What determines how much you spend on an egagement ring?

Question

My boyfriend has been hinting around about a ring. He doesn't have one yet, but he has been asking me what type of style I like.

He really doesn't know anything about diamonds or jewlery and most importantly has no idea how much diamond engagement rings go for.

I have fairly expensive taste in almost everything, most of the time without even realizing it. I don't want him to feel overwelmed with the price, but I still would like to have something I really like.

I know that for a long time people would calculate this price based upon salary. What is the custom now?

Answer 1

although, you want something you are going to like. your boyfriend is going to pick out something that best represents the love that the 2 of you have and share. the cost of the ring shouldn't matter at all (that is materialistic). what should matter is that your love is priceless, and the ring is just a symbol of it.

Answer 2

I do not believe the % of income or two/three months salary. Bottom line, the guy should get something he likes for his gal and what he can afford. If a woman is going to be so caught up in the value of the symbol of their love, why would a guy want to marry her anyway? On that note, if he wants a screaming deal on a great ring, I got one. She threw it at me during a fight and I never gave it back! I ended up kicking her to the curb too. Money is a cause of so many problems in a relationship and if it begins before the marriage, there is a good chance it will get worse once married. Therefore, he spends what he can afford ONLY. No financing....PAY WITH CASH!!!

Answer 3

People say 2 months salary but if you have a tight budget is hard.
I rings range from 1,000 to 10,000 and up.
If you would like a nice ring and are not super picky- they BJ wholesale, I might get my wedding band there. They have great rings that are close outs from other stores and sell for 1/4 of the price. You can get a 1 carat for like 1,000 to 1,400 dollars.
Also if you want a bigger ring- get a lower clarity and a good color.
You should both go look at rings and see what you like, what he can afford and what you can live with. I really wanted an emerald cut but it was soo far out of his budget! I settle on an 1 carat oval cut with a lower clarity and I love it!

Answer 4

I think the normal is about 2 months salary. But if you really love your boyfriend then it shouldn't matter what kind or ring he gets you. The most important thing is that you love each other and he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.

If he gets you a ring that isn't EXACTLY what you wanted then don't be disappointed and don't tell him its not what you wanted. I'd love to have a 4 carat diamond on my finger but that's not the case. Its not the size of the diamond its the feelings and the good intentions that come with it.

You don't want him to go broke trying to accommodate your expensive taste. Plus you can always up-grade later.

Answer 5

I would suggest going to look at rings together...you can look at the styles you like...he can look at the prices...Of course, most girls want some big fancy ring, I am not that type of girl...my ring is average and it was bought based on what I liked when we went looking and what we could afford at the time...when we were engaged..we were both going to college...and just had a lot of bills to pay! Of course, you deserve to have something nice, but I think that the ring is just a symbol of love, it is not the actually love...As an example, a girl could have a 2 carat ring on her finger and be miserable in her marriage...So just make sure that it is something he can reasonably afford over a period of time, it is something that you like...and even more importantly..make sure that you know that your love is what carries you through you marriage, not the ring aka rock on your finger...best wishes to you.

Answer 6

It's how much the fiance wants to spend on the ring. There's nothing wrong with him knowing the style you prefer, but he can always get one more expensive or cheaper. Since you declare you have "fairly expensive taste", if you get the urge for pricey jewellery, buy yourself something nice.

Answer 7

I have expensive taste, too, which led me to persuade my first husband to sell his car in order to buy me a big ring that I picked out ("had to have it"). The marriage was miserable, we are divorced, and I actually lost the ring in a boating accident. My current husband surprised me with by proposing with a "cocktail" ring that is unusual and was inexpensive. At first, I was a little uneasy about the ring, but our marriage is so wonderful that I absolutely love it now and I love that he picked it out on his own just for me. Good luck and try to remember what's truly important!

Answer 8

Please research conflict diamonds before you buy anything. It is a serious issue.

check greenkarat.com for recycled gold rings and relishstyle.com for glass rings and other unique substances.

You can even getengaged without a ring. It's not required. Our entire wedding budget is what some other people spent on their engagement ring alone! You have to have priorities.

Answer 9

it depends on what he can afford. If he has money saved then great, but if not then he will have to finance and when you get married this debt becomes your debt to. Dont listen to the girls who say a small diamond is unacceptable. The fact that he gets you anything is a sign of love, dont make it about the money.

Answer 10

He should by a ring he likes for you and you shouldnt worry one bit about what it costs because really, its none of your business. I'm not trying to sound rude, but its that he loves you, not what he can spend on your ring so let him pick what he likes and can afford.