How does a person let go of a relationship that she knows is bound to fail?

Question

7 years with same man. Drug and alcoholic. Has nothing, dosen't aknowledge his own son and has abused me mentally and physically before but I can't stop thinking about him and loving him. Please help my phycotic thinking.

Answer 1

I lived with an alcoholic for 5 years before enough was enough. I came home and he had cut all the wires in the electrical box except for the fridge. He needed that for his beer. Once he finished his beer though he cut that wire too. It was my house and we had had a fight. Anyways I called one of his friends to come take him away. While waiting, I took my motorcycle down the road to hide it and while walking back to get my car he was busy breaking the windows on it. I called the cops and they showed up before his friend did. Anyways it has been 7 years and all I can say is "what was I thinking?!!" Life without him has been wonderful!! Good luck to you...remember life can be good again if you give yourself that chance.

Answer 2

I was with a drug addict for 6 years and it didn't get really bad until the last year. We didn't have any kids together, but we were supposed to get married and he called it off. I finally got up the courage to leave him, because it wasn't good for me and if he was going to get help, he needed to do it on his own. We've been apart for almost 2 years now. I'm with someone else, but I still love him and worry about him. He's clean now and I'm so proud of him. You need to understand he has a disease and he needs help. The only way this help will work is if he is willing to make it work.

Answer 3

i had a man that wasnt good for me and i kept thinking of him. im working on my self esteem right now. theres no way you can continue to love a guy like that . so work on you and let it go . its hard but eventually you will have to leave.