I wanna ask you guys bout how you feel when your boyfriend always complaining bout your face..what I meant is when he's comparing you with some other chicks..dont you feel mad? recently, I hang out with my boyfriend and some other friends..and we take pictures of us. but when they back to college, they displayed it on a computer..so my boyfriend was so ashamed! and he said that my face was so ugly in that camera! he was so ashamed of me, until he delete it right after that..so that his friends will not save it on their computer..he ask me to "fix" my face! do what ever I can to make it beutiful! Because he said that I have so many pimples and scars..not like when he sees me on our first date 2 years back..huh..I self confience was so low after he said that to me..After that incident, I saw all my friends were so prettier than me..I could'nt even look at the mirror..what should I do? Is it true that all men wants to have beautiful girlfriend? How bout us that doesnt have preety face??
2006-08-11 05:23:36 · 29 answers · asked by Diana85 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The guy sounds like a real LOSER. Dump him, quickly. A REAL boyfriend wouldn't compare you to other girls - physically or otherwise. It's just as bad as if you would compare him to other guys (which you should consider doing just so he gets a taste of his own medicine).
2006-08-11 06:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by Grifter 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What are you doing? He's definitely no kind of friend for you to keep around.Your self esteem will take a quantum leap upward as soon as this jerk is out of your life,babe.
When you have a clear idea of who you are and what you are truly capable of achieving,I don't know why or how it happens,but your real beauty that starts in your spirit will begin to manifest in your physical body.
If you really have troubled skin,you may need to change the way you care for your skin.See a doctor/ dermatologist about that.But you can also invest time in reading up on skin care and beauty in any reputable girl's/ women's magazines. I've had great input and advice from Seventeen,Self,Glamour and other such magazines.
Keep it real! And remember, it's better to have the most terrible case of acne than a character that that can only utter hurtful ugly words.Tell your EX-friend this next time he has anything less than complimentary to say about your personal appearance.
2006-08-11 07:41:56 · answer #2 · answered by Mimi U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are being serious with this question, then here is a serious answer: DUMP THAT PIECE OF CRAP OF AN EXCUSE FOR A MAN. Seriously, if he doesn't love you for WHO you are, he doesn't love you and won't ever. Just because you do not look the same as you did two years ago is no excuse to treat you like garbage. Anyone who would be that cruel to the person they supposedly love is not the person you think they are anyway.
And no, my husband would NEVER dream of saying something like that to me. Why would he purposely hurt me and make me feel bad about myself and generally sad? Just as I would never do that to him. Neither one of us is the same person (physicaly OR emotionally) that we were 8 years ago when we met but that doesn't mean we don't love each other just as much, if not more, now.
Of course people want to be with someone "beautiful" but the simple fact is that only about 2% of hte population fits that description. The rest of us all have flaws, which our partners agree to love regardless. I'm sure your bf has some flaws which you kindly do not point out to him. Seriously, dump the loser.
PS: Carrots are my secret "fix" for face issues... eat a pound a week of baby carrots (or more) and you will notice a dramatic improvement in a few weeks.
2006-08-11 06:48:23 · answer #3 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it is true that the *majority* of men want a pretty girlfriend that they can show off to their friends. But that is not all the male species, just most of them. There are some that don't really care what a girl looks like. You just have to look really hard for them...and it will take some time. I'm in the same boat you are...not very pretty so I completely understand what you are going through. But first things first, dump your current jackass boyfriend. What he is doing to you is called emotional abuse, and no one deserves it, including you. Trust me, you'll start to feel better after you ditch him. Hope everything work out for you!
2006-08-11 05:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to delete him from your life. If he treats you this badly now, it won't get any better. And there's nothing you can do to be as "perfect" as he wants you to be. There are plenty of people out there who will like you for you, and not constantly compare you to others. He needs to continue his search for the "perfect person". But since nobody is perfect, his search will take a lot longer than yours. If you just want to punish him, you could always start doing the same thing to him. "I wish your butt was as cute as that guys.....could you fix that?" "I like his nose better and that would look good on you.....why don't you have plastic surgery?". Make him see what it feels like to be put down, and THEN dump him.
His attitude is not allowing you any self esteem. He's at fault for that. But you are at fault for letting him get away with it. I'm sure you are very beautiful. He's the ugly person here, not you.
2006-08-11 05:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by kj 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is an @ss! Get a new boyfriend. He obviously likes your personality but feels as if your inner beauty should show on the outside, too! He just doesn't want others to make fun of him because of your face.(which I'm sure is fine!!!) I'm sure he isn't so hot either.
2006-08-11 05:29:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby, everything's fine. He might just be trying to "show off" to his friends but acting nonsensitive, while not realizing that he's hurting your feelings. A woman's face is a beautiful thing to see, so it never merits criticizing it.
You need to tell your man to stop these criticisms because they are hurting your feelings. Warn him next time he does it, you'll make fun of his shortcomings in front of YOUR friends. I guarantee a 180 degree change.
2006-08-11 05:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by Kookoo Bananas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most people want "stuffs" beautiful, thats true. but that's too much of him to blow something like that on you. there's always a good way of saying things. besides, if he cannot accept you for who and what you are, then time to dump him. i smell some kind of an ****** there. No good person deserves to be treated badly.
GoodLuck to you.
AND NO, im lucky that even if I dont have perfect skin and complexion, no one of my romantic partners (past and present) ever blew down my self esteem like that.
2006-08-11 05:35:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you except that you're dating a jerk. To become gorgeous, the first step is to dump him. He's just holding you back from becoming the beautiful person that you already are.
2006-08-11 05:55:57 · answer #9 · answered by Mimi 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIS @$$!!! HE'S A CURBER!!!
I'm sorry, but that's just the BFL.
There are men who are more deserving and men who can see your real beauty and men who know not to insult the women they're with. Let him get away with this now and he'll get worse later, guaran-damn-teed.
*hug* Your face isn't nearly as ugly as his soul, truly.
2006-08-11 05:26:19 · answer #10 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋