I've been dating this guy and we decided to take our relationship to a new level and commit to each other. We stopped seeing other people. The day we decided to do that he offered to tell me about his previous relationships but I said I'm not interested. I dont know anything about his past and I really wasn't interested in hearing break up stories that day. I thought it would be nicer if stories like that came up naturally in a normal convo and I think I'll eventually know about his past as time goes by.
All my friends tell me it was very stupid of me to say so and that I should've asked him myself. Was it stupid of me? Is there sth I should be worried about now? They're worrying me!
2006-08-11 04:51:38 · 13 answers · asked by I Am Jack's Wasted Life 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
stop over analizing.
2006-08-11 04:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by Kim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you guys get along now there's no reason to pressure someone into revealing their past. Everyone has skeletons in their closet. When the time is right and trust is built up these will be revealed naturally. Its good that he's so open about his past and isn't scared to share it with you, but you need to be sure you're ready to hear it and can handle the things that may come up.
2006-08-11 05:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by Big Thinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing. by knowing about his past you will become jealous inside whether you act on it or not. if something comes up that he mentioned like a restaurant they went to or a fond memory of his a certain place you will probably become subconsciously irritable and jealous. come on now we are girls and we just do that kind of thing whether we mean to or not. why put yourself through that? he is with you now. this is a blank canvas for you also. you can start over and be how you really want to be in a relationship because he doesn't know your past either or things you might have done that you regret. i say you are right and just let it come out in regular conversation, that is very mature of you.... don't listen to your friends on this one. they probably just want to hear from you about his past....
2006-08-11 05:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by shortnsweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 04:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it was stupid of you to say you didn't want to know. You are right when you say that you will eventually know about his past if this is the guy for you. Listen to your own heart--you made a decision that was right for you.
2006-08-11 04:56:52 · answer #5 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past is gone but can U be sure he had erased all those memories off his head?Some ppl I knew can't!Well,like they said trust is important in any relationship.Good Luck.
2006-08-11 04:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by me_imah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No reasons to worry.
You are perfectly right - and are doing what you feel is correct. That is all what matters.
Go with your inner self. Do what it tells you. Friends may come and go, but your inner self is going to be with till your very last breath.
2006-08-11 04:56:55 · answer #7 · answered by bagsprosh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were not wrong even though he was willing to tell you that day you 2 had just commited to each other so you should wait a while or bring it back up once your ready to hear everything.
2006-08-11 04:56:55 · answer #8 · answered by lasondraperry-graham 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have shown more interest. This was your opportunity for asking questions. Now he might not open up to you and you may never know anything about his past.
2006-08-11 04:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by mumtaz 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the past is the past, the future is now, the two of you, you will learn about eachother over time.
2006-08-11 04:59:58 · answer #10 · answered by smpnmpa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow what your heart tells you; and stop worrying! Good luck!
2006-08-11 04:56:12 · answer #11 · answered by lady_jenna802 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋