My best friend is a guy we've been friends for like 8years. We talk about everything. I'v noticed he always puts down the guys i like or would like to go out with. When were in a group he acts like he's my boyfriend. I know he does't want me as his gf he talks to me about all his relationships and stuff. What does that mean? He got me confused. Let me know what ya'll think and what i should do?
2006-08-11 05:13:24 · 24 answers · asked by BBW 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just because he talks to you about his relationships doesn't mean he doesn't want to be with you, maybe he does that just to see your reaction?
I think it would be fun if you played the game along with him next time - be all over him and who knows - maybe by the end of the night you'll both be honest about your true feelings and do something about it!
2006-08-11 05:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have lied about not wanting you to be his gf. But, take it for what it is worth, he is your friend one way or the other and is looking out for what he believes to be your best interest. Talk to him about it, maybe he will express his true feelings. He told you that he didn't want to date you because you hadn't expressed an interest in him that way. So he is doing the next best thing and keeping other guys from you. Even if he was honest with you about his feelings, he has an outside perspective on these other guys and may see something that is not blinded by the "puppy love" concept. Talk to him about it. See what he says.
2006-08-11 05:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by Highroller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds that he has some attachment to you. If he says it's not a boyfriend/girlfriend thing then maybe he's acting out the "older brother" thing. just eyeballing the guys who approach you and sizing them up.
Of course this throws a wrench into your plans. maybe you should tell him that if he hasn't designs on you to back off alittle. If you have a bad feeling about a guy then allow him to get involved and make a judgment. that is of course if you truly value it. As it stands it sounds as though he's more of a deterrent that a benefit.
Good luck
2006-08-11 05:19:17 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart it happens wen two people share a bond for 8 years.specially that of a friendship.which is less fussy then an affair.it is quite obvious on his part as he fears losing a frend with whom he's sharing his life.i feel that u shud directly ask him what r his intentions bcoz if sumhow u both get involved in sum other relationship then this insecurity may hamper ur personal lives and may b at sum point u realize that ur relationship holds more than frendship
2006-08-11 05:20:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My experience has been that guys dont hang around you unless they like you or want something from you. He likes you. You know what they say, the best thing is to be best friends first so you might have quite the relationship if you guys ever decided to do that.
2006-08-11 05:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I am exactly like the guy u r describing here...I can tell you thath he is just being protective of you...After being friends for that long it is like gaining a sister...Also I do it because I do not think the guys are good enough for my friend...Ill let her know when she finds a keeper...maybe yours is doing the same too...we just want to save y'all some heartbreak...is that so wrong? (unless he does like you) if he doesnt then just trust him...trust me we guys can spot a wolf in sheeps clothing from a mile away...like girls can with other girls)
2006-08-11 05:20:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he likes you. If he is talking to you about his other relationships, then probably he wants you to get jealous and make the first move. I think you should probably ask him out ..that is if u like him. Or else you should ask him why he is behaving that way.
2006-08-11 05:17:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my first instinct would be to say that he does like you in that way, but since you say he doesn't, I dunno. Maybe the fact that you two have been friends for so long has made him take on a "brotherly" role where you are concerned. Perhaps he just feels protective of you, and no one will ever be good enough for you.
2006-08-11 05:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He as no doubt developed a very strong comfort zone with you. Whether you want to call that love or friendship. But any threat to that comfort zone, will provoke a little animosity or jealousy i would think. Been guilty of that myself.
2006-08-11 05:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by betafish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably likes you but is scared. A best friend is a lot to risk on a relationship, and he probably realizes that.
2006-08-11 05:16:29 · answer #10 · answered by Wolf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋