My mom has been playing favorites for 25 years now, but she doesn't think she is. This is a long story so.....

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If you don't fell like hearing it, then that is fine. But I need to tell it. I have 3 sister's. I'm the youngest. From the day I was born (and she has told me this) she was upset that I was not a boy. Well as I was growing up I was daddy's favorite, and for that my mom and sisters wern't very happy with me. It was not my falt. anything I wanted my dad would try his best to give it to me. Well last year it all got way worse. My dad passed away. From that night on my 2 older sisters and me have gotin along fairly well. but my other sister has tryed her best to turn our mom aginst me. No suprise, it worked. Now she doesn't talk to me. I have tryed to talk to her and tell her how I fell but she doesn't take my serously. She just says that my other sister is not trying to turn her aginst me, and that she love all of us the same. Yet I'm the only one she is not talking to anymore, and I'm the one my other sister hates the most. What should I do? I have just given up trying to talk to her. Is

Is that the right thing for me to do? P.S. Sorry for any misspellings, I'm really upset about this.

I would try to go to her and discuss the issue without your other sisters present

I did that and nothing came out of it.

Wow. You sound like Cinderella. Try turning them into crows.

LOL I wish.

Yes you are doing the right thing. Hopefully your mother will see what your sister is up to and contact you. You can only wait until then. Try not to obsess about it and try get on with your life. It is sad for you I know. Your sister sounds vendictive and mean.


I am sorry for the loss of your dad. I know how hard that is.

Good luck to you

Thank you so much, and yes she is vendictive and mean. she has been that way for as long as I can remember. When my dad was dying she said "I wish he would hurry up and die." My mom don't know she said that. But that should give you some idea of how she is.

I haven't talked to her in almost a month.

Move out.

I don't live with her.

Just don't turn your back on your family because they are all you have

But do I really need a family that will pick fights with me, and not listen to what I say?

Answer 1

Yes you are doing the right thing. Hopefully your mother will see what your sister is up to and contact you. You can only wait until then. Try not to obsess about it and try get on with your life. It is sad for you I know. Your sister sounds vendictive and mean.


I am sorry for the loss of your dad. I know how hard that is.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

It's never 'right' to give up on family, but some times you have to step back and look at it a little differently. If your mom isn't talking to you, have one of your sisters update you about what's going on in the family and keep in touch with the sisters you do get along with.
All of my life my older brother has been my mother's favorite, there's only the two of us kids. No matter what I said or done, it was always my brother that got the special treatment. I just rolled with the blows and went on with my life. It's all you can do if she isn't talking to you.
Go to the family holidays but don't plan on staying long if your mother starts harking on you. Don't be rude to her either, just excuse yourself and leave. She's still your mother.
Your sister is fair game for a tongue lashing if she starts in. At least as far as I'm concerned she is. But this might bring mom's wrath down on you.
Keep the peace as long as you can. Be polite and friendly toward both mom and sis and walk away if things get too thick. That's all you can do if no one listens when you speak.

Answer 3

I went thru something just like you. My brother was the favorite. My Dad leaned towards me. After I lost my Dad, I moved to CA from MI. I had to have some space. (Since my Dad was ill before he died, I was at home with my parents taking care of him.) When I left, something must have happened to open Mom's eyes. Long story short, when Mom found out she was ill (cancer) she came to me in CA to take care of her. I have no regrets. We made peace, and I can now handle all the other stuff that happened before.

My point is this - Give your Mom some space. Since you were your Dad's "baby", and she is still in the morning stage, every time she looks at you, she sees something of him. Your sister is just jealous of you. Give both of them space. Sounds hard - but don't call them for a while. If you usually call once a day - start stretching it out. Start missing a few days. Believe me - something will happen to show your Mom what's really going on. Remember - just because you're not there every minute for all, does NOT mean you don't love them!
Good Luck!

Answer 4

My mother has done it for the last thirty years and she will look you in the eye and say she isn't.
But she has more to do with my older brother and my younger brother then she does with me. I just except it and go on with my life.
If you let this get the best of you, you will end up with a stomach full of ulcers.
Just go on with your life and let things go as they will.
Just don't turn your back on your family because they are all you have.

Answer 5

Well i'm sorry about your lost....but i would not completly stop speaking with my mother. I would try to go to her and discuss the issue without your other sisters present....you need to get to the root of the problem..You only get one mother and father...so you must cherish them while their here. Hopr that helps

Answer 6

Wow. You sound like Cinderella. Try turning them into crows.

Answer 7

Marry a rich guy and live in a big house and don't invite her over.

Answer 8

Move out.

Answer 9

my situation is the reverse i haven't spoken to my father in years and after all this time i really don't want to and i don't need him i say it`s your moms loss