Question about my 2 year old daughter......?

Question

Okay. For some time now we have had to put our daughter to bed and let her cry herself to sleep. She stands in there and says.."get down please, get down please". We do not go back in and she is still in her crib. How do we get her to go to bed without crying herself to sleep every night. Also, when should I move her to a toddler bed? We have no idea since she won't even sleep in the crib so when we move her to the big bed we think she will just climb out and go back to playing. What do we do? Please help.

Answer 1

thats a hard question what we did with my daughters they are 13 months apart we would read them a story and after that they had to go to bed in their big girl beds the toddler bed in itself might do the trick just explain your a big girl now and if that doesnt work put on a 30 min movie and let her watch til she falls asleep

Answer 2

I have a two year old myself and I had the same problem. What I found was that if you go in there calm her down tell her everything is all right, lay her back in the bed and leave the room she eventually went to sleep with no problem. It took about a week for this to work. You may have to go in there several times but its just to let her know you're still there and to reassure her that all is well. Also if a child can get into and out of a toddler bed on her own than she is ready to go to that bed. We skipped right past the toddler bed and our daughter is in a twin bed now and she still wont be two for another month or so and she does just fine.

Answer 3

All three of our girls were in a "big" bed - toddler bed that fits a crib mattress at around 15-18 mths. They all went through a period when they were adjusting that they would get out of bed and play for a while and often would end up falling to sleep on the bedroom floor. My oldest really enjoyed sleeping in front of the door so that her dad and I couldn't get into the room.

I would try putting her in a 'big" bed and see how she does. Just don't be discouraged when she gets out often during the first few days to a week. She will adjust quicker than you think.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

my son will be two next month and he has been in his toddler bed since about 1 and a half. I moved him into it because i noticed that he could put his foot on the railing of the crib and it seemed too dangerous. He goes to bed every night at 8:30 on the dot and most of the time he goes right to sleep. there has only been a few times he has cried and 1 time when he got back up and i told him to get back in bed and he did. then he went to sleep. my sisters daughter does the same as yours and the only difference in mine and hers is that i put him to bed at 8:30 with no exceptions. now he even tells me about 5 minutes before that its bedtime... too cute.

Answer 5

I would try the bigger bed and see how she handles it. You may be surprised at the fact that she sleeps better knowing she's not closed in. Try starting an everyday ritual w/ her like reading a short story or letting her tell you one of her own. She's only 2, so her stories may not be that exciting, but her imagination will astound you! I started my daughter out w/ a full-sized bed and she never had any problems falling out of it. It allowed her to spread out and move around while sleeping. Maybe your daughter has a fear of the dark and needs a nightlight of some sort. If you have to go to extremes, lay w/ her for about 15 mins. to help reassure her that it's safe to go to bed. Each week, cut the time down by a few mins. Hopefully w/i a couple of months, she'll feel comfortable going to bed like a big girl!

Answer 6

I have a 2 yr old and he does the same thing. He is already in a toddler bed and he will come out of his room. All I do is set a routine before he goes to bed. Pick toys up, bath, book, prayers, then I tell him to sleep well and that I am going to go clean the house and I will come back and check on him. He will test me so I calmly take him back to his bad and let him learn to fall asleep by himself. If you sit in the room with her she will only want you there all the time and then you will have to break her of that. Your doing what is best right now for her. She will learn, it might take some time but she will understand bedtime.

Answer 7

It sounds cruel, but you are doing exactly right. You both want her to understand that you mean what you say. It sounds like she's not used to sleeping in her crib. If this is so you are on the right track. Children learn the most between birth and 5 years old. You want her to understand when mama and daddy say its bedtime , its bed time, stay firm, kiss her good nite, let her know you love her and bed time. She will get the picture sooner than you think, just stick with it .Hope this helps.

Answer 8

use the "big girl bed" as a reward for her. Have a set bedtime, and make sure she knows when it is. 9:00 is usually good. get her a digital clock and show her what 9:00 looks like. And make sure that she goes to bed at that time everyday! Don't budge. She will eventually get used to it. Go in and check on her every once in a while, but don't talk to her as she is trying to go to sleep. Just ignore the crying. I know it will be hard but if you stay strong it won't last too long. But let her know that as soon as she can start going to sleep without crying she will get a new big girl bed!! But don't yell at her. She needs to relax to be able to go to sleep and if you yell at her it will add stress.

Answer 9

Your 2 year old is insecure about something. Give her time to settle down. Give her a warm bath... read her a book with her favorite pillow, blanket, or baby doll, stuffed animal. What time is she going down for the night? She simply might not yet be tired. Is she showing signs of being tired. Talk to her when you read to her and tell her you love her and that mommy and daddy are here. Tell her it is time for bed. Every time she crys go to her, but don't pick her up. Pat her on the back or give her a hug. She might just want reassurance. My 2 year old has a night light some back ground music.

Answer 10

I don't believe in letting them cry themselves to sleep. I think they might be afraid of being alone, I don't want them thinking that mommy don't care they are crying. With my two sons I have always stay with them until they fall asleep. What I do is I put them in their crib, I put some soft classical music, read a book, then I talk to them. I tell them it's time to sleep. My youngest is the most stubborn, at first he cry his hart out, but I talked to him in a soothing voice (even though I was stressed out for all the crying). Eventually he got the point. Now he falls asleep (even though he still wakes up at night calling me, but all I do is go to his room, rub his back and he falls sleep again.