I'm conservative when it comes to relationships, since I'm not allowed to date for two years anyway and I don't want to hurt anyone. But I think I've liked a guy(let's call him Steve) for three years, and each year I get a little surer. But now, my friend seems to have fallen in love with him. Just out of the blue, she say's she's over her last boyfriend, and thinks that Steve is the best thing since Resees Peanut Butter Cups. She wants me to find out if he likes her, and to let him now she likes him. I want to help her, but I'm afraid that if things don't work out with them, and I later want to try to have a relationship with "Steve", that would make me a bad friend and hurt her feelings.
Should I give up on my crush of three years, or tell my friend that I kind of like Steve? I'm just afraid of ruining our friendship....
2006-08-11 05:17:50 · 12 answers · asked by Junior 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The "two year date ban" isn't a ban. My father says I'm not allowed to date until I'm 16, and I'm only 14 right now.
2006-08-11 05:30:49 · update #1
Tell him ur feelings, just pour ur hear out. dont worry just do it.
2006-08-11 05:19:37 · answer #1 · answered by Skye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about everyone else but now I'm hungry for peanut butter and chocolate. Seriously, you need to figure out exactly where everyone stands. Tell your friend that you like "Steve" too and have for a long time. See what she thinks, if you are true friends you guys will work things out. If she puts you in the position of fixing your own crush up with her, knowing how you feel for him I don't think she values your friendship that much. You both need to approach this guy on your own in your own way and see who he goes for. And agree that whoever gets him won't have to worry about losing a friend in the process.
2006-08-11 05:31:03 · answer #2 · answered by Big Thinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tricky, because I normally say, don't let a guy come between you, but if you've liked this guy for 3 years, I say he is rightfully yours. First you need to tell your friend this, and yeah, she's going to be upset, and get ready for a big rumble, cause it's bound to happen. Then, you need to tell the guy. Who cares if you aren't actually allowed to date yet, there are other ways to spend time together. If the guy isn't interested in you, then it's fair game for the friend to date him then.
2006-08-11 05:22:52 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to Steve first and get his take on it.
Faint heart ne'er won fair lover.
What's with the two-year date ban?
2006-08-11 05:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that you need to talk to the both of them. Let them both know how you feel. In other words don't give up. Never do that!! If you and ur friend was good enough friends, then she'll understand. Tell them...
Good Luck!
2006-08-11 05:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way--don't give it up!!!! Does your friend know that you have liked this guy for 3 years? If she has--I would wonder about her friendship. I have never stepped on my friends if I find out that they like someone that I think might have potential. I think it's rude. If she does know--tell her you can't talk to him about his feelings for her & vice versa. If she doesn't know, I encourage you to share how long you've liked him, etc.
YOU need to talk to him about your feelings, even if you're not allowed to date for 2 more years. Seriously. At least he would know. You'll always be wondering "what if", if you give up your feelings for your friends'.
2006-08-11 05:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell "Steve" how you feel and then tell your friend that you have like him for years if she is a true friend she would understand.
2006-08-11 05:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by Brooklyn Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know, im 13 and i like a girl. and it took me over 2 years to be prepared to tell how much i like her and that i do like her. then my grandfather's brother died and i realized that life's too short to wait. so i told her, and she didnt like me back in the same way, but now we are the closest friends. and i also thought that if no one was liking her and she didnt go out with anyone, there's a chance that she might go to me, cuz she knows i like her, am her friends and got her back for anything she needs support with.
so tell him cuz it might be too late and maybe he'll go back to you
so about your friend tell her too, cuz she may not know if you liked him or not. let your heart, cuz if you dont...it might be too late for you to let it's feelings forever.
2006-08-11 05:31:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
bros before hoes, says boys.
So talk to your friend about it and tell her you've liked him for 3 years and dont want to tell him about her. Because you've been working up the guts to do it for yourself.
2006-08-11 05:28:05 · answer #9 · answered by Ms cool pants. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say how u feel is what will make u better not him!
2006-08-11 05:26:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋