My boyfriend came over and of course we had incredible sex. Two minutes after he told me that it was his 30th wedding aniversary. I immediately asked him to leave, but I can't get over the fact that I love him and want to still be with him. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
2006-08-11 04:31:17 · 19 answers · asked by katherine t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is he still going to give you incrediable sex???
How offten??
Do him for a while then you dump him!!!
2006-08-11 04:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
How did you get tangled up with a guy who you found out that was on his 30th Wedding Anniversary? If it were me I would have been asking lots of questions before getting intimate with someone I hardly even knew. I think the way you feel about this guy and what happened between you and him, it hard to give straight answer of right or wrong about feeling a certain, it is how you truly feel.
2006-08-11 11:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to have feelings of love for him, but it is wrong to keep seeing him. You can't help emotions, they do occur, BUT that doesn't mean you should always act on them.
In a nutshell, he's cheating on his wife with you. What makes you think that he won't cheat on you? I know of one situation where a guy was cheating on his wife and his "girlfriend" thought that she was the only one. She later found out he had a third mistress.
You must have been with him for a while and you fell in love with him, BUT is that reason to still be with him? How would you feel if you were married and found out your husband was having an affair and then found out his mistress knew he was married and still wanted to keep the affair? Doing the right this is very hard, but it is the right thing.
The bottom line is you deserve someone that is going to love you and be faithful to you. If he can't give his heart and body wholly to you, then he isn't good enough for you. Plus, like I said, he has shown that he is a cheater. If he left his wife for you, what guarantee do you have he won't cheat on you when he gets bored?
Save yourself the heartache and frustration and potential drama if you continue to see him. You love him, so be it, but you need to let him go and find someone that thinks the sun and moon rise and set on you. Don't settle for anything other then the best for you.
2006-08-11 11:42:50 · answer #3 · answered by 4XTrader 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What!!! You had no idea about him being married? I would be equally pissed sweetheart but hell if you think he will get a divorce and stay with you then stay with him and especially if you love him that much. But if he seems to be the kind that just likes to cheat and that his real love is his wife then **** him you can find much better guys out there, don't feel bad and don't cry over that cheating bastard!!! Hey and don't fall for those lines, but the kids, oh I just can't leave, ohhh we aren't having sex anymore...Take it easy and WHATCH IT NOW
2006-08-11 11:37:32 · answer #4 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him, u desrve better then him. He's already got a family and a life, u need to sit down and think what you want out of urs. Your not wrong for feeling that way, but don't act on ur feelings. It will be hard, u should have one of ur friends come over and have a girls night out. if u need someone to talk to IM or e-mail me good luck
2006-08-11 11:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by jojo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you were wrong at all for kicking him out. Those feeling aren't at all bad to have - you were played (regretably) but you and him did share something and that itself does build feelings. As a woman to a man - yes there is basic love, but not trust.
Give it time and those feelings will pass. find yourself a honest man who will respect you enough to tell you from the first minute if there is another woman, etc.
2006-08-11 11:37:10 · answer #6 · answered by Faile 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feeling are just feelings not right or wrong, good or bad. You can get over him, you just have to be willing to look at the whole picture.
If I was dating someone who did that to me (What a cheap shot!) I would not want him in my life because he has no scrupples.
I wonder if he told his wife about you and then bragged about what he had done for their anniversary...............hummmmmmm.
2006-08-11 11:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by Madeamove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you tell him happy anniversary??
No it is not wrong to feel that way, but you will get over it. Just imagine him doing someone else on your 30th anniversary.
2006-08-11 11:35:44 · answer #8 · answered by happygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of that dog, he will do the same thing to you maybe 30 years from now? Whats to love about a man that would do that to you, ask yourself that question aren't you better than that?
2006-08-11 11:35:35 · answer #9 · answered by robertbickelsr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad.
Don't fall in love with him.
Make him crawl to you and live your life like any normal un-married woman.
Swim in your naughtiness and spank yourself because you are a mistress now.
You were never wrong nor were you right.
You simply are.
Pinch your nipples and sway your hips.
You are a temptress now....
Get used to being bored with him and find yourself another married man.
2006-08-11 11:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you deserve a man of your own. You shouldn't have to share his love with someone else. Your to good for that. Your deserve to have a man that only loves you, that will be there when you need him, someone of your own.
You deserve no less!!!
2006-08-11 11:39:07 · answer #11 · answered by captianpr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋