I'm 16, 5'8" average build (working on that), brown faux hawk, male. I am intelligent and creative and (I like to think) and individual. I'm NOT emo or hardcore or anything like that, but I AM bisexual. What I mean to say is that I don't fit the bi stereotypes and I absolutely HATE stereotypes. My dilemma is that I absolutely can't find a guy. I've had girlfriends before and I know that I am boyishly cute, as all of my female friends tell me that. I have a good personality, I like to be myself and I am really funny. I think that the problem is that I'm not a big partier and therefore don't meet anyone new at parties, like some people do. What do you think the reason is?
2006-08-11 04:59:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Could be you are only curious and not really bi, therefore, not really trying to attract males.
2006-08-11 05:03:16 · answer #1 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think part of the problem is that you are not being patient enough with yourself, and with life. It is still not accepted for boys to be attracted to other boys as much as girls to other girls. Unfortunately, because of that "taboo," it makes it harder for guys to open up about that kind of attraction. In high school everyone is so obsessed about being accepted and everyone observes others to get an idea on how to act so that they may be accepted. Sports are such a "macho" way to go through school and it still doesn't promote individuality so much as the "team." with all of that testosterone being flung about it would still be very hard on you if you "let yourself out" right now. I see your dilemma. Remember, you are still young and there is plenty of time. Sometimes certain fantasies are better left fantasies, at least for the time being. Try not to be in such a hurry and know that you are a good guy with a lot to offer. If you believe this about yourself and keep putting the energy "out there," the universe will provide. Have faith and it will come, maybe not as fast as you would like, so be patient. It will happen. I hope that this helps a little. take care.
2006-08-11 05:09:15 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't forget that the field for guys is much smaller. Half of the people you meet are girls, while a very small percentage are gay or bi men.
Think about it: Just say, for argument's sake, that 5% of people are gay or bi. That means that only 2.5% of the people you meet are men available to you.
That's not a very big number, so don't get discouraged. Especially since you're still in high school, where there is still quite a stigma attached to homosexuality.
2006-08-11 05:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by Wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 16 there are still not a lot of open gays and bis, esp males. And those who are tend to be gay and want to date gay. Don't worry about finding a man, one will eventually stumble on to you :) Tell your friends you're looking for a nice boy and maybe they'll meet someone you'll like.
Good luck.
2006-08-11 05:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 09:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by winstanley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a serious dilemma!
2006-08-11 05:05:31 · answer #6 · answered by kate lee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DONT KNOW , MAYBE YOU ARE LOOKING IN ALL THE WRONG PLACES...
2006-08-11 05:04:49 · answer #7 · answered by MARY B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋