a spouse already, or have friends that wouldn't accept it, they immediately dismiss the idea. Others though begin to toy with the thought, especially if many of their friends are also toying with the thought of homosexuality. If they think about homosexuality enough, this can convince them that they are "Naturally" homosexual. This type of social pressure is a big reason you see lots of homosexual people in the same careers (ie. dancing, theatre).
2006-08-11 05:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by anazagarus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you a heterosexual? Could someone make you "turn gay"? I am not talking about a single experience or some experimentation, I mean a total change of sexual preference in relationships.I think not! The predilection for same sex emotional involvement has to be there,,inside of a person just waiting to be expressed or at least tested. If a bad relationship, or even several of them with the opposite sex was cause for people to turn gay, more than 80% of the world would be gay!
Your friends may be experimenting, testing the waters. Do not let their choices make you turn from them,as you would not expect them to dump you because of your choices.Be patient, understanding, and non-critical....if you can. If not,then move on to a circle of friends you have more in common with in your own "comfort zone".
2006-08-11 05:46:15 · answer #3 · answered by dynamitewoman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why they do I don't know, but they do TURN gay. Why would some lady post a question on here about her and her husband of some odd years having two girls together and then he leaves her, because he decided he was gay.
You are not born gay. Gay is learned and that is all there is too it. Some guys decide they like getting it up the **** by another guy. I don't know why and can not fathom any reason why a guy would want to do that. Being gay is not natural. If it were then gay people could reproduce with each other.......huh they can't, so NOT NATURAL.
2006-08-11 05:30:33 · answer #4 · answered by Highroller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't turn gay, they are born that way. It may seem like they just turned gay but it's only because they feel that they can be open about it now when they couldn't before. If you are a good friend you will accept your friends for who they are. Now if for any reason they try to hit on you and that makes you feel uncomfortble let them know and if they are good friends they will stop. If they don't stop then they are not good friends and you should make new friends who will respect you.
2006-08-11 05:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by babe112083 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think that people turn gay, i think that they always were but tried to fight against it at first because of the pressure from friends and family to be "normal" (whatever THAT is!)
I also think that you are thinking of experimenting, or else you wouldn't have asked what you should do.
Try it, and if you don't like it then stay with us girls! Just make sure that you try with someone who's not gonna tell everybody about it in case you decide it's not for you - could get a tad embarrassing!
2006-08-11 05:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iv know idea but Iv’ liked someone on and off for about 3 years and he has now came out and said he is gay and getting married!! Im still in shock as he never gave any indication and has had many relationships with woman. I don’t understand how he can get to the age of 32 and only come out now and where the future wife has came from? GOD KNOWS!
2006-08-11 05:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by lynx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do not turn gay. Your friends are just comming out at the same time. They have been gay all along but they didn't have the confidence to come out before because they thought they were the only ones. Now that they feel like they have someone they can relate to, it's easier for them to come out. They knew they were gay before, they've just been keeping their feelings inside. Trust me...some of my friends are gay and i am too. and it was easier for me to come out knowing i had someone to support me.
-So, ur not gonna turn gay because your friends are "turning" gay. People don't turn gay. They either are or they aren't. : )
2006-08-13 08:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by petvet32190 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem when I was in school. I thought I actually was bi for awhile. I am not , thank goodness. You have to decide if you can handle being friends with someone like that. I couldn't so I got rid of all ot them ( they were also into drugs and everything. I didn't want to be around anyone like that. ) If you can't handle it , find new friends. Its tough , but its worth you happiness.
2006-08-11 05:29:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't "turn" gay. They have always been gay...unfortunately in this society it's judged as wrong and some narrow minded people treat them as if there is something wrong with them when they are just being true to who they are. My advice to you would be to accept your friends for who they are! that's what real friends do. They are the same people, you just have new information regarding their sexual orientation. If you love your friends you will accept them for who they are. Its not like there going to give your their "gay" germs....that's just ignorance!! It may help you to talk openly with them about it with an open mind. I'm not gay myself, but, I have many gay and lesbian friends and even relatives. don't cheat yourself from having wonderful people in you life. best wishes to you!
2006-08-11 05:36:09 · answer #10 · answered by Joeygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't just turn gay but they weren't born gay. In their first few years, they just realize that they are gay and not interested in the opposite sex..thats all.
2006-08-11 05:26:43 · answer #11 · answered by Justine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋