When marriage is concerned, if there are problems between the two families, what should be done?

Question

Think of this, if the boys parents reject the girl citing family background , how should the couple plan their future and married life, what steps can be taken to avoid trouble? What problems would come more than rejection? Is there any way to avoid the rejection...

Please answer me...

Answer 1

Make sure that both of you are on the same page and agree to stick together no mater what. Try to solve this problem try to sit down as a couple with the family and come to work-able terms. If this can not be done at least you have tried and now you go on with your life as a couple. Just remember you are marrying each other not the family's. Good luck I know this will be hard for both of you. All so remember that this should not come between the two of you.

Answer 2

That's a tough one because you don't just marry the guy and he doesn't just marry you. Think, if you can, about the grounds on which the guy's family reject the girl. Your guy came out of that background and was shaped by it. (BTW, have you ever seen the movie Love Story, or read the book? Your problem is a one of the themes.)
Do you see the possibility of "winning them over" and how much will that take out of you? If you feel the rejection and you husband waffles even a little tiny bit, how are you going to feel about that in ten years? No way to avoid the rejection. It's something you'll have to deal with. If the family is very close knit and tight, examine your guy's mind very closely indeed. Marriage is very difficult and tough enough without taking on problems above and beyond money, beliefs, and children. If you feel it's discrimination (rejection based on no rationality), you have a real shot at changing their collective minds as they get to know you.

Answer 3

Well the boy has to be as strong as the girl and willing to pursue - confirm this NOW. Don't be shocked later. The girl can't change her family background, but if she perseveres as does the boy, then the parents will have to give in eventually. But I hope it's not the case that the girl will then live with her in-laws, coz it might not be a very easy ride at all, being taunted about her family background everytime the minutest of things goes wrong! So be well aware of the dangers that face you...

I would become pally with the boy's remaining family, e.g. siblings etc and get them all on your side... persuasion and "good" behaviour is your only shot! You may try showing you're good in more ways then one (educated, willing to become something in life, qualities of a good wife-to-be)

But if lingers for too long, do walk away in time. And oh yeah, it won't be easy... so be sure you wanna do this.